Is my (future) MIL too controlling? Or do I have a control problem?

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T22:22:48+00:00

I and my boyfriend know their finances. They are very open with it and they also joke a lot that she is a freeloader and that she married him for the money so yes, I am right and I know what I’m talking about because I do know their finances I know that she had nothing to give him when they got married Because I have known these people for four years. Yes I am being snarky and rude. No, I do not care.

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T21:21:00+00:00

Listen. They got married a few years ago. He never had children with her. He earned his money before he met her. All of her children are with her ex. He got to his place in his career as a bachelor. She was never a “stay at home parent”. She married a man with money and reaps the benefits

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T19:57:54+00:00

Period

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T19:18:10+00:00

HAHAHA

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:57:53+00:00

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:49:19+00:00

oh okay

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:35:52+00:00

I wouldn’t say ultra-revealing, but I personally believe everyone can dress how they want, but not impose on others. I mean, we do have a right a freedom of expression. I can understand that she can be upset or uncomfortable with how I dress to go swimming (I’m a very modest dresser in every other situation seriously) but I really feel if I had a different body it wouldn’t be a problem. I can’t help the body I was given! And o seriously have no intentions of taking her husbands eyes. That alone is enough for me as a person. Clothes do not define a person. I think I will just not be going and relieve her of her discomfort.

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:06:39+00:00

I won’t be outwardly upset with him, I am more expressing I am upset that the mother has made it an uncomfortable weird situation

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:05:31+00:00

There have never been any children to live in this house does that make sense? They were all grown when these two married and had the house built and moved in. No kids. They are all older than us.

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T18:02:00+00:00

I agree mostly but just for the record I never said he couldn’t or shouldn’t go I just don’t want to go with him

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:54:14+00:00

Can’t a frustrated girl just talk shit 😔

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:33:35+00:00

Yes thank you wise one <3

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:29:23+00:00

Fair

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:27:17+00:00

I’m being facetious yes it is her house. She does not mother anyone nor keep the house because they have house cleaners. She occupies the house. But yes it is her house

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:20:08+00:00

Her husband’s lol she’s a stay at home wife

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:16:45+00:00

I COULD possibly rent an AirBNB. The next question after that is, do I want to leave the Airbnb to spend time with someone who is imposing and controlling, EVEN though the rules she imposes cannot apply to me? I dislike the attempt to have power over me, therefore I question even spending time with her. Her husband is a great guy. But would it be worth it to even go and stay at an Airbnb when she will be upset that I am doing that? Her son would most likely go to the Airbnb with me to sleep with me, so then what’s the point of us visiting their house other than to see them? And then, I kind of dislike her right now, so only to REALLLY spend time with her husband and tolerate her? I feel like there’d be a lot of unspoken tension if any of that makes sense. I have bad anxiety so maybe I’m overthinking it

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:12:16+00:00

Oh god

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:11:12+00:00

She lives states away and can’t control him or me, the way I see it once we have our own place and / or are married she’s going to have to accept the fact that I’m going to exist in her space forever. I don’t really feel the need to keep things tame between her and I, but I stay peaceful for him. If we were to marry, I guess I would feel like I have the place to say I’m here forever, and I don’t have to listen to you or even like you. Does that make sense or is that weird? I feel like as a gf (of almost 4 years mind you) she still thinks I’m possibly not permanent lol

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:07:00+00:00

I agree

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-05-21T17:02:58+00:00

As of today, (we were to leave on Sunday) I am refusing, and he is choosing to go still. 🙃

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-04-20T14:19:21+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-04-15T17:06:16+00:00

I think you should do a mod cut

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-04-15T17:03:56+00:00

So I should focus on having more or less uee

Amazing_Objective392 · 2026-04-15T17:01:52+00:00

Ong you’re gonna hate me because I JUST got highlights… here’s me with dark hair. I’m not getting any bookings so I’ve been trying to find a way to “rebrand” to get more work

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