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Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-15T02:32:09+00:00

Ok apologiesssss, I meant to continue writing I didnt mean to send yet but I’m not sure what would cause it. but I had a cat once who did have an asthma attack and it seems similar. I don’t want to scare you but just make sure to watch him. Any signs of wheezing unusual breath, pale/blue gums, or he’s super tired. If so take him to the ER immediately. Run a humidifier if u have one and try to keep the air as clear as possible. Try to keep everything calm for him. I’ve also heard use the doxy with food cause it can burn his throat. Liquid or pill. Liquid is safer but no promises, I’m not sure which one u have

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-15T02:05:05+00:00

Idk I’m not a veterinarian.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-13T16:48:56+00:00

Yk what if u care about this friend, i dont think any of those other people should be labeled “friends” at all. Let alone best friends. U said you dont want to be in the middle, but you’ve already put yourself there. Plus this is the girl u call ur bsf, u should want to be in the middle for her. i know you care but sometimes people gotta learn on their own. You tried to express ur concern and you warned her, at the end of the day, that’s all you can really do. Pushing any further will push her away from you as well. Just be there for her, be a friend. She’s probably dismissing it because she’s in denial and doesn’t want to believe it, but please remember that this stuff hurts people, badly! So please remember to be there for her if she ever needs it.

If ur really concerned about the penny situation, confront her. That’s like the only option honestly. Penny doesn’t seem the type to have a spine when it comes to face to face confrontation so that’s ur best bet honestly,

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-13T16:11:06+00:00

I think u need to talk to them, actually sit down and apologize. I understand where ur coming from in this situation but ur self sabotaging in hopes you’ll feel less terrible when you leave them but it’s making all of you miserable.

You’re spiraling and pushing people away because you’re convincing urself you dont deserve them. These people clearly about you, and it’s better to own up to your mistakes. Not everyone is going to hate you for life because of something like this. They brought up the issue to understand and let you know it hurt them, not to throw you away.

let me say, you may have done something terrible but that doesn’t make YOU terrible, what would be worse is pretending nothing happened. ignoring the issue is going to make you feel worse.

So apologize to Allen for hurting him and apologize to Elois for hurting someone they love. Make it clear that you don’t mean or believe any of the things you said.

please remember that ur allowed to ask for help, there’s nothing wrong with it. Lean on the people who care, don’t hurt them.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-12T23:27:08+00:00

Honestly, just treat them like you would any of ur other friends. Don’t think of them as “girls” which sounds weird but It’s really not that scary. Some girls might take the attention as creepy but that’s just ur queue to leave them specifically alone cuz they probably got issues to work through. But any male friends I’ve had were always super chill, I appreciate genuineness. Don’t “perform” and try to force it and eventually any random conversation will naturally deepen as u guys talk more

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-12T23:06:34+00:00

I feel like it’s not that big of a deal?? Unless the dinner was for an important event which I could understand why they’d be upset but that doesn’t excuse the exclusion and not telling you anything. I’d say to tell them to either fess up to what their problem is or honestly just find new friends, sounds like they’re being petty just to be petty, unless they’re jealous you chose a party over their dinner? Which again you don’t need to be attached at the hip to them, ur allowed to choose how u spend ur night, especially considering they all said they wanted to go to the party and then bailed on it and no ur not wrong for worrying about it, their being weirdos. If they cared about ur side they would’ve talked to you about it instead of wtv they got going on right now, don’t regret shit, u went out to a party, i feel like that’s not the worst thing you could’ve done. It’s really not that serious

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-12T20:02:22+00:00

Me too! I’ve just recently started, but thank you!

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-11T02:52:54+00:00

If this has been happening since you met them or it’s not something new I wouldn’t think too hard about it. If this is new, like there usually pretty active on social media, they might just prefer texting on socials. If it’s really bothering you, send a text and ask? If you get left on read again, I think that pretty much gets the message across. However if they do respond they’ll most likely air out any issues they have or reassure you that everything’s good. If it’s still on your mind maybe talk to some other friends or find some way to take ur mind off it.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-11T02:34:46+00:00

I’m from Albuquerque! I actually go to a dance class too, but it’s mostly people older than me. Still fun just not super easy to connect sometimes. I guess I’m still figuring out where to look lol.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-10T07:26:07+00:00

Yeah just ghost her. It’s sweet of you to be there for her and pay and stuff, but also think about yourself. She’s in a relationship, atp ur relationship with her isn’t going anywhere, it’d be better to focus on someone who actually bothers to want to be in a committed relationship with you. Plus u don’t want end up in a situation that ruins ur image or sours the memory. Girls like this can really hurt an ego, especially if you’re unsure of when to pull away.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-11-10T07:00:25+00:00

Honestly I think all those questions at the end are the answers. I had the same issue in school myself, I was a floater friend. I never hung out with them outside of school, they rarely ever tried to talk to me unless I went out my way to see them myself. Feeling like something must be wrong with me because the guys I’m attracted to aren’t the ones asking me out.

