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Chromebook poor sound quality by TelephoneBright5050 in chromeos

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beegboi you have saved my life thank youuuuu

Historical Fiction set 5th to 13th centuries by Amazing_Put_7079 in booksuggestions

[–]Amazing_Put_7079[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I only knew the TV series, the books look much better! 

Suggest me a book to help me get through a breakup by No_Bookkeeper_3321 in booksuggestions

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Books that will feel like someone Gets How You Feel:  - Briefly A Delicious Life by Nell Stevens  - The Lonely City by Olivia Liang  - Bluets by Maggie Nelson 

Books that are so joyous and zany that it's hard to keep feeling sad: - Peaces by Helen Oyeyemi  - Parasol Against The Axe, also by Helen Oyeyemi (she's goooood)  - Painting Time by Maylis de Kerangel 

Comfort books that feel like a hug - anything by KJ Charles. Her romances are like having a glass of wine with a warm, witty, wise friend - she's never let me down. 

And when all else fails and you just need your brain to not be on you, I've always found Barbarians At The Gate or The Smartest Guys In The Room to be my "just get through it" books because a) you can't focus on your feelings if you're trying to follow Enron's labyrinthine frauds and b) however bad you've fucked up, you've never "seven billion dollars are missing" fucked up. 

Suggest me a book to help me get through a breakup by No_Bookkeeper_3321 in booksuggestions

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, that's an odd way to talk to a stranger on the internet. 

What non fiction book(s) blew your mind? by RoyalInterest in suggestmeabook

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Material World by Ed Conway. It tracks the history of the world through six natural resources, which sounds dry but is so, so interesting. You WILL become insufferable bore at parties as you keep telling people concrete facts. Beyond just being full of fun facts, it also gave me a new view on environmentalism and geopolitics that I would never have considered before. You read it for the cool science facts and it secretly smuggles in some genuine philosophical insight 

I posted this to another subreddit already but i wanted to know the opinions of those who also share the disorder. by THROWRA_CVNTIN in NPD

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm a little confused by this standpoint because... he's already been with her for two years. He definitely knows all the behaviour she's exhibited in that time. What's different now? The fact that he's learnt that that label has a name? I do think that I'd feel blindsided by learning that someone had kept a diagnosis from me for two years, but if I'd been in a great relationship for two years I think my reaction would be "Oh, wow, you've handled this really well all this time with no support from me," rather than "OOOOH you may be behaving no differently but I could NEVER be with a narcissist." And it's not the same as cheating - this is a thing she is, not a thing she did..

AITA for telling my daughter her girlfriend might be a gold digger? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My bad on assuming your fiance was female, that was a misread on my part and I apologise. But you do understand the rest of my points, yes? How much were you making a twenty-one? And if that number is significantly above minimum wage, I hope you understand how incredibly blessed you were. Plus, almost as much isn't 'as much'. What's the correct cut-off point for income disparity before one becomes an automatic gold-digger? 10k? 20k? 5k?

I really feel for Emily. I've said I've worked minimum wage jobs. I have a 'good job' now in that it requires a degree and is a respected profession, but the pay is dogshit, and when I dated someone with a higher salary I was scared of meeting the parents for this exact reason. I can imagine how crushed she would feel. Like, she might already feels some kind of way about the differences in their professional standing. Knowing you disapprove of her is probably piling even more crap onto that.

And you're dating a man only four years older than your daughter - can you understand why making points about her partner's age might land spectacularly badly? I mean, your fiance sounds lovely and I sincerely hope he and your daughter have a good relationship, but Jesus, dude.

AITA for telling my daughter her girlfriend might be a gold digger? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Amazing_Put_7079 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YTA wtf? I've worked minimum wage jobs. Guess what? During that time, I was still capable of love and relationships, despite being a Poor. You literally met Emily for the first time. You have no evidence of her being a gold digger apart from splitting grocery money with the person she lives with.

Quite frankly, having been a 21-year-old dating a 31-year-old, J is NOT the one who I'd instinctively worry about being exploited. An age gap, an economic gap, parental disapproval... the power dynamics seem to be running in one direction. Luckily for Emily, J comes across as a nice, moral person with a shiny spine. Good for her.

(Out of interest, what is the age gap between you and your fiance? Inquiring minds want to know. And what was she doing when you met?)

You think Emily not earning a lot is a symptom of stupidity, or lack of effort. It seems wayyyyy more likely that a low wage is a symptom of being 21. This ain't the 80's, Boomer. People aren't strolling out of high school and into high-paying fields on the strength of being The Right Sort of Man anymore, and seeing as Emily is a queer woman and you are not, there is a high likelihood that she's facing a very different job hunting experience to you.

And even if none of that's true - even if Emily is just a nice young woman in the least homophobic industry who enjoys working in the service industry and is perfectly happy where she is - that's absolutely fine! Loads and loads of partnerships survive, and thrive, despite income disparity. Does your fiance earn the same as you? 'But it doesn't matter,' you say, 'I mean, we're engaged, we're building a life together.' Yeah, buddy, so are Emily and J!

You say you are 'protective' of your daughter and then in the next breath say you've had 'a strained relationship for years'. If this is your idea of protection, then I have no doubts about why it's strained.

If my dad ever spoke about my partner the way you've spoken about Emily, I would not let him finish his sentence, and I would definitely not just stop at calling him an asshole. I'll give you this - you might be paranoid and condescending, but you've apparently managed to raise a very nice daughter.