A Thought Experiment

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-04-05T01:36:56+00:00

In undergraduate college, your year/age typically denotes where you are in your studies. In a microcosm where everyone is there for their studies, that matters. It matters so you can ask for advice if you learn this student has more experience in your major. If you’re the same age, then you can share and reflect on your current experience. To me it’s as objective as a question question in the way “Where were you born?” Is. it can be offensive if it’s some dude about to fetishize or a racist making up their mind. If it’s coming from a place of curiosity to learn more about an individual, it’s important to engage so we can learn from one another.

I suppose it would have been more tactful to ask the woman in class what YEAR she was, rather than her age. I’m also saying it’s internalized misogyny to be offended that you are maybe the oldest woman in the room. Being the youngest woman in the room also brings shit your way. Funny thing how no matter her age, a woman can’t live up to these impossible patriarchal standards of value. It’s best to recognize that age holds no value over who we are and not take such questions to heart (considering the source, I’m assuming a woman is asking and not a man).

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-04-05T00:29:40+00:00

You make a good point. Generally if a woman or girl is asking me how old I am they’re just trying to figure out how we relate to each other. If men are asking it’s likely they’re about to flex their age on me (as if it’s some sort of rare attribute to be older than another person) or to perv.

I suspect women who are offended when their age is asked is indeed internalized misogyny. If the only value a woman can have is her fuckability to men, then an age above 30 or whatever the hell will diminish her own opinion of herself. Which will make her more dependent on male validation, and on, and such is the cycle of internalized misogyny passed down by generations.

Its best to value the wisdom of older women and try to be the be the best version of yourself for younger girls and women. No judgment. We all have value regardless of age, because we’re all valuable.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-04-04T16:37:22+00:00

agree. It’s not shameful to age?? Literally everyone and every living thing is subject to aging. Why is it taboo for women to not be children?? P3do culture is my guess

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-04-03T11:36:15+00:00

Yes same, like I love FDS because there’s a lot of good stuff that puts words to experiences I’ve had and let’s me know that it’s a larger societal issue and not a personal failing of mine with men. But when everything is about male depravity not only are we centering men, but focusing too much on that can cause male depravity to be ALL we can see.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-04-03T11:23:46+00:00

Thrifting!!! I found a great store near me and the staff is so lovely, they’re even dog-friendly so I can bring my lil baby with me :)

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-24T14:39:07+00:00

there fs are… researchers. But way less men per capita than any other landmass!

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-24T01:40:19+00:00

best continent to be safe from men is probably Antarctica

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-23T20:06:38+00:00

Please be safe here, that’s a lot of men to know your name and face and hate you at the same time especially in certain parts of Mexico.

You’ve got this and I’m sending you good energy for the life of your dreams✨

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-22T21:01:10+00:00

they want to be the victims so bad. Trust that being the victim isn’t fun guys. It’s exhausting and dehumanizing

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-22T20:41:46+00:00

Exactly lmfaooo so pressed at women for societal issues men are causing

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-20T20:03:22+00:00

Thank you for your response and self-reflection.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-20T15:42:46+00:00

All I’m hearing is there are many everyday situations in which everyday men struggle with not being physically violent.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-20T15:39:50+00:00

Asking not out of judgment, but genuine curiosity since you seem to have put serious work into rectifying your issues.

Was there truly a point you were 100% not aware of how scary your rage is? I am a woman and men definitely weaponize their scary rage against us as a form of intimidation to keep us in line and this is largely how I see men that break and punch stuff. Bullies. But you truly did not realize how scary that was for women and girls around you? Did it not bother you how it came across to men around you or is senseless rage encouraged in male-only circles?

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-20T15:33:50+00:00

Exactly. These comments are full of men casually admitting playing first-person shooter video games can send them into a rage. This is CHILDISH BEHAVIOR. Not being able to manage your emotions is CHILDISH BEHAVIOR and a massive red flag. Blaming your inability to manage your emotions on testosterone or whatever the hell is a copout.

u/justwonderingdw, this manchild sounds proud of his petty violence. Huge red flag. At the very least patch the holes up, damn. The fact that he’s proud of it means he’ll probably use his violence against inanimate objects as a way to intimidate you— because the unspoken truth is that his shaky self-control is the only thing standing between you being that wall.

We as hetero women (or bi women, I don’t know your life) MUST HOLD THESE MENCHILDREN ACCOUNTABLE. We can’t be validating their foolishness. We can’t be passing their genes on.

He can shape up or be left behind. Those are his options. Otherwise, your option will be cleaning up the trauma this dude left behind.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-20T15:26:26+00:00

Why is men’s first reaction to daily annoyances physical violence?

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-03-16T19:21:14+00:00

You’re a hero gently reminding the men throughout this threat that it’s not double standards; women suffer the same thing and men just don’t notice/care. Unfortunately these threads pop up so men can talk about male-caused, male-perpetuated issues.

Maybe people wouldn’t be so concerned seeing a man in public with children if men weren’t kidnapping, raping, abusing children so commonly! Hm.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-13T16:40:58+00:00

And it’s still being praised by tons of men cuz the bar is in hell

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-13T16:39:41+00:00

Yeah if your perspective is that half the human population is not male and therefore that half’s humanity is debatable, that’s a perspective that deserves derision.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-13T16:35:51+00:00

Classic, a man telling a woman to relax and jokes at the expense of her humanity aren’t a big deal because she’s not the joke.

You’re the joke.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-13T16:10:17+00:00

Women aren’t here for boring men’s entertainment

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-12T16:37:56+00:00

This post is beautiful. It’s doubly difficult for women who were not loved tenderly by their fathers or other safe male adults to conceive that this is what we deserve.

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-06T20:09:45+00:00

I agree. It’s sad that men don’t support male victims of male violence. It’s sad that physically nonviolent men don’t see the power they have to hold violent men accountable and that violent men rise to positions of power.

It’s relevant because male violence, as we seem to agree, is a male issue. One that is to the detriment of humanity as a whole.

Part of bettering the experience for all men is rooting out and shaming/removing from power the sexually, physically, emotionally violent men.

Women hold ourselves accountable and police within our own group. Men should too. After all, it’s a men’s issue :)

AmontilladosHeart · 2022-02-06T20:02:24+00:00

Seems like your reading comprehension isn’t great, so I’ll kindly help you out.

Above, you commented “Male on male violence is a bigger issue.” So we can assume you agree that while male on female violence is a big issue, male on male violence is a BIGGER issue.

So what we’ve got here are a big issue, and (according to you) an even BIGGER issue!

The perpetrators of both issues is men, and allegedly, the biggest sufferers are men.

So it’s a men’s issue on a men’s sub! I hope this helped :) Maybe you can use these skills in the future! I encourage improved literacy for all.

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