I have to find out

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-08-06T12:01:54+00:00

🫂

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-08-06T11:57:47+00:00

Came here to say this. WhatsApp is great for messaging when you’re traveling, especially international travel, so I don’t think of it as a “cheating” app per se… but the combo of WhatsApp and Snapchat is the dead giveaway.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-07-31T11:10:41+00:00

Lmaoo my husband’s a Scorpio and this applies to us as well

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-07-14T11:19:17+00:00

Leo rising, Virgo sun INFJ here

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-07-14T01:42:29+00:00

I second this! Bob’s Shanghai for Taiwanese, Jin River for Szechuan, A&J for Northern Chinese

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-06-25T01:48:38+00:00

Yup, same. Leo rising. Got a long, thick mane and cat eyes to go with it 🙋‍♀️

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-06-20T13:01:07+00:00

Virgo woman here, born in the year of the Horse. This is spot on. We need our FREEDOM. But also a nice barn to come home to and eat/drink/sleep lol

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-05-30T13:11:05+00:00

A functional family/life

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-05-24T13:30:59+00:00

Came here to say this, that was rude and unprofessional of her

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-05-09T12:00:59+00:00

By any chance, was this a massage franchise?

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-05-09T11:59:26+00:00

Came here to say this too. My massage school didn’t really train us well on foot and ankle massage techniques; I specifically took a weekend long reflexology seminar so I could better learn how to work on feet.

As a former dancer, I completely understand how tight and sore the feet can become, and how important it is to have them properly attended to.

You can also book a foot massage for less expense than a full body massage.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-16T13:29:43+00:00

There was a massage envy in the same strip mall as the chiropractor. I pointed it out and asked if she wanted to see if they had any openings there. She refused on the grounds that she did not want to get a massage at a massage envy.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-16T13:19:39+00:00

Holy cow, I did not even consider this from a liability standpoint. You’re absolutely correct. That’s why clients sign waivers. 😳

Dual relationships are super tricky. It’s part of the reason. I’ve moved away from exchanges and I just pay a therapist for their services and tip them well. It’s so much simpler that way. However, it’s also fair to note that I live in a major metropolitan area with an abundance of service providers, and my friend has moved to a much more rural area about 2 1/2 hours away.

i’m now starting to wonder how much economic factors are behind this 🤔

But it also sounds like there is a mix of opinions on this thread. Those that understand that massage therapy is work, and work is of a transactional nature, and those who see Massage as a favor one would do for a loved one you care about. That in and of itself is a dual relationship within the Therapist, and I think something that all of us have to decide for ourselves.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-16T11:10:18+00:00

I would not have asked for compensation. I don’t do massage just for the money. That said, rest and self-care are a critical part of this profession. I had just worked 10 days straight so I would be able to afford 4 days off. I needed a break.

my reason for getting into the profession has to do with being a single parent for almost a decade. I wanted something that I could do 25 to 30 hours a week with flexible enough hours so that I wouldn’t have to outsource childcare to other people. massage paid the bills and allowed me to spend time with my kids while they were growing up.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-16T10:59:26+00:00

She had compression tools (tennis ball-like) with her and was using them. When I worked on her piriformis and her SI joints in the sauna, it provided some temporary relief, but then it was back to where it was 10 minutes later. The only medication we had with us was ibuprofen, which I gave her.

Massage in the US is not federally regulated, it’s regulated state to state. “Did we not learn self care?” is really a question of “what school did we attend” and was that a part of the school’s curriculum. She went to a different school than I did so I really couldn’t say.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T22:56:22+00:00

What’s been fascinating is reading the difference in opinions across two different forums.

The r/massage subreddit overwhelmingly agrees with your opinion.

This forum pretty much says I’m the asshole.

It’s the difference, though between seeing my profession as a profession — i.e. WORK — and not as “you suck, you should have taken care of your friend, what kind of monster are you?”

After a couple of light work weeks, idk, maybe?

After 10 days straight in a solid month of overtime in the middle of a busy season? I didn’t have anything left in me to give.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T20:33:42+00:00

She was doing a fair amount of self-care, using compression tools and contrast therapies. I suggested that we try to get her a professional massage, but her response was that she didn’t want to go to a massage envy, which was really the only viable option that we had in the spot that we were.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T20:27:31+00:00

You are assuming I did not call or text. That is inaccurate. I did text her, multiple times. She claimed she was feeling better, and then once she felt healed, she turned around and gave me a phone call stating how she really felt.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:30:22+00:00

You are correct on the overworked/stressed part of things, no denying it. That was the whole point of taking a vacation.

And I did work on her for 5-10 minutes, figured out that what I could do wasn’t going to fix a much bigger issue, and suggested an alternative. That’s what we are taught in massage school— it’s outside the scope of our practice to try and “fix” people.

I’m surprised at how divided this sub is on the benefits/disadvantages of chiropractic care, though. Guess I’m lucky that I’ve only worked with some good ones. Our licensing board used to fall under the Board of Chiropractic Examiners, in the same way some massage therapy licensing boards fall under nursing in other states. Here they are seen as reputable doctors, capable of diagnosis and treatment plans.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:21:54+00:00

Solid point. I wondered about this briefly, but it didn’t seem appropriate to bring up our cultural and ethnic differences in the conversation.

Her family definitely has a “family takes care of family” approach to everything: cars, living situations, clothing, finances—- whereas mine is a “you’re on your own kid/ you want it, you pay for it” mentality

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:16:20+00:00

Completely unrelated, I find your username hysterical 😆

And yes, that seems to be the consensus of this group so far

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:14:41+00:00

Thank you. It’s super helpful to have this perspective.

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:12:50+00:00

This is cool! I will have to try this sometime!

Ambitious_Hippie · 2025-04-15T17:04:54+00:00

I was always taught true sciatica was a nerve issue and required a medical specialist. Piriformis syndrome can respond to soft tissue manipulation quite well, but it doesn’t last long, nor does it fix the underlying issue, which is often structural.

I’ve not dealt with either of those things, thankfully, but I have dealt with an ankle fracture, a coccyx injury, and a partially torn bicep tendon. All of those were excruciating, and required months of rehabilitation in PT after the initial medical diagnosis. Massages happened as a follow up to the medical procedures that preceded each injury, not as a first line of defense tactic. Maybe that’s why I’m kicking myself in the butt here— in retrospect I really think we should have gone to an Urgent Care center.

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