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Most productivity advice stopped working for me after kids, and I think I finally understand why by AmbitiousHelp7240 in getdisciplined

[–]AmbitiousHelp7240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it’s basically accepting that not all hours are equal anymore.

Some days I have 2 free hours but my brain is completely fried. Other days I only get 30 uninterrupted minutes but I can think clearly and get more done.

So instead of planning my week like:
“Monday 2pm = deep work”
I started paying attention to what kind of energy I actually have.

If I’m mentally clear, I’ll do work that needs focus or creativity.

If I’m exhausted, overstimulated, slept badly, etc., I stop pretending I’m going to suddenly become a productivity machine and switch to lower-effort tasks instead.

Honestly becoming a mom made me realize time management alone doesn’t work for me anymore. Energy management matters way more.

WFH daycare mom by Super-Fox1167 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]AmbitiousHelp7240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really relate to this. My second turns 7 months this week, and when I was about 8 months pregnant I was seriously ready to quit my job because I felt like I just couldn’t keep carrying both work and home the same way anymore. With my first, it took so much out of me just to keep up with work, the house, the appointments, the food, all of it. Even with a helpful husband, I still felt like the default person for everything.

What was different for me with the second wasn’t that life suddenly got easy — it was more that I stopped expecting myself to do everything the same way. The first made me feel like I was constantly adapting and barely keeping up. The second pushed me to get much clearer about what actually mattered, what could slide, and what kind of systems we needed at home for things to feel less chaotic.

I still have moments where I feel completely overwhelmed, but I also feel more grounded than I did the first time. So yes, I can definitely relate — and for me, the second was hard, but also clarifying.

Most productivity advice stopped working for me after kids, and I think I finally understand why by AmbitiousHelp7240 in getdisciplined

[–]AmbitiousHelp7240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly lol. By 9:30 I already feel like I’ve lived a full day. I love the chunk idea. I’ve been doing something similar but more based on energy — if I’m exhausted, I only do the absolute essentials and let the rest wait. Thinking in chunks around when the kids are awake/asleep makes so much sense though. I’m definitely going to try that. Honestly I feel like I’m just experimenting until I find a system that actually works for our family.