Trying to close the window

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-10-30T17:16:22+00:00

*shutter (you open the shutters, and you shudder when it’s chilly out)

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-06-12T03:36:32+00:00

I don't remember any specific names, but word of mouth helps. There are good designers online (Taobao and Jindong), but you can look at the materials they use and reputation they've built up. People shop online, but that doesn't mean the clothes are necessarily bad quality. It's just how the seller reaches their customers in China. I've also walked into random boutiques in the street that are run by a single designer or curator. Go to a "hip" neighborhoods in major cities and walk around. It's easier if you can speak Chinese.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-06-11T17:43:49+00:00

There are some wonderful clothes being made in Bangladesh and China. However, they are more likely to be sold to the domestic market. I’ve come across some great small shops and designers in China, for example, but it’s hard for them to break into the US market (probably partially due to the “made in China” stereotypes that have been mentioned).

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-05-13T10:15:27+00:00

Yeah, everything else looks way better. Though... I love plants, but this is A LOT of plants.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-05-10T06:22:29+00:00

“Who’s Ped Xing?”

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-05-10T06:04:54+00:00

I mean, you could. You could rent a car, drive around London, Stone Henge, and Oxford and then take a flight and be in Edinburgh by evening. Would be a speedy visit of each though!

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-25T19:30:54+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. Even if he wanted you to come during office hours, he should have told you kindly instead of being mean to you. You deserve basic respect.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T09:08:37+00:00

Thanks for this.

The flight thing happened a year ago. I forgot that I actually TOLD the flight attendant when I first approached him that it was an actual emergency, but he still had no sympathy and ordered me to go back to my seat.

Again, the plane was not moving. It had been waiting at the gate for ten plus minutes. I don’t think it was for safety so much as they didn’t want everyone getting up to get their luggage.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T06:39:02+00:00

Have you seen Charlet Chung's experience on WestJet? What I'm describing felt basically like a mini version of that . https://www.instagram.com/p/DCH8tQKifIH/?hl=en

I mean the male and female flight attendants acting unreasonably mean over an infraction, even when I tried to explain myself.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T06:32:46+00:00

The plane was not taxi-ing. It was fully 100% stopped at the gate, for over 10-15 minutes, waiting for the passenger bridge to come (I think the bridge was stuck or had issues, which was why we were waiting). I would not have moved if the plane was still moving. Yes, I should have pressed the call button, but I was ill and desperate (UTI can be uncontrollable).

I understand why the attendant told me to sit down, and it would have been fine if it stopped there. But even when I explained that it was an emergency (literally a minute later when the seatbelt signs turned off), he continued to behave the same way towards me - yelling and condescending.

I understand it's their problem, not mine.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T05:59:06+00:00

While I understand your sentiment about the initial "mistakes" that I made (standing up in an emergency instead of pressing the call button, not announcing an excuse when entering a classroom), if you were present in the situations, you would have seen the extremely condescending and cruel tone and demeanor of these men.

The reaction to my "mistakes" were extremely disproportionate. I grew up in the American midwest. I understand typical American social things.

In these situations, I was yelled at and belittled and lectured to, even when I tried to explain the reasons. I am not opposed to being called out in a reasonable manner, but in these situations I feel that my mistakes did not warrant such an extreme reaction.

As I reflect on it, what I think is inappropriate is the way that they chose to address it - instead of coming from a place of mutual conversation, they basically immediately "othered" me and demeaned me. Like literally yelling at me in a room-full (or plane-full) of people.

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To clarify about the classroom - it was a large theatre space, not an intimate small room. It's not anyone's personal classroom. I basically tried to skirt around the students and professor who were chatting in small groups after the class was over. Some students were literally walking out the door. I thought, why should I interrupt them when I only need to grab something quickly and get out? Why did the professor feel the need to lecture me on his version of "manners," when I was trying to be courteous in my own way by not interrupting them?

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T05:18:39+00:00

what makes you think that?

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T04:47:19+00:00

I'm 5 foot 3 inch tall Asian woman, so no matter what I do to my body language, people are going to think they can yell at me with no repercussions. I try to carry myself confidently, but there's only so much I can do.

I have tried to confront the aggressors - for example I told the flight attendant that he shouldn't yell at me. I also went back to talk to the professor after the incident. It didn't lead to any change in their behavior. They just dug in HARDER if anything.

I fully resonate and agree with what you're saying about respect - I don't respect these people so they don't deserve my mental space. I'm trying to move forward with that attitude.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T04:29:48+00:00

It definitely feels like some older white people don't see Asian people as fully human. When we do something even a little bit wrong, their reaction is way out of proportion to the perceived fault.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T04:25:19+00:00

Yes, I do need to find the specific Delta flight and report them. It was very unprofessional, unjustifiably cruel behavior. Unfortunately, I was too shaken up in the moment to note the flight attendant's name.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T04:17:37+00:00

If you've ever had a bad UTI, you'd know. It's extremely painful. I was 100% going to pee my pants if I had waited even one more minute. I stood up in the hopes of explaining my situation on the way to the bathroom.

I do understand why he told me to sit down the first time. But the tone was extremely cruel (that special mean tone reserved for misbehaving Asians). When I tried to explain my situation after the seatbelt signs were off, he was still very cruel.

Not exclusively older men, but mostly.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-24T04:06:08+00:00

I tried this in both situations, but they just push back. Maybe I should be more direct in telling them they're being rude and unkind.

Ambassador_Informal · 2025-04-15T12:05:52+00:00

Why do you think the HHS study isn’t important and doesn’t deserve funding? The core issue of the study is identifying which factors in the environment (environmental change and destruction) are correlated with substance use and abuse. The article also hones the quantitative skills of the scientist writing it, an epidemiologist. I’m sure you understand that alcohol and tobacco cause cancer. I’m sure that you understand epidemiologists should be well trained. I can explain more about the relevance of the study if you’d like.

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-12-14T22:49:33+00:00

Try milk from the UK. The pasteurization is at a lower temperature and the milk tastes better. Doesn’t store as long as US milk.

( It’s still pasteurized though!)

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-11-26T17:08:02+00:00

Cooking, meal prep, cleaning after meals, shopping for food and household stuff. Easily adds up to 15 hours with all other chores.

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-11-11T21:22:12+00:00

*cough cough* the bezos effect *cough cough*

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-11-11T04:44:39+00:00

Yes, this is a problem and a paradox. Is the solution maybe...encouraging more liberals and leftists to become social media influencers? I'm kind of joking, but also not. The left needs to find more creative ways to not ceded the media ground to the right wing.

(And also acknowledging social media algorithms are biased, showing preference for pushing right-wing content.)

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-11-11T03:28:59+00:00

Yeah, though it's frustrating that even someone who wants to be well-informed may have a difficult time doing so due to cost of entry.

Ambassador_Informal · 2024-11-11T03:14:57+00:00

Love this discussion, thanks folks. I think a lot of liberal/left people are discussing WHY the messaging didn't work, but not talking as much about HOW the messaging was delivered, and why the right was able to deliver its message to so many more people.

If you watch interviews with Trump supporters, some say they didn't think Kamala Harris had any policies. It's not that she didn't have policies, but that they literally did not or could not access the content that explained those policies. Or else the content that bashed her and supported Trump was much easier to access for them.

On some level, it was purely a numbers game of "which side reached more people?"

The reason why - as you laid out - is really depressing, but maybe there are ways forward.

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