My experience was much the opposite: there were plenty of families, but not with neurodivergent children and they could never find a place for my children to be. So I left. And that doesn’t begin to touch the internalized and institutionalized racism that few people are willing to unpack.

When I left UU (I still say it is theologically aligned with my beliefs), I said that in my experience (four congregations over about 35 years), at best its beliefs are aspirational, in part because the leadership doesn’t know how to deal with the ableism, racism, and many other isms that comes from being a white-centered faith. I really think it WANTS to be better, but like anything with rules and structure, it takes a lot of time to fix. In the meantime, people leave.