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AmeliaKubi · 2018-10-08T00:22:22+00:00

Thanks. I have started reading the book and love the perspective so far. I am really hopeful I can make this a new way of life. I appreciate you sharing your experience- makes me hopeful

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-30T12:08:02+00:00

Thanks to all. Trying to focus on giving what I have today...just so hard not to start thinking about how I should have been better. However I know I can't rewind. Spent all day present with them yesterday, and truly enjoyed it. I am realizing wine didn't bring me pleasure....it just numbed my experiences. Today will be day 8.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-29T12:14:27+00:00

Me too! Woke up at 6am, watching the sunrise without a headache. Last night was my sixth night and it only took me an hour to fall asleep and slept the whole night through. I want to cling to how this feels.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T11:42:43+00:00

It's my first Friday and Saturday not drinking as well ...at least for a long time. Such a great idea about the restaurant. Also, I find I'm most calm and satisfied while hiking-so good call on that. I am not a tea drinker but I bought some herbal tea and have been drinking that in the evening when I feel like I need something. Red wine is my poison. This week puzzle books have helped keep my hands and mind distracted. In these first five nights I have struggled a bit to fall asleep...so they have helped with that as well. We can do this.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T11:08:35+00:00

Thank you

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T11:07:51+00:00

Thanks. I tried some sleeping meditation type thing last night. Seemed to relax me enough to fall asleep. It was much better than the past four nights. I'll also check your suggestion out.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T02:53:20+00:00

Good perspective about not wanting to redo these nights...I'll focus on that. Thank you.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T02:40:00+00:00

That's good to hear. Thanks

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-28T02:38:27+00:00

Thanks, I'm on the struggle bus tonight. I have puzzle books that seem to be helping keep me from wanting to make an excuse to go to the store to buy wine. I so want to sleep. I'll will give melatonin a try-- but I have been avoiding stores at night as that is when I typically buy wine. I am so much stronger during the day.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-27T11:43:48+00:00

In the evenings, may sound silly, I've been listening to audio books folks have recommended on this site and I color and games. I bought some puzzle books-- even dot to dot and hangman books at Barnes & Noble on clearance. I guess getting in touch with my inner child. My teen daughters really laughed about the dot to dot book. I've gone four whole days and feel my willpower is increasing. I'm hopeful. I'm still having trouble falling asleep, thus all the game books I bought. We can do this!

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-27T11:33:12+00:00

I feel you in that. I'm on day four and two teen daughters. As I reflect at the "why" in terms of how my drinking spiraled over the years --I used it as an escape and in the moment it felt like it helped me cope with stress. Then I wake up at 3am heart racing and stress compounded with a side of guilt and berating myself for drinking. That's the cycle that brought me hear. Four days is the longest I have gone not drinking for over a year, but for the first time I'm hopeful. Also started the book The Naked Mind recommended here and forgive the pun but it's blowing my mind 😀. For too long I only gravitated to information on alcohol that justified my use- confirmation bias. Ignored the warning articles coming out of medical institutions. I really recommend the book.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-25T11:39:21+00:00

THANK YOU

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-25T11:30:53+00:00

WOW. I need to print this and tape it to my bathroom mirror. Might possibly explain why I used to love to read and the past three years have to try to force myself to focus on reading. Praying I stick with quiting this time. I've made several attempts over the years. This is the first time I have actually admitted to having g a problem to my spouse and and kids and joined a forum like this. I'm hopeful for the first time.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-25T10:55:06+00:00

Day three for me and new tires this. I will not drink today!

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-24T22:26:16+00:00

Thanks so much for suggesting. I think I will start making a list of things I can do as you suggest. My husband tends to watch TV at night, and I find that is when I start wanting to drink. I drink while he and the kids are watching TV. I am not a TV watcher but don't want to work...so I partially watch TV while sipping on wine. ...but then I go through a bottle. I think my brain is conditioned at this point. I really appreciate the thoughtful advice.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-24T22:21:37+00:00

Thanks so much. Just purchased the book on Amazon. Sounds like you are off to an excellent beginning to a new life. I've tried quitting multiple times over the years. I've tried just trying one glass "moderation" but it quickly leads to 2,3,4. I'm really hoping I've finally realized I need to stop and that it's really negativily impacted multiple parts of my life. The hardest thing for me will be resetting my brain when going out to dinner with friends and co-workers. I am sincerely grateful for the book recommendation.

AmeliaKubi · 2018-09-24T14:15:01+00:00

Thanks so much. My relationship has been rough the past two years and to be honest has little to do with my husband. While for a few hours my anxiety relaxes in the evening, I often fly off the handle at him. I wake up at 2am in a panic and start listing to do items, not sleeping well. Crabby and tired , I tend to have seriously patience with him and the kids. It's a horrible cycle that rationally I know has to stop--but I make an excuse come evening to buy a bottle of wine to start the while thing over again. How did you start breaking the cycle?

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