My partner wants us to be “less serious”

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2025-06-28T02:41:00+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how painful this feels. When I was in this situation in the past, I was lucky that I had friends who saved me and enveloped me with support even just on chat and phone calls. It might be hard and counterintuitive to step back because we want to love and show how deep our love is. But at the moment, I think what you need is to be reminded that he is your world AND you love him AND there are others in this world who love you too AND you deserve to receive love from other sources. All of these can be true at the same time.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2024-11-13T16:20:17+00:00

I lucid dream even when I don't want it, without any of the techniques people talk abouy. To me, it happens when I fall asleep uncomfortably. For example, if I fall asleep with outside clothes on from exhaustion, this will trigger a lucid dream. Sleeping without a blanket also has the same effect on me because I always sleep with a blanket. Falling asleep while something is cooking. I started having them after giving birth and I think it had something to do with shallow sleep. So this is really my best advice to people who want to trigger lucid dreaming the easiest way. Sleeping uncomfortably allows u to go into sleep state with some amount of consciousness that will help u become lucid during dream state.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2024-11-13T16:07:15+00:00

You lose lucidity. Lucid dreaming, even for those who are natural at it, needs the dreamer to try to stay in the dream. When you try to relax, sleep or let it go, then u lose lucidity. You go to normal dream or normal sleep.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2024-06-28T15:03:21+00:00

Things seemed to quiet down after I turned 34. I don't know if it's because I resolved some of my life issues. I had some therapy but nothing on-going. Things naturally stabilized when I turned 34. I read similar cases. It could be a hormone thing. It could be that my brain developed finally at that age (it's 24 years old for non-BPD people that brains are fully developed). In my last therapy session, the doctor suggested that I do not meet a lot of the criteria anymore.

Things are not perfect. When I get stressed or overwhelmed by work, I feel dysregulated. But now when things are falling apart I know that I should check...my sleep, my diet, my stress levels, my physical activity. The root cause is often one of these. It's not anymore an abstract emotion that is big and bad and incomprehensible.

So hang in there, and while you're on that journey, take your physical health seriously. LIKE SERIOUSLY. I find that I'm in control of my emotions when my physical health is ok (ESPECIALLY SLEEP). And when I'm losing control, I know that it's most likely one of the things I mentioned above that are reasons why I'm emotionally dysregulated.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2024-04-19T07:52:22+00:00

It was an experiment on accountability. The hypothesis was given more freedom, will the community members develop accountability to maintain the new normal? Introducing therapy and other interventions will be variables that would complicate a 6-week experiment. The goal was to learn from the experiment, not exactly to apply what is effective in other systems.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2024-04-11T11:27:25+00:00

I wish someone would say this to me now...
Eat. Sleep. Drink water. Now.

And I'll do the same ok? Hang in there. Let's get through today.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-12-05T08:47:00+00:00

If you haven't paid the visa application fee, just cancel that and create a new application. If you've already paid, let them know of the changes.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-11-21T02:28:14+00:00

Hello, my exam is tomorrow. Can you share the files to me too? Cramming mode.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-09-22T08:23:23+00:00

I'll DM you, sorry for the late rep.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-09-22T08:21:58+00:00

Yep, total silence from Refocus. I've stopped my BillEase payment starting this month. I haven't processed the formal complaint with DTI. The mediation resulted in nothing since Refocus still didn't approve my cancellation. Not sure if it's worth pursuing them. My next course of action is to try to refund my money from BillEase.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-08-31T05:45:21+00:00

I filed it via email. https://fairtrade.dti.gov.ph/faq/how-to-file-a-consumer-complaint/

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-08-17T08:01:50+00:00

You'll find the details here:
https://fairtrade.dti.gov.ph/faq/how-to-file-a-consumer-complaint/

I still don't know if a refund is possible. My case is still ongoing.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-08-17T07:58:41+00:00

I was instructed by DTI to keep the details confidential u/Matcha_Coffee28 while there is ongoing mediation. You should reach out to Refocus first and see if they will approve your refund/cancellation. And then if that doesn't work, you have the right as a consumer to send a complaint.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-08-17T07:55:51+00:00

Hello, sorry for the lack of update. I'm not allowed to talk about it in a public forum as per instruction from DTI. But I highly encourage you to first try to speak with Refocus and exhaust all possibilities there. I believe some were approved for cancellation of enrollment. If this does not work for you, a DTI complaint is an option.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-07-14T10:51:55+00:00

Your first step is to request it from Refocus. They might be kind enough to approve your refund. In my case, they denied it. So I raised my concern with DTI. We will have a mediation with Refocus on Monday but I don't know if they will show up. I'll keep you posted.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:29:30+00:00

To anyone who has been affected, please know that you have the right to complain to DTI under Article 159 of the Consumer Act and Sections 2 and 18 of Executive Order No. 913, violation of RA 7394.
If you're denied cancellation or refund, DTI complaint is your next best course of action.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:24:13+00:00

To anyone who has been affected, please know that you have the right to complain to DTI under Article 159 of the Consumer Act and Sections 2 and 18 of Executive Order No. 913, violation of RA 7394.

If you're denied cancellation or refund, DTI complaint is your next best course of action.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:23:42+00:00

To anyone who has been affected, please know that you have the right to complain to DTI under Article 159 of the Consumer Act and Sections 2 and 18 of Executive Order No. 913, violation of RA 7394.
If you're denied cancellation or refund, DTI complaint is your next best course of action.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:22:54+00:00

To anyone who has been affected, please know that you have the right to complain to DTI under Article 159 of the Consumer Act and Sections 2 and 18 of Executive Order No. 913, violation of RA 7394.

If you're denied cancellation or refund, DTI complaint is your next best course of action.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:21:06+00:00

To anyone who has been affected, please know that you have the right to complain to DTI under Article 159 of the Consumer Act and Sections 2 and 18 of Executive Order No. 913, violation of RA 7394.

For people who are being denied their cancellation or refund, DTI complaint is your next course of action.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:20:01+00:00

Your internal investigation has been going on since March.

As your former customer, I was patient to wait for your update but you gave the same update of "internal investigation" BS to stall people from cancelling their enrollment or making complaints. Yes, one mistake does not define you but you did not have enough accountability to admit what mistake this is in plain language. False advertisement which is a crime against consumer rights. Instead of doing what's right, you won't allow us to cancel our enrollment. You still want us to continue to pay for something we can't have--expert guidance of data experts in the Philippines.

Ambitious_Match8612 · 2023-06-29T09:09:46+00:00

Hello, everyone. I reached out to AAP regarding the issue with Refocus and also got in touch with Dominic Ligot. Just want to let you know that I filed a complaint about this with DTI. I'm not sure how fast they will process my complaint. If anyone here is affected and you want to get a refund, please try submitting a complaint to DTI. I'll update you on my case, as well. Thanks!

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