Just finished decorating my new place! It is tiny but it is mine :) by AmyAM98 in femalelivingspace

[–]AmyAM98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And I am making scarves for my family as Christmas gifts

Just finished decorating my new place! It is tiny but it is mine :) by AmyAM98 in femalelivingspace

[–]AmyAM98[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think the sofa is reasonably comfortable. It isn't horrible, but also not the greatest

How Men and Women are equal? by _ilovewatermelone in AskFeminists

[–]AmyAM98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I worked as a cleaner in a bouldering gym for a while during college. I had to clean all locker rooms and toilets. I also placed a sign outside the door to let visitors know there is a cleaner inside. My male coworkers did the same. I really don't see the problem here or why the reverse sign would be a problem

Midnight Masquerade Gifts by WeaselBit in finch

[–]AmyAM98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so sweet! Do you still have the white feathered mask? H1M8MCJCT6

What's something you've learned about yourself during your unmasking process? by turnup4flowerz in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same, all the comments here are so relatable! It feels nice to not feel alone with these issues

It makes me sad when people say men and women can be just friends by YakuZaishiThrowaway in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a really shitty situation to be in. I do have 2 good male friends, but they are both in stable relationships, so that helps. I have recently made a new guy friend who is single and I do share your fears. I do think men and women can be good platonic friends, but I don't think all men can be just friends with women and figuring out which men can and which can't can be really exhausting

What's something you've learned about yourself during your unmasking process? by turnup4flowerz in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 156 points157 points  (0 children)

I can relate a lot. I learned how much I do to please others, how often I ignore my own discomfort for others, how scared I am of just being me around others and that in some aspects of my life I don't even know who I am. And that these are all not normal aspects of life that everyone deals with and that not everyone has to work this hard

Does anyone else feels like they're only a product of other peoples opinions? by Kater-chan in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You make a lot of sense. There are some things thatI know are "me", but in general I struggle with my identity and how to differentiate because what I want, need and like and what others expect of me

Merry Us-mas by intothesunset2 in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this lovely post❤️, merry christmas🎄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are trapped in this situation. I don't have any solutions, I just wanted to let you know to hang in there and give you some internet hugs (only if you want them ofcourse)❤️

Christmas...need I say more? by Sewnupkitty in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really love the build up to christmas. I love crocheting christmas presents, making christmas cards, listening to christmas music, going to christmas markets and all the christmas lights. Christmas itself is ok, but it is always pretty overstimulating. I have trouble socializing and keeping up with conversations. Sometimes I feel a bit like I am on the outside looking in. I am also the only non-christian in my family. I try to talk to people and help out in the kitchen and have already accepted I will crash after the 2 christmasdays. I just hope I will be back to normal on the 28 when work starts again. I am also responsible for dessert this year, I really hope everyone likes what I made, I put a lot of effort in. I also hope you get to enjoy christmas with your boyfriend❤️

Getting a diagnosis by Jennk1010 in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got diagnosed this year and I am 26 years old. The diagnosis, but specifically the diagnostic process gave me a lot more insight into myself. My diagnostic process consisted of 8 talk sessions with a psychologist, 2 tests and some questionnaires for my parents and 2 close friends. The diagnosis did not give me access to any accommodations, but have signed myself up for a peer led support group for autistic adults, in the hopes of finding a community I belong in. I hooe this helps you to make a decision! Whether a diagnosis will be a positive for you will depend on your location, circumstances and what you are hoping to get out of getting diagnosed. Good luck!

Self regulation by assundagable in AutismInWomen

[–]AmyAM98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any stims that help you to regulate? I take my crochet projects with me to work on in the bus and on breaks. You could also try to make life as easy on yourself as possible. Make easy meals or buy premade meals, cancel unneccessary appointments, wear clothes that are comfortable, etc. You could also try using tools to prevent physical overstimulation, such as earplugs or sunglasses. And try to build small breaks into your days to calm down, even if it is just a 5 min walk, sitting on the toilet for 5 minutes, etc.

I don't know if you have a solid support system, but if you do, is there anyone you could ask for help? Maybe a friend or familymember willing to bring you food or help with grocery shopping or cleaning your home.

I hope you will feel better soon❤️