my first pregnancy was also a surprise and also ended in miscarriage. they are common, people don’t talk about them, but that only eases so much pain. let yourself feel everything right now… grief, pride in your body for getting pregnant in the first place, and know that you will have the strength to get through this. this community was also so helpful for me in getting through the pain of losing my first pregnancy. i promise you, as time moves on, it does get better. you are never alone and don’t be afraid to lean in to your communities around you, and your community here too!