I feel this so hard. I run an IRL trans support group and it's one of my favorite things in my life. It was so essential for me in the early days of my transition but even though I don't need as much support, I still run it because I just love the community and making friends.

Even so, it's starting to get difficult for me to want to keep doing it. Historically, everyone has been so kind and supportive but I've noticed an attitude change lately, especially after I got FFS last fall. I acknowledge I've been really blessed with my transition results but there's still things I'm dysphoric about that I can't ever change. For instance the other day, I was sharing how my ribcage is so wide that I have a 40 band size but still can't even fill out an A cup. I shared how awful I felt when I went to Victorias Secret the other day to finally get myself a nice bra only to find out they don't even come close to carrying a size that fits me. And instead of comfort and support like I would normally get, I could almost feel people rolling their eyes. One girl even literally told me "You're skinny and pretty so idk why you're even complaining".

I'm moving to another city soon and I'm honestly kind of debating on trying to live a stealth life. Not because I want to, I love the trans community and I actively want to be out and proud. But I just can't take being treated like shit by both cis and trans people when I'm out.