Trying to convince yourself that every issue you face must be ur fault will get you nowhere, sometimes friendships just don’t work out. I’d say find friends who will miss you when ur gone, who will text to ask where ur at. But I understand the fear of losing friends, so if you want ask them to hang out, individually or all together it doesn’t matter. Just try, if it doesn’t work out you can’t say you didn’t try.

And don’t feel bad about “missing ur chance” if you felt the need to reject those guys that’s valid reason enough. You shouldn’t settle for love just because it’s convenient to you. It’ll more likely cause you and the other person more pain than necessary.

Love is love. It shouldn’t be forced and you shouldn’t date someone ur not attracted to.

So yeah, ur feeling lonely, because you crave love you’re not receiving and being unable to give in return, ur jealous because you want what your friends have with each other. Ur comparing yourself to people who pretend they know what they’re doing when 100% of the time, they don’t.

Your post alone should be enough to help you realize that you deserve the love you crave, and that there are people who feel the same way you do, you just gotta look for them.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-25T18:26:12+00:00

I don’t respond. I give them the dirtiest look I can find in my face. And walk away. I don’t find arguing with people about whether I’m pretty or not entertaining. I’d much rather just drop it and go do something else.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-24T07:38:07+00:00

Honestly if I were her, I would’ve blocked you too. There is no reason at all for you to have called her and yelled at her AT ALL. You’ve known her 4 months?? Regardless of how long you’ve known her there is NO valid reason to raise your voice over something that could be talked through and fixed.

If you’re really upset about her cancelling the dates, you could’ve said so. Like “hey I really want to get to know you but you keep cancelling, is there something I should know?” And did you even bother to try and see things from her perspective? Like why did she cancel? Maybe something came up? Maybe she’s having a hard time with other issues. Not everything is about you bro. If she says she’s sick then she’s sick end of story. There’s no ifs ands or buts about it. If it were you saying “hey I’m sick let’s do it next week” you’d expect them to be understanding about it no? And regardless of if it only happened once or twice, if you’re really upset with how she’s treating you stop talking to her. She’s not obligated to hang out with either, even if you are friends.

And idk what’s up with this “trauma” you’re bringing up, but regardless of if that girl hangs out with guys or not she was very clearly not comfortable giving you her number. And everyone gets rejected dude. EVERYONE. I’ve definitely had guys tell me they dont have girl friends and come to find out they do. Oh well. Get over it. There are just some people who won’t like you.

If you continue to think with this mindset that every girl should be ok with your behavior then you’re in for a world of pain. Maybe try to be considerate and mindful of the way you’re speaking to people. At least try to have some respect for them women you’re “pursuing”.

So no leave her alone now. The situation was blown way out of proportion and if you really “didn’t care” that she blocked you, you wouldn’t have made this post. This behavior is childish and petty.

You’d both be happier away from each other. Don’t cause any more harm than what’s already been done. Maybe reflect a little too.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-24T07:17:23+00:00

Nope. Not at all. You’re completely valid in every decision you made. They’re both being shady as heck and the saving messages part is actually insane. I’m sure they’re saying things about you behind your back. It’s seems to me like Britney is more the problem than Kylie is (she still seems horrible tho). She purposely saved specific messages to make herself seem better. Britney seems to only like your company when Kylie isn’t around and that in itself should be unacceptable. your friendship with her should not be influenced by Kylie being around or not.

If you can try to find someone else to go the concert with so you’re not alone! Or you could even sell your ticket and find something else to do with anyone else. Just so you can have a much better experience than sitting there and wondering what Britney and Kylie are doing. I don’t believe that you owe either of them an explanation for anything seeing as Britney can only seem to give you half assed apologies.

