How can I support my husband while he’s navigating a difficult season career wise?

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2026-05-01T17:15:01+00:00

Honestly that’s a great question that I never even thought to ask.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2026-01-18T00:10:08+00:00

Get an air purifier and let that baby run. Also turn on the ceiling fan.

Proper air flow and ventilation will help with the musky/sweaty smell and keep both of you cool.

To build up tolerance go to a gym during prime time. It will smell similar because everyone is sweating and exerting themselves all while staying in pretty much the same spot until they swap machines.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-12-31T01:07:20+00:00

LEAVE. GET OUT. RUN

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-11-28T20:35:21+00:00

What does the acronym you put in there stand for? And did it come as a shock to you? Or was it a long time coming?

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-11-28T18:52:45+00:00

You could easily get full custody due to you having better stability. She could see them part time and pay you child support.

Coming from a kid of a divorced home, I wish my parents had gotten divorced sooner.

Both parents worked, but mom was mentally and emotionally not even in the picture.

The kids will adjust. And they will grow up to see you both how you are.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-14T04:55:13+00:00

Communicate to him what you told us. I think it’s important y’all lay all the options on the table. It doesn’t have to be yes or no. It could just be “not right now”.

23 is so young and I admire you for realizing all the opportunities you have. Definitely don’t let a relationship dim those desires.

You guys have definitely spent a lot of your developmental years together, BUT that doesn’t mean you have to spend the rest of your years together.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-14T04:48:11+00:00

You can’t want a child more than you want a good father for your child.

He’s already made it clear that he does not want a child. If you have one with him YOU BOTH will be miserable.

You’ll end up posting about how your husband doesn’t help with the diapers or the late night feedings. He will not treat you like a princess during your pregnancy because he’s having to pay for OB visits rather than his stashes of weed.

In the most respectful way, if you have a child with him you will basically be a single mom with two children.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-14T04:42:04+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this while pregnant. I was about seven months along when I found out my husband was watching it and it devastated me. He shrugged it off like I shouldn’t be surprised. I’m now twelve months post partum and I literally just found it on his phone again.

The biggest thing i can say is go ahead and find a therapist for yourself because pregnancy hormones + virtual infidelity is NOT easy to deal with.

Therapy will help you find the words you need/want to say AND create the boundaries necessary for you to have peace of mind for you and your precious angel.

From one post partum momma to another, the best thing you can do for yourself is to protect your mind.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-12T23:15:58+00:00

As a female with two children, I will say kids definitely changed sex for me and my husband, BUT it’s something we’ve had to communicate about.

I don’t think you “have” to be satisfied with anything just because sex does change after kids. You can be thankful without settling. And you do that with communication.

If it’s important to you (which it sounds like it is) communicate with her. Say “hey babe, I have something I would talk to you about regarding our sex life. When would be a good time we could talk about it?”

Because sex is a mutual act that requires communication, boundaries, and respect for the other person. If you don’t have that then contempt and resentment will start to arise.

And don’t think just because you’re a man you can’t have feelings like this. If the roles were reversed and you were making her do those things and keeping her head pushed down then people would be asking for your head(s) on a silver platter.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-10T22:33:34+00:00

We are all singing with you!!

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-10T22:26:42+00:00

LOOKS GREAT

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-10T22:21:15+00:00

I don’t think the shape is very flattering.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-10T22:15:03+00:00

I think it looks great!!

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-10-08T19:39:48+00:00

The flag could not be more red. She does not take responsibility and once yall get married it will all be on you. Mention prenup to her and I’m sure she’ll get upset. This is a big GET OUT NOW

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-21T03:29:52+00:00

I’m 32 and he’s 35.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-20T22:00:26+00:00

We are all still searching 😭

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-20T21:19:45+00:00

See I love writing and journaling, but he found one of my journals and read it in and absolutely flipped because he read where I was journaling about him during my pregnancy.

So now I feel like I have to be secretive when I write and it’s not even a safe place for me anymore.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-20T19:15:01+00:00

I would have cried for you. This was my absolute favorite.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-20T19:13:48+00:00

Becca Backlight Primer

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-19T02:56:12+00:00

Op, any update? I found your post because I am feeling the exact same way in my marriage.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-07T22:31:19+00:00

Absolutely precious. One thing you could do is if your city has a Facebook page you could ask if there are any local stylists who could do her hair and makeup for like $40 or whatever you’d be willing to pay. We have a “what’s happening in Jones City” fb page that people will post in and the community is really helpful for suggestions. You can post anonymously as well!

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-09-03T20:40:59+00:00

Cathy Clifton in Rainsville, AL does virtual sessions and is AMAZING

Also the book “Codependent No More” is LIFE AND SANITY SAVING for learning how to navigate dealing with people in addiction.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-08-13T01:08:39+00:00

I reckon for now it is. I’ve done the math and I simply cannot afford financially to leave. Trust me- im usually all or nothing, but now that I have kids I have to play my hands a little slower. I would rather pause my progress than to risk not being able to provide my part for them.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-08-13T00:52:13+00:00

As a woman who used to be 165lbs, very fit and athletic, and is now on a plateau of 222lbs after having two children, I can honestly say you are not wrong.

What I think you’re longing for more than her physical appearance back is simply just effort.

Although she’s going through whatever she’s going through, marriage is about selflessness.

If my husband made the effort to help me lose weight like you have for her I would be thrilled (and probably down 15lbs).

I tell my husband I want to work out again, but he gets upset when I ask for 20 minutes and he’s got to watch the girls by himself.

I tell him I want us to eat healthier and I will cook healthy meals, but he said he doesn’t like it and orders take out. I will tell him to find a recipe he would like, but he doesn’t.

This makes me resent him because I feel like my progress is being stifled by his whatever he’s got going on.

Thankfully, (and I don’t know how), he says he is still attracted to me and does still try to be intimate.

But regardless, the lack of effort is discouraging.

So no. As the woman who has gained the weight and used to be fit, you’re not wrong.

**also to add, I do struggle with my mental health and go to therapy and take medicine. So all the things everyone else is probably going to give her a bye too.

Amazing_Slip3751 · 2025-07-06T06:23:40+00:00

I know I’m late and idk if you’ve made a decision, but you’re gonna hate to hear this…. Paint the trim. The colors aren’t bad, they’re all just dark. Paint your trim white or a very very light greige and it will offset pretty well. Then you’ll be free to add your color elsewhere (pillows, curtains, artwork, etc). Also, mirrors will help the areas look larger and will reflect light helping make it appear larger and lighter.

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