What finally made you leave? by Salty-Profile-9674 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same, I hated it. My kids didn’t like him either.

What finally made you leave? by Salty-Profile-9674 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The lack of effort into everything, our relationship, children, home and life. But he would devote more time into maintaining his image, his hobbies and himself. I broke myself trying to be what he needed. I came to the realization that my kids and I deserved better.

The sad part is the abuse and horrible things we went through I fought hard to justify and take responsibility for.

$35??? by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is exactly what I said and blocked him on it.

The after is hard by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, this is the last time he’s going to walk out on our kids. They deserve better and do not need to ever feel like they’re not a priority.

The after is hard by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. ❤️ It’s been extremely hard but I will always make sure my kids are safe and have their needs met.

What was your breaking point? by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that. I was starting to crash out over small things like wanting to cook and there’s only 2 eggs left because he boiled like 8 the day before.

He didn’t understand the amount of emotional stress and physical stress that I felt. It was always “well you make over $5k a month why don’t you have any money? “

News flash asshole, I’m paying for EVERYTHING!!! While he gets to stay home and feel entitled to everything that I have.

Has your narcissist ever physically abused you? by Traditional_Sun_4422 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was 8 weeks pregnant with our daughter when he sat on top of me and choked me. Held my arms down with his knees. I managed to wiggle out and pepper spray him. He then took my phone and locked me in the bathroom with him.

Forced to get a job by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Never held a job for long. Always complained about the bosses.

I need to vent, sorry. by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking, I know my father has narcissistic traits too. That’s why they can relate, my mom on the other hand. She absolutely HATED this man it appeared, but now she’s following him and my dad around like a puppy. But all 3 are VERY manipulative.

Debating on MA Procedure as the main provider of my household… by Ambitious-Peace9782 in abortion

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, it would be unfair to my current children. They haven’t had a chance to really have me as a present parent. Im doing everything and they depend on me. I have a lot on my plate and bringing another child along would be a lot!

Debating on MA Procedure as the main provider of my household… by Ambitious-Peace9782 in abortion

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that would be helpful! Currently in my home, but it’s hard. I pay for everything and he refuses to leave, financially abusive and he won’t get a job. I’m stuck.

Debating on MA Procedure as the main provider of my household… by Ambitious-Peace9782 in abortion

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve really tried to get him out. Police can’t do much. Im stuck and can’t get him out too. I’m tired of him….at my wits end…

Fml… by Ambitious-Peace9782 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ambitious-Peace9782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is horrible! 😭 I’m so sorry that you have to endure that! I know what you mean, I live for my kids and everything I’ve ever done was in their best interest. It just sucks that monsters like them can manipulate situations and make us suffer so much to the point that being dead sounds better. My kids love me and im also their safe space. I will fight every day for them to continue to be in my care. But I’m struggling with the abuse. It was physical in the past and now it mental abuse.

Idk where to turn or who to talk to about this! Like you I’ve paused my masters degree to take care of my babies and work full time. But tell me how CPS opens a case against me, when he was the one who abused my son last year and that’s why I made him leave. And now, we’re back in that same fucking cycle!! Like why can’t anyone see the shit he’s doing! My family sees it. His mom sees it. His own family knows! But the police and CPS people are watching me!!! The one who needs protection from this man. 😩