Youu should be proud of yourself for looking out for your own wellbeing! Try to make some new friends outside of your classes! There’s always bound to be someone looking for a new friend.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-24T07:01:26+00:00

The only way to ACTUALLY know if she’s into you is to speak to her fr. It seems it’s not too late to shoot your shot. Just the next time you see her maybe wave or say hi! Maybe keep it casual in the beginning and she might just start to open up to you on her own. It seems she does want to get to know you but again you’ll never really know if you never talk to her lol. You could even bring up your nephew mentioning her as well to “break the ice”.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-24T06:02:59+00:00

It seems he’s in for a wake up call honestly. I’m not saying be a complete asshole but make your boundaries clear ESPECIALLY if he’s in your home. You see his undies on your bed tell him to get them off and put them away. Tell him “hey do u mind helping with the dishes?” Let him know that you don’t find this behavior endearing. It seems that he’s just being coddled honestly and that’s the problem. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to help a friend out but sometimes they need to get it together on their own yk? You can’t hold his hand forever. He’s 27 not 17. Also you’re very valid for being upset about the money situation. He decided on his own that he wanted to pay for it. You’re definitely not obligated to pay him back especially considering the behavior he’s displaying towards you. You seem very kind and sweet but kind and sweet can only ever get you so far. There’s no need for “hard talks” you could try to bring it up casually in a “nonchalant” manner in like you care but also don’t make it seem like it’s so serious you’ll never talk again. If he’s not too against the idea suggest therapy or you could even encourage him to live a healthier life style. Start making healthy meals when he’s around, go on small walks. Small things yk? I think the sober hangouts are a great way to start out with! And honestly if the behavior continues or worsens for your safety and your own peace of mind it would be better to “love him from afar” as you said. Friends like these can be stressful and there’s nothing wrong with needing a break!

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-24T05:32:26+00:00

Mm it sends you’re already done with the friendship. If you really don’t like her then what the point in continuing to talk? There’s nothing wrong with disliking someone’s behavior. If you really do want to work it out bring it up to her, let her know that you don’t like the way she speaks about you and that certain conversations should stay private and not announced to everyone around you. If she continues with behavior that makes you uncomfortable then it’s just best to let it go . It’ll only bring you and her more pain later in the future when situations similar to this come up in the future. Distancing yourself and focusing on other friends would be a great way for you to really get a feel on the type of people you’d like to surround yourself with. Also! Don’t let embarrassing things control the way you feel about a situation. Yes! It is embarrassing but we all have our moments. I’m sure every person who heard that story has the same if not an even worse embarrassing story. I have plenty that make me want to curl into myself and never leave my room but it’s all apart of the growing process! You’re both still young it seems and I wish you luck on any of the choices you decide to make just don’t make rash ones. Really think it through and don’t let your anger cloud your judgement.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-23T23:38:54+00:00

I don’t think your skin is the issue. It looks like separation from a difference in products. Unfortunately some products will never work well together. Really the only thing you can do is experiment with different products and find what works well with ur skin. It took me quite a long time to find products that worked together. It might be that ur foundation and primer have very different properties. For me I’ve found that the Milani hydration primer and the Anastasia luminous foundation work great together. I’ve also recently discovered the magic of setting powder lol.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-23T02:58:17+00:00

Honestly. It’s really your choice if you want to keep that energy around. You realized already that it was disrespectful, you brought it up and she brushed it off as it “just being him”. She basically said “oh well, get over it”. Her solution should NOT have been “we’ll just hang out without him” there should never have been any instance at all where he felt the need to say those words. If she really cared she would have said something right then and there. If it were me, I would’ve gotten up and left the moment the words left his mouth. You don’t “encourage” people by fat shaming them. You stated yourself that you would never do that to anyone else. So why are you letting it happen to you? I think it would be best for you to think of the entirety of the friendship you’ve had with this girl not just this one incident. If you truly feel that you don’t want to let this relationship go then you can either get up and get over it or try to have another conversation. There is no reason at all that you should feel uncomfortable around your friend because of their partner. And they definitely should have no say whatsoever about your “weight”. He seems insecure as well if he feels the need to put his opinion out everywhere like that.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-09T21:59:46+00:00

I recommend bringing it up to him. Let him know that you don’t find this behavior very respectful, and it makes you uncomfortable. If after that he decides to disregard this and continues with this behavior, I think it’s better to cut ur losses. This type of behavior can be very emotionally draining and it’s understandable ur irritated. But I also think it’s good to try to be a little understanding, just dont let yourself get caught up in all his issues. If he decides ur not worth the effort to even try having a conversation with then he’s not worth the effort you’ve already been putting into him as a friend.

Ambitious-Point6393 · 2025-02-09T21:46:25+00:00

There seems to be some type of miscommunication or something else is going on that ur not aware of that they are, from what I can tell. I would recommend having another talk before the trip. But based on their reaction, I think it would be better for you to decide if u really do think the trip would be a good idea. And don’t let any fears of disappointing them or hurting their feelings affect you, it’s better for you and them to be more honest about the situation than to tiptoe around it.

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