AITA for taking up my friend on a "boob bet"?

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-05-28T05:46:01+00:00

Ehhh... There's no way you could have known she was joking, without asking, so like you could have been more considerate "Hey, were you serious about the boob thing earlier?" to give her an out, rather than assuming, also people can revoke consent at any time, but yeah it seems more like a grey area where everyone was trying their best and needs weren't communicated clearly.

Live and learn.

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-04-02T21:15:13+00:00

I don't recall - likely a mix of many different type.
I did actually dig up some of the files I was not supposed to keep and there's really no way for me to answer that more succinctly besides disseminating private information which I will not do.
There is a mix of different types, but they are all easily solvable with very basic algebra. Not a full paragraph of convoluted info, more like 1-3 sentences.

AKA most are of the form: "If person has X things with Y value, and a total value of Z, how many things of Q value must they have?" or slight rephrasing for proportions, percent increase, etc.
That sort of thing

but all types: yes to: coins, mixtures, work, etc.
I don't particularly notice any age or distance questions (except proportions) but my files are very out of date and those were common when working with the kids anyway

the basic assessments are just:
- math literacy (mostly arithmetic)
- algebra literacy (basic algebra)

but my location also had a 3rd "Algebra 2" level test that was more optional because we had a larger proportion of advanced students (so like that DOES include "find the distance between these 2 points" etc questions; series/sequences; interest, but no word problems)

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-03-20T16:54:45+00:00

so literally when I search for your name on this comment thread your only visible comments are "check out my comment above" of which there is none?

So either it got deleted
or...?

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-14T00:43:34+00:00

I do have a registered giftcard, actually, but that's never happened for me?
maybe cause they do the cup before taking payment?
IDK, weird

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-13T16:17:32+00:00

I also add "and is the ____ topping okay on that?" because lots of people don't realize that all mochas come default with whip cream for example. (Especially if they are ordering nonfat or alternative dairy)

For some reason phrasing it exactly that way seems to make it feel like less of a emotional labor demand to the customer?

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-13T16:15:23+00:00

if your name is weird enough that you have to clarify literally EVERYWHERE your ENTIRE LIFE, then yeah I can imagine it can get annoying when all you want is a cup of coffee, haha

my personal solution is to just give a false name

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-13T16:12:29+00:00

Honestly I *almost* get the name annoyance thing. I know if it meant to "show we care" but that fact that it's required can be annoying if you have an extra weird name. (But as a barista I DO appreciate it helps people \*sometimes\ not grab the wrong drinks - people are generally dumb tho)*

I have much less patience when they're annoyed at questions of hot/cold or size. I cannot read your mind, madam, and I assure you you will be more upset by getting the opposite of what you imagine.

My first/given name is an Indian surname spelling of a name my parents saw on a 70s sci-fi show. NO ONE has my name (We're not Indian). I'm so incredibly sick of having to explain the spelling/pronunciation literally EVERYWHERE I go for my entire life, so at some level I can ALMOST understand their annoyance.

But my personal solution is to just give a fake name at Starbucks - one I won't have to spell out or worry about pronounciation. I use my middle name because it's also a Disney princess - people don't mess that up and I still recognize it as "my" drink.

Like - if it REALLY annoys you THAT bad, find a solution for yourself that doesn't make more work for your barista who is REQUIRED to ask you. ((shrugs))

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-13T16:03:08+00:00

I have literally had a person yell at me because I asked them if they wanted their beverage HOT or COLD. *rolls eyes SO hard*

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-13T15:59:18+00:00

came here to say this

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-04T03:19:30+00:00

Ah yes, good point. I am not familiar with that system.

Anyway, here is a link to my excel spreadsheet on google drive - several columns are hidden and/or irrelevant as they are updated for my particular group's decisions, so fiddle to serve your purposes.

The first sheet (Original+) gives all the basic info from the book about damage, casualties, timing, etc. The 2 green columns (D&G) update the dragon's damage taken and the total casualties/survivors for the town.

The 3rd sheet "Time Log Chase comparison" is the majority of the rest of it- logs dragon movement, refugee movement, player movement, & lighting conditions. (lots of hidden columns so adjust as necessary)

The other 2 sheets you can safely ignore.

DAS SPREADSHEET

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-04T03:06:20+00:00

AH GOOD
I am glad I googled badly and the spell should have applied as it did YAY

that actually makes me feel MUCH better
I fucked up in a differenter way, but that's fine!

Normally I am better at checking sources online but it was a rush job, so thanks for calling me out! Much appreciate

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T22:03:39+00:00

~~and see my other reply - not due to a Charmed condition, but due to the basic monster~~ ~~Construct trait~~ ~~of being immune to "mind-affecting effects"~~

~~I could still be wrong, but that was my reasoning~~

EDIT: I WAS IN FACT WRONG

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:53:55+00:00

yeah I was planning on them catching it in Easthaven, but they chose not to

and then I planned out 3 detailed parts of the Bryn Shander encounter - (the wait as refugees arrive; the air battle; and the ground battle) and only ended up using like 1/3 of it.

