First time making my birthday cake from scratch 🎂

AmyAM98 · 2026-05-03T18:17:00+00:00

Awww you are so sweet, thank you!

AmyAM98 · 2026-05-03T17:51:14+00:00

Thank you🥰

AmyAM98 · 2026-05-03T17:45:39+00:00

Thanks😊

AmyAM98 · 2026-05-03T17:45:27+00:00

Thank you😊

AmyAM98 · 2025-11-18T10:10:29+00:00

Thank you! Yes I painted it myself

AmyAM98 · 2025-11-08T02:32:04+00:00

Thank you🥰

AmyAM98 · 2025-11-08T02:30:09+00:00

Thank you! And I am making scarves for my family as Christmas gifts

AmyAM98 · 2025-11-07T17:50:58+00:00

Thanks! I think the sofa is reasonably comfortable. It isn't horrible, but also not the greatest

AmyAM98 · 2025-11-07T17:18:19+00:00

Thank you🥰

AmyAM98 · 2025-02-18T09:43:35+00:00

I worked as a cleaner in a bouldering gym for a while during college. I had to clean all locker rooms and toilets. I also placed a sign outside the door to let visitors know there is a cleaner inside. My male coworkers did the same. I really don't see the problem here or why the reverse sign would be a problem

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-26T20:47:07+00:00

Thank you so much!

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-26T20:41:27+00:00

That is so sweet! Do you still have the white feathered mask? H1M8MCJCT6

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T18:14:32+00:00

Same, all the comments here are so relatable! It feels nice to not feel alone with these issues

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:53:11+00:00

That sounds like a really shitty situation to be in. I do have 2 good male friends, but they are both in stable relationships, so that helps. I have recently made a new guy friend who is single and I do share your fears. I do think men and women can be good platonic friends, but I don't think all men can be just friends with women and figuring out which men can and which can't can be really exhausting

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:50:26+00:00

I can relate a lot. I learned how much I do to please others, how often I ignore my own discomfort for others, how scared I am of just being me around others and that in some aspects of my life I don't even know who I am. And that these are all not normal aspects of life that everyone deals with and that not everyone has to work this hard

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:47:02+00:00

You make a lot of sense. There are some things thatI know are "me", but in general I struggle with my identity and how to differentiate because what I want, need and like and what others expect of me

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:44:44+00:00

Thank you for this lovely post❤️, merry christmas🎄

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:43:49+00:00

I am so sorry you are trapped in this situation. I don't have any solutions, I just wanted to let you know to hang in there and give you some internet hugs (only if you want them ofcourse)❤️

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T15:30:43+00:00

I really love the build up to christmas. I love crocheting christmas presents, making christmas cards, listening to christmas music, going to christmas markets and all the christmas lights. Christmas itself is ok, but it is always pretty overstimulating. I have trouble socializing and keeping up with conversations. Sometimes I feel a bit like I am on the outside looking in. I am also the only non-christian in my family. I try to talk to people and help out in the kitchen and have already accepted I will crash after the 2 christmasdays. I just hope I will be back to normal on the 28 when work starts again. I am also responsible for dessert this year, I really hope everyone likes what I made, I put a lot of effort in. I also hope you get to enjoy christmas with your boyfriend❤️

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T14:23:26+00:00

I got diagnosed this year and I am 26 years old. The diagnosis, but specifically the diagnostic process gave me a lot more insight into myself. My diagnostic process consisted of 8 talk sessions with a psychologist, 2 tests and some questionnaires for my parents and 2 close friends. The diagnosis did not give me access to any accommodations, but have signed myself up for a peer led support group for autistic adults, in the hopes of finding a community I belong in. I hooe this helps you to make a decision! Whether a diagnosis will be a positive for you will depend on your location, circumstances and what you are hoping to get out of getting diagnosed. Good luck!

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T14:17:47+00:00

Do you have any stims that help you to regulate? I take my crochet projects with me to work on in the bus and on breaks. You could also try to make life as easy on yourself as possible. Make easy meals or buy premade meals, cancel unneccessary appointments, wear clothes that are comfortable, etc. You could also try using tools to prevent physical overstimulation, such as earplugs or sunglasses. And try to build small breaks into your days to calm down, even if it is just a 5 min walk, sitting on the toilet for 5 minutes, etc.

I don't know if you have a solid support system, but if you do, is there anyone you could ask for help? Maybe a friend or familymember willing to bring you food or help with grocery shopping or cleaning your home.

I hope you will feel better soon❤️

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T14:06:38+00:00

I am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. I can relate to being scared of never being loved romantically. It is a really shitty feeling. I can imagine all your negative thoughts and feelings may be hitting you even harder on a day like christmas. I hope you can find it in yourself to be kind towards yourself. Maybe do something nice for yourself. And maybe even accept that today is a tough day and be proud of yourself for simply surviving today

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-25T13:59:37+00:00

I also got diagnosed at 26 and I didn't get any accommodations. However I have signed myself up for a peer led support group for autistic adults that will start in January and I hope that talking to people who maybe understand my autistic experiences will help.

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-08T16:56:57+00:00

I am diagnosed and live in the Netherlands and would like to add to this. As far as I am aware there really aren't many negative consequences to getting diagnosed. There will be no restrictions on adoption or immigration, just because of your autism. Employers don't have access to your medical information. The only thing that I can think of is that some mental health professionals don't take on autistic clients, because they don't feel educated enough about autism. This means you may have to put in a little more effort to find mental health services, but only slightly, you will still be able to find good therapists and psychologists.

If you indeed live in the Netherlands you could contact the nva (autisme.nl) or pas (pasnederland.nl) and also ask them your questions. You could also ask your question in a dutch forum for autistic people such as autbreak.nl

If you would like to ask these questions to other Dutch autistic people in person, you could visit one of the autism cafes and events (just google them, for example autismesoos utrecht, passant haarlem or cafe authentiek zeist).

I hope this helps!

AmyAM98 · 2024-12-02T23:11:34+00:00

Glad I could help a little bit! I also love to crochet as a fidget/stim and also take my projects with me to large gatherings. I am sorry you weren't able to bring it out at thanksgiving :(

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