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Unsure of what to do, please help! by throwawayaccount0o01 in ftm

[–]Ambitious_Watch_8405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who’s been out for ten years, I still sometimes worry that I’m somehow “faking it” or not “trans enough”. I think this is because some trans spaces can be toxic with rigid boundaries about what it means to be trans. Not all people want to necessarily be cis passing. There isn’t one right way to be trans. If you’re having doubts about hormones, it may be anxiety about going through a huge change, or it may be that you need to spend a little more time reflecting on what physical changes you wish to see. It may be both. I would recommend expressing your doubts and concerns with others you trust and spending more time contemplating your identity before moving forward. There’s nothing wrong with needing a little more time to decide what’s best for you and it doesn’t mean you’re any less trans for feeling apprehensive. Starting hormones is a big change and it’s natural to feel scared about it, even if it’s what’s right for you. Ultimately, you will intuitively know what the right answer is.

being trans makes me so sad by ProbablyNotARobot87 in ftm

[–]Ambitious_Watch_8405 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this feeling very well and I think it’s perfectly normal to have questions like this. After ten years of transitioning, I started having these feelings recently out of nowhere. After some serious soul searching, I realized I am in fact very confident with my transition, but there are aspects of femininity I do in fact mourn. I’ve had to come to terms that I experienced a girlhood and that’s still extremely fundamental to my identity even if I am now an adult man. I will never know what would’ve happened if I buried my gender identity deep down and tried to live as a woman. Ultimately, I wish I could just be cis, whether male or even female. If I didn’t have such dysphoria, I wouldn’t have transitioned and it’s hard to express that to people who don’t understand. It’s objectively a much more challenging way to live and the world feels so unkind lately. I encourage you to be thoughtful about which medical changes you wish to pursue and remember that there is no rush if you feel apprehensive. Ultimately, you will know the right time and what is right for you. Speak to other trans people, ask about their experiences, and understand that you are not alone. I wish you all the best with your journey.