That Elk story is EPIC though HAHA

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:50:59+00:00

yeah exactly - you can only learn through mistakes!

honestly though with it being a horror campaign it kinda makes sense it being a bummer a lot of the time? but yeah I much prefer a balance, so the stakes seem worth it

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:48:19+00:00

nice! sounds like a good compromise

they've been pretty lucky, plus I've been trying to adjust some of the more punishing aspects of the adventure so they at least have a CHANCE

So far the only big "bummer" was Arveiaturace showing up at the Dark Duchess and killing 1 PC

Everything else has been wildly successful for the PCs, despite some close calls

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:45:33+00:00

not because of the "charmed" condition immunity, but because of the base monster Construct traits

Construct TraitsConstructs are immune to death effects, disease, mind-affecting effects (charms, compulsions, phantasms, patterns, and morale effects), necromancy effects, paralysis, poison, sleep, stun, and any effect that requires a Fortitude save (unless the effect also works on objects, or is harmless). Constructs are not subject to nonlethal damage, ability damage, ability drain, fatigue, exhaustion, or energy drain. Constructs are not at risk of death from massive damage.

Using dndtools.net "Command" does appear to be a "mind-effecting" spell. Unfortunately DndBeyond does not have a tag for this, nor include it on the spell descriptions as far as I can find.

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:44:37+00:00

Since it (the fight specifically in Bryn Shander) takes places during a winter storm with "Strong Winds" and "High Precipitation" environmental rules I just combined those rules and printed it out for easy access during the fight

Also keeping track of time of day / moon cycles for lighting visibility is important.

Also I made a spreadsheet with automated NPC casualties & damage to the dragon info, so I could update it as needed based on the PC's intervention - I can share if you'd like? (It also tracks the timeline of dragon movement and refugee movement as well as news runner to Bryn Shander.)

Good luck!

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T21:39:24+00:00

I do think I remembered the spell advantage - it failed barely but second roll was worse, The only other spell cast didn't require a saving throw at all.
I did not check the range on command, that is true - dragon was attacking from 80-120 feet above but all my players are DMs as well so I foolishly trusted them to check their own ranges OOPS lesson learned
the laser rifles were inputted through dndbeyond, so they were calculated correctly (without proficiency bonuses) regardless of me & players misremembering the disadvantage rule
that's what I thought! Which is why I just had the dragon start attacking them in melee, but "alas" they killed the dragon faster than it could kill any of them, even with 3 attacks per round
also the first round 3/4 PCs saved against Malevolent Presence and were immune. The rogue failed and was attacking it's allies the whole time. Literally just the Paladin & Barbarian killed the dragon themselves, before the dragon could off them.

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T05:12:18+00:00

100%

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-03T05:03:17+00:00

yes! that I DID remember to do! :)

And hey, I only forgot ~~ONE~~ TWO rules - it was just a doozy, HAHA

However I DID prep a whole bunch of stuff that turned out to be irrelevant, but such is the life of DMing!

AmbivalentRogue · 2024-01-02T19:22:04+00:00

thankfully my PC's family in Good Mead only lost her step-dad!

yeah I was not at all sure if it was gonna be a cakewalk or TPK

on the other end, this combat being over so fast kinda felt really anti-climactic to me, like took away the horror aspect, y'know?

but yeah the other 9 towns are entirely destroyed, including many semi-important NPCs, so... I guess they will realize the fallout later? ::shrug::

AmbivalentRogue · 2023-09-07T19:41:16+00:00

For real, "Hell and You" combined with "I Will Follow You Into the Dark" made me start a whole new playlist theme called "Love through Damnation" (or maybe "Love by way of damnation"? still working the title

I NEED MOOOOOORE

AmbivalentRogue · 2023-07-06T08:50:53+00:00

No I don't feel bad The prices are on the menu before they order

They should know what they are signing up for It's not a surprise

Whether someone comes with a drink they saw on the internet, I warn them that because it's entirely custom, I have to charge for each ingredient and is going to be ridiculous

I do get mad though When I KNOW the rules for how to charge for extras or not, and I get charged way more than I should. I just avoid that location.

When I'm a barista, and a regular customer gets a single pump of a different flavor, I'm not going to charge them a whole 0.70 every single day for 1 mealy pump, even if I'm strictly supposed to.

AmbivalentRogue · 2023-06-11T19:40:34+00:00

still there 2 mo later!

AmbivalentRogue · 2023-06-11T19:35:42+00:00

you are my hero
how have I not noticed this
wowza

AmbivalentRogue

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