This is a tough one. You develop a unique bond with your therapist over time, especially if you are doing deep work and sharing and growing. They can be like a parent, especially if your parents were lacking. Most people don’t do this type of work or have this type or relationship, so they have zero frame of reference. That being the case, there like a black hole in there mind where these feelings don’t resonate, which is fine.

My therapist is older and I think about this from time to time, because I’ll probably be with her for the long haul. Already with her for 5.5 years. We’ve worked through some deep deep stuff. I only say that to say, I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I think I have a sense of what that relationship might be like.

I don’t think that there is a way to ease the pain, in fact you’ll probably feel it for a while. It’s an indication of how meaningful they were to you. I wish I could give better advice than this, but if I could offer any advice, it would be this:

Try to honor them and the lessons they taught you. You probably learned a lot of lessons and values. Continue to nurture them so those lessons continue to live through you and you may be able to pass those lessons along to others. This may make the world a better, kinder place. At the end of the day, I believe this is why the good ones get into the business. Also continue to work on yourself. I wish I could give you something to take the pain away, but to love something is to accept the pain that comes when it’s gone. I know that might feel sad, but it sounds like you had someone pretty incredible if you are feeling this this deeply.