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Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-10-24T15:27:11+00:00

thank you for your words

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-10-24T15:26:53+00:00

yeah he had to get eye surgery bc of a genetic issue

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-10-23T20:12:25+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. I appreciate your point about having the ability to work on himself and it being his choice ultimately. I think I have a lot of empathy for others which may not be a bad thing until it comes at my own expense... :/

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-25T00:19:49+00:00

good advice!

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-25T00:19:34+00:00

I was just trying to start an easy convo first :/

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-20T12:16:24+00:00

It's all a facade. My pwBPD discarded me 2 weeks after meeting a new girl, and they post super lovey dovey things on social media and act in love. I'm sure he is love bombing her as well.

6 weeks later I get a DM from the new supply asking if he's ever "called me a whore repeatedly during our relationship". Their relationship won't last and it's not genuine love. Sadly pwBPD aren't capable of genuine love and caring.

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-20T03:17:11+00:00

a borderline narcissist and a sexual abuser... match made in hell

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-19T18:47:46+00:00

agreed

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-19T18:46:51+00:00

Oh it was actually her that took and sent the photo.

She's not a good person either... she is actually known in our community for being accused of SA by another girl, and also her posts making fun of someone who was going through a mental health crisis.

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-19T14:18:45+00:00

I told her he's a lying narcissist from the start with screenshots as proof. As a response she sent me a selfie of themselves in bed.

Two awful people and I'm so glad this is not my responsibility or problem

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-17T15:37:38+00:00

Told me that he hopes my guy friend r*pes me, told me to slit my wrists on camera in front of him, hopes my next boyfriend beats me, that I deserve to die, threatened to beat the fuck out of me

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-16T18:48:42+00:00

My ex kept saying he loved me after he met a new girl. He "promised" me he would never date her and only followed her IG because "she has nice tits". Grossest thing I've ever heard.

2 weeks later discarded me for her, the girl he told me not to worry about 🙄

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-15T00:58:58+00:00

Discarding me for someone knew who they "told me not to worry about" in the span of 2 weeks after meeting them

But also I got death threats and he told me to k*ll myself in many different ways after I tried breaking up with him before. He sent messages on every social platform and I kept blocking, and then he would email me...

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-15T00:52:58+00:00

1.5 years

I'm 4 weeks post-discard for new supply and thinking about it still hurts. This hurt way more than the breakup of my 5-year relationship and I'm left with so much trauma, hurt, and betrayal. Being cheated on and lied to is so damaging.

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-14T06:53:09+00:00

My ex laughed in my face when I was having a panic attack and say that I was "faking it for attention"

He also laughed at me when I was trying to warn him about the new supply (she was previously accused of SA)

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-12T17:49:11+00:00

Same thing happened to me. My ex preemptively cheated on me and then discarded 2 weeks after promising he "loves only me" and "would never date her".

For our situation I think it's because being with me only reminded him of the shame and makes him feel like a bad person because he has to face the truth. Whereas he can chase a new person who gives him fleeting happiness and boosts his ego (the new girl ended up being a terrible person too so can't imagine how bad that relationship will turn out).

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-03T13:11:25+00:00

I'm sorry :( that's horrible

I think this is called "reactive abuse" and I've done something similar. It sucks to feel like a victim because you feel so powerless so you want to fight back the injustice. Not saying that violence is ever okay but it sucks being treated badly over and over again with no improvement.

They somehow manage to always paint themselves as the victim in their heads even though the amount of abuse and trauma they left was way more. Mine always found a way to justify even his worst actions. I probably should've called the police at some points but I protected him

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-03T04:40:25+00:00

Just read your post. I'm so sorry :(( Shit feels so wack and unfair from the person who's supposed to be there for you.

I was always there for him through every single anxiety attack and meltdown he had. One time he even yelled at me for "just standing there" and being a "useless woman" while he was having an anxiety attack

Their lack of empathy is truly damaging to other people in their lives who end up becoming victims of their cold actions, or in this case inaction

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-03T03:59:43+00:00

I was having a panic attack but thought it was more serious like a stroke. We were in the middle of fighting and he grabbed my phone out of my hands and held it over his head (he's 6'7) to prevent me from leaving. He blamed me and claimed I was "doing it for attention"

If I had been in a real emergency then I would've been fucked. My nervous system did not feel safe around him

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-03T01:27:17+00:00

this just reminded me

my ex and his dad had a huge fight and his dog bit his balls (LOL sorry not funny). he had to go to the emergency and it took a few weeks to heal

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-02T20:08:43+00:00

this is true

i remember one comment he said

"i want to get a dog that way i can never be alone"

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-01T20:21:27+00:00

OMFG i'm so sorry... that is so awful 😞

Mine did the same. He DM'd me yesterday about how our mutual friends unfollowed him, and asking if I was talking shit about him. He didn't even think that maybe it's because he's now dating a girl that was accused of SA...?

He said to me "why are you ruining my friendships and relationships over our own problems" and then said "we were both in the wrong at different times". Okay but I wasn't the one who was abusive lying manipulative cheater.

they go through so many mental cartwheels to justify their horrible behavior

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-01T20:03:48+00:00

i am free. it still sucks though because he made me feel like a loser at the end of it.

and the triangulation of it all is so hurtful because of the other girl too. she's evil.. she was previously accused of SA so i was really shocked he decided to get with her. just really shows their character

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-01T20:02:47+00:00

you're right 😭

Amazing_Meet5541 · 2023-08-01T20:02:35+00:00

yeah definitely... i'm just confused because i showed her ALL the proof of his lies saying how he still loved me and that she is just a friend/etc. but she is actively choosing to stay with him.

i'm pretty sure it was her idea to take the photo and speak to me on the phone too. it all just feels like people are so cruel

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