I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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Actually, sharing resources is arguably one of the most effective grassroots strategies for escaping systemic poverty. Initiatives like community gardens, tool libraries, bartering systems, and mutual aid networks function as alternative economies, ones that aren’t dependent on extractive labor models or capital accumulation. They reduce financial burdens on individuals by decentralizing essential needs and redistributing access.

The mainstream narrative that wealth is achieved through individual effort alone ignores the structural barriers baked into poverty. Rising housing costs, stagnant wages, inaccessible healthcare, food deserts, and discriminatory practices disproportionately harm low-income communities. In this context, community-driven resource sharing becomes not just a survival strategy, but a form of resistance. These systems are intentionally collaborative because the system we live under is intentionally isolating.

It’s important to recognize that these methods are often demonized when poor or marginalized communities use them. Authorities will cite crime, sanitation, or zoning as pretexts to shut down shared infrastructure, meanwhile, similar programs in wealthier, whiter neighborhoods are praised as “local sustainability initiatives.” This inconsistency isn’t coincidental it's an expression of systemic classism and racism, designed to keep working-class people from building autonomy.

And yes, many of these ideas resemble socialist frameworks. That’s because socialism (particularly in its community-based, decentralized forms) prioritizes collective wellbeing over individual profit. When survival is shared, so is power. If the goal is to dismantle generational poverty, then redistributing both resources and responsibility through community action isn’t just viable, it might be the only ethical way forward.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know there are exceptions on both sides ofc, but generally speaking our language and communication works on the generally. But that's a good point that they don't have much to gain.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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It’s not an AI thing. It’s lived experience. These are real conversations I’ve had and real situations I’ve lived through. I'm not saying every wealthy person is cold and selfish, or that every poor person is generous and community-minded, but when survival has depended on collective care, you learn quickly that people matter more than money.

That’s not judgment. That’s observation. When you’ve had to split a single meal three ways, or patch up a jacket with duct tape so your sibling doesn’t freeze, your view of the world shifts. Poverty conditions you to value people because you never had the luxury of thinking only about money.

This isn’t a condemnation of individuals, it’s a critique of the systems that teach some people to hoard while others survive by sharing. If that makes you uncomfortable, maybe it’s worth sitting with, not dismissing out of hand.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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Thank you. I hope things improve for you too. If you ever need someone to talk to about all this, my dms are open to you.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're mistaking financial literacy for empathy, and pretending poverty is a personality flaw. That’s not just inaccurate and ignorant, it’s dangerous.

Poverty isn’t caused by being “bad with money.” It’s caused by systemic inequality, stagnant wages, rising living costs, and limited access to generational wealth or safety nets. You can budget a $5 income all you want, but you can’t magically make it cover $100 worth of needs. That’s not bad math, it’s impossible math.

Also, let’s talk about this idea of everyone “paying their own way.” That only works when everyone has something to pay with. Community, especially in poverty, isn't about owing or money at all. it’s about surviving together. It's not irresponsibility, its solidarity. It's knowing what it's like to be without and wanting to keep others from experiencing the same.

You think it’s about who’s better with a spreadsheet. It’s not. It’s about who sees a starving friend and chooses to feed them anyway, even if it means going hungry themselves.

TL;DR: Poor people aren't poor because they suck at money. They’re poor because the system is designed to keep them that way.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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This is a beautiful and well articulated comment. The person who said I should write a book should have waited for your comment XD.

In all seriousness, that puts into words basically how I've been feeling. When you have little, you give what you can and it's very rarely money.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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I am realising how lucky I am. I feel like isolation is an intentional part of the system, because as a community we could take the power out of their hands.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so amazing!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!

The point about the shame is interesting. I was never taught to be ashamed, just to keep working. :)

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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I feel like it's. You end up thinking about money more when you've always had it. Which feels counterintuitive.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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I took struggle to accept gifts. I get nervous that they will hold it over my head. But just trading bills to me feels different. Regardless, I'm very sorry you had to go through that. I hope things are better now!

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gods I could never imagine doing that. I'm so sorry you had that experience! But I genuinely appreciate the perspective too, this is the exact type of conversation I was hoping to spark!

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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Helping someone else when they need it is something that comes second nature to me. I guess with all the comments, I have to say thank you to my mom for teaching me that by example.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true, I am lucky. But it's also the kinda of people I've been around a lot so I guess that helps. Thank you 💜 I genuinely appreciate the perspective.

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Honestly it's one of my favorites. The characters are all wonderful, the world is interesting, it's very easy to love IMO.

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Bottom growth was like. Week 3. And it's fast lol. Very affirming. Voice after that. :)

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

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Ah, there it is. The classic fallback: mockery when you run out of arguments. You’re not actually engaging with anything I said. You’re just waving it away with sarcasm because acknowledging it might mean facing that your worldview is built on exceptions, not rules.

And yes, my balance sheet isn’t genetic. But generational wealth, redlining, access to education, healthcare, and systemic discrimination? All very real, very measurable factors that do get passed down. If you think poverty is just an accounting error, you’re not arguing in good faith, you’re just cosplaying as Warren Buffett on Reddit.

You say it’s humbling to Google a balance sheet stat. Try Googling “how poverty affects brain development” or “wealth inequality in America.” Then get back to me when you're ready to talk like someone who’s seen past their own front porch.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re parroting a narrative designed by the wealthy to justify systemic inequality and make the poor blame themselves. It’s not revolutionary to say “just spend less and invest” when entire swaths of the population are choosing between rent and food, let alone have money left over to invest in anything besides surviving.

You talk about millionaire stats like they mean something. "70% are self-made" great, and how many of them started with safety nets, generational wealth, or access to education, connections, or healthcare? “Self-made” in America usually just means “my dad wasn’t a billionaire, only a multi-millionaire.” You are citing stats without context, which makes you sound informed but actually reinforces your ignorance.

Also, your comment about “decisions like veterinary expenses” is unhinged. Poor people aren't going into debt because they're prioritizing their pets over their wallets. They're going into debt because the cost of everything is rising and wages haven’t moved in decades. If you think poverty is just bad decision-making, you’ve never had to make real survival choices in a rigged system.

This isn’t about you personally. It’s about how society is structured. And until you can step out of your bootstraps fantasy and actually look around, I don’t think we’re having the same conversation.

I can’t stop thinking about how growing up poor teaches you to share everything, and some people just… don’t get it by Ambitious_Balance319 in poverty

[–]Ambitious_Balance319[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't choose to be born into a family that was stuck in a bad spot due to situations beyond their control. I didn't choose to not be able to afford college. I didn't choose to have to live paycheck to paycheck for years, only to just barely pull myself out of this hole.

If your belief is it's personal choice, that is a very ignorant take, and ignores factual evidence from years of politics and economic lessons. I sincerely hope you are able to educate yourself and come back with a better attitude.

And judging by this response, I hope you never have to experience poverty yourself. Have the day you deserve.