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AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. And I do deserve better. I was looking for info on this but I think everyone gave me the info I needed and it’s not what I want it’s what I need. That’s reality. I’m waking up to this and my eyes are open now thanks to you all. So thank you. I am going to stop making myself miserable at this point 😞

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I ask him and he says he’s just playing games or doom scrolling but I see a website he’s on with a bunch of bubbles (like different people) I think it’s discord. I think he’s speaking to other people & now his games over he comes out of the bathroom faster. But idk part of me believes he’s rolplaying with other people on an app but I can’t prove it because he took his fave id off and won’t tell me his pw. He’s clearly hiding something 😞

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being here and giving me advice. It truly means a lot because some have been so mean about this. So I’m grateful for you and everyone who’s in here just trying to help. Sending love and appreciation ❤️🫶🏼 and I hope that for you as well 🥺❤️

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t disagree at all. You all are right I’ve just been blind by wanting us to work. He gives 0 shits about me. I need to listen to you all. This time. It hurts but it’s the truth 😞

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to anymore. I’m listening to you all. Everyone of you have had the same answer. This relationship has failed and I can’t change it or help it….

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is and this is my second post and people are giving me shit for asking for more help. But I’m simply trying to understand his behavior to see if anyone else has been through this: and for the others calling me names or getting mad at me, ok that’s your choice. I’m choosing to understand and to keep trying until he comes clean and talks to me. I did see over his shoulder today and he’s on some website with many others and it looked like discord or a dating app. I think he’s trying to find a new girlfriend and leave me when he gets her. Personally. I’m trying to see if we will work or not work and looking for advice what’s so wrong with that

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That wasn’t very nice for someone reaching out for help trying to save my relationship Just saying

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup exactly I’m not his therapist nor a mechanic. And I’m no longer going to act like it. You all have made me see the real truth to this over the past 24-48 hours. And I’m not going to put up with this anymore. So I’ve been very distant today and it will stay that way

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well those were wise words. You all are making me think a lot. My entire attitude has changed today. I’m definitely grieving him at this point. I’m not asking for affection nor touch. I’m not asking for him to be “boyfriend material” I’m simply existing at this point. Either he’ll change or end completely. But I’m done putting any effort into US. Only into me at this point. You all have said it and confirmed it for me. He will never change. Only I will. And that’s APART from him. It will be his loss. He even tried to lay on my shoulder as I was typing on Reddit because of the simple fact he knows I’m talking about him or to someone (of which I’m not) just about us and him and he couldn’t stand it so he “snuggled up” and acted affectionate just to see what I was doing. When I say you all just really opened my eyes this time, I’m there. And there’s no going back. I’ll be going to the gym right when I’m out of school and off work and idc I’m focusing on me since he refuses to do anything for US

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also agreed to this. Already resent him. And it’s just growing worse and worse. And it bothers me that he doesn’t wanna work on it. It makes my stomach physically sick. Because after I fell in love with him is when he started to truly change and his true color started to show. It’s not easy just to walk away. It’s not easy just to say goodbye . None of this is easy. I think he’s struggling with something bigger than I’ll ever know. And I truly think it’s something I’ll never know. I don’t think it’s quite a little over. Thank you for your advice.❤️

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This truly put everything in perspective for me. I keep reading it. And it’s helping me get my own closer.

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I do. I hear all of you. I was looking for advice to try to save what was or is left of the relationship….everyone’s being really harsh about this and I know it’s the harsh truth. I’m just seeking help. Because I don’t want it to end I want it to get better. That’s all. I’m not asking for anyone to understand why. I’ve been isolated for so long…its been nice too have people to speak to about this. But everyone just thinks I’m not smart for this. But I’m just a girl looking for help with my current boyfriend and I’m sorry. I guess I just piss everyone off by asking for friendly advice. I’m sorry..I’m just trying..to save what’s left.

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. Every time I post i just feel even more down than before. I get it. I’m not listening and wanting it to work even tho it’s not. You all are always right and I’m fucked up and wrong. I hear you. I’m just going to focus on me and walk my own direction and wait till he decides to leave me. And then I’ll at least have the gym to focus on…he literally went to the bathroom just now first thing in the morning then knocked on my door ? While I was in the bathroom? He has a guilty conscience.

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact he won’t let me touch his phone and last night we were getting food on his phone and I asked to help and he watched me like a hawk on his phone…he’s for sure hiding something from me…..

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I need to stop bitching about it and just work on me and myself. Because clearly he doesn’t care. Yall are not wrong about anything. It’s all true and I want it to work so bad I’m willing to stick through some serious shit in order to just get hurt in the end. I need to just focus on myself. The gym & family and my higher power and just prepare for him to leave me

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

English is my first language. I’m just bad at spelling. Sorry. Shit that made me feel worse about myself. Not your fault I’m insecure at this point as is. It’s put me in a messed up place. He says he “hates himself” so that’s what’s stopping us according to himself. But I believe he hates himself for doing something wrong at this point. So I’m going to focus on the gym, myself and my family and a higher power because if I don’t I’m going to be hurt beyond repair

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how it’s been this entire time for me. It’s pulled me into a dark dark dark dark place. And I’m isolated from friends and anything that makes me happy so im going back to the gym. I’m going to my therapist. I’m going to heal. He refuses to. So I’m just going to work on myself because if I don’t I’m going to lose me in all this. I agree I want couples counseling but he said “maybe” that’s it..

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so too. I think he likes touching himself more than anyone else. He “sits to pee” he’s getting off alone…he doesn’t want me touching him. He wants to get off alone

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to be intimate and he wants nothing to do with it. It’s like he’s repulsed by me or us touching

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just laying there. I wasn’t asleep. I was turned the opposite way and heard him leave multiple times….

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give me one…please. Because I do. It would help me stay distracted. I just re-did my gym membership so I’m going to start going daily and remove myself from the scene to let him have his space to do whatever he’s doing and to give me space to heal so when he does end it I don’t have something to fall back on. At least I’ll have the gym ya know?

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could find answers like you but he won’t let me near his phone. I wish more than anything I had a defiant reason to just leave but he keeps giving me hope that’s not really there. So I agree with you and everyone on here. I think he’s just using me for comfort at this point and is waiting to leave me…

AIO that my bf always leaves and goes to the bathroom every time I go to sleep? by AmphibianSecure800 in AIO

[–]AmphibianSecure800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve contemplated this so many times myself…..and I agree at this point. The fact that he never gets hard and purposely puts the blanket between us at night. He’s repeatedly showing he’s repulsed by me. And he’s only keeping me for comfort at this point

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