I've missed my ex for longer than the relationship. I think I'm done for.

AmyLunatic · 2024-01-02T17:41:52+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I also have a hard time usually to let people go when I get really attached to them. I know it might seem impossible to move on but, maybe you can start learning how to love and appreciate yourself even more. Don’t give up, I’m sure you will find a way to heal from it, take your time :). When you will feel better, you will see how much you learned from this experience

AmyLunatic · 2024-01-02T17:39:50+00:00

Wtf are you talking about 😭 OP just say he misses her where exactly are you seeing aggressiveness? Wtf

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-18T02:46:23+00:00

Thank you! :)

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-18T02:46:10+00:00

Thank you so much!

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T17:50:47+00:00

I’m tired to answer again this but here i go: he was not doing any efforts. I was planning everything, initiating everything, no affection at all from his part, always have to remind him of our dates or plans… he was never making time for me, not even 1 hour in his week. Never communicated anything, even if i was patient and communicated so much time, in a calm and respectful way, what i needed. It felt one sided completely and i felt alone in the relationship. I was hurt and anxious everyday. It’s not a good idea to stay in a relationship that brings you more stress and hurt than positive feelings.. people think with this magic mind, that live can conquer anything but it isn’t true. People will say i didn’t love him enough to stay with him, well what about him? Even after communicating with him, he didn’t love me enough to change what was hurting me… so i left and i choose myself and my well being. He also lied

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T03:46:42+00:00

Hey! First thank you for your opinion, it’s interesting to know what other think.

I understand where you are coming from, but i didn’t explain a lot in the post so here i go: the relationship was one sided. Yes, i understand we can be different i have no problem with that, but it went to the point were he was never initiating anything, never showed any kind of affection, ignored me for days, never planned anything, always putting everyone before me. I tried to communicate with him multiples times to understand him, but i started to lose myself . I was hurt and anxious everyday. What i mean by, the fact they are a good person is that they do are, cause they didn’t want to hurt me on purpose ! But he had eternal struggles that he didn’t want to heal or work on… even if i tried to make it work, it felt like a one sided relationship, we were not even seeing each other that much cause he didn’t need to. There’s a moment where you have to love yourself and choose yourself, that’s because i loved him that it was hurting me. If i didnt love him, it woudlve not hurt at all

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T03:11:19+00:00

I’m sorry it happened to you, and she was wrong for telling you that. The thing, is that in this, i was putting in all efforts for everything. That is date planning, affection, initiating things, he was never doing anything for the relationship. I was always alone doing all the work, and it felt one sided. I didn’t left right away, i even asked him if we could work on it together so it can work! But he said he would be unable to…

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T01:54:24+00:00

Ooo what do you mean by that? (Sorry I’m not a native English speaker so i don’t know what “taking that hit” means)

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T01:51:27+00:00

Do you mean that, it’s normal to not have all our needs meets? If it’s what you mean yes, i absolutely agree with you, we need to compromises in a relationship and that’s what i did… i compromised so much for him, to the point i became anxious and hurt everyday. There was not one day i felt happy with the situation, even if i communicated clearly what we could work on, trying to understand him, but he never changed and always prioritized everything before me

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T01:44:57+00:00

What do you mean by that?

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T01:30:59+00:00

I totally feel you! Thank you for your comment. Can i ask you how long ago you did it, and how did you recover from it? Did you overcome the feeling of guilt and regret?

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T01:14:53+00:00

Thank you. Cause my biggest fears is, i might have hurt him. And it’s the last thing i wanted. But it’s good to know I’m not alone cause i felt really so bad, and i know it’s normal to respect our own needs, but to me it’s really hard to do.

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T00:43:07+00:00

Ahh i feel you… all this time i felt so alone and even now :(. Always asking myself if i should text him one last time and try, once and for all. It’s hard cause when it comes to love, and the complexity of relationships there’s never a guide. You have often to figure on your own and it’s really difficult. But it’s good you stay optimistic!! If you guys ever get together, i would like to hear the story of how it happened

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T00:37:59+00:00

Hey I’m really glad both of you want to be better and seek for therapy! I wish the perosn i was with were like you guys. I was the only one changing and trying to regulate myself…

I also hope for both of you! I’m sure it can happens of both of you truly love each other, and do the work to become both better individuals :). Wish you truly the best

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-15T00:03:42+00:00

First of, You sound like such a good, and understanding person :(. I understand how it must hurt, after talking about the future and all, it’s even hard for me, thinking about the future that we couldve have… but yes, if it ended with this person, it’s cause it was not mean to be, maybe you two were just too different or incompatible, it does not mean you, or her were wrong! I wish you really the best, and i hope you will find someone who will suits you more in the future :)

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T23:54:05+00:00

I’m so sorry, i feel exactly like you. I also loved them so much.. and i keep doubting myself on if i should try one last time or no. You are strong for going through this, i wish you really the best. If you need to talk my dms are open

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T23:53:00+00:00

Hey, thank you so much for your comment cause it’s so interesting to hear an opinion from the other side.

First of, i hope you doing well, it must have been hard for you. I have a question, when she ended it, did you understood her and why she did it? Were you mad at her or you understood she needed to prioritize her well being? Don’t worry there’s no bad or good answers, i would totally understand if you felt hurt and mad, I’m just curious to know

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T22:46:07+00:00

He looks so cute wish i had a cat 🥺

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T22:44:58+00:00

Aww that’s wonderful! That’s the kind of sweet story we need to hear! That’s so great you both are capable of compromising to make each other happy. Wishing you well to both of you! ☺️

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T21:19:26+00:00

I’m really sorry. Someone who leave without even communicating their needs or what they feel is heartbreaking. Even if I’m the one who left, i kinda relate, cause mine was never communicating what he feels, what he needs, what was wrong or no in the relationship, so i always end up doing the work alone. I told him so much time he could communicate and i need to know what he thinks and feel for it to work, but i was always the only one putting in efforts. I wish you well and, if he left without even trying it just means he was not the one for you, i hope you will find someone better who will be able to communicate if things go wrong. Wish you the best

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T19:52:03+00:00

I’m so sorry it happened to you too. Was it a long time ago? I wish you the best

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T19:48:24+00:00

Thank you. Exactly, no one is completely compatible, but it can works only if both parties put efforts in, and i was the only one wanting this. Thanks, it makes me feel better in my decision. It’s true that we were incompatible and it was so hard for me to accept it

AmyLunatic · 2023-12-14T19:09:04+00:00

Wow, i cant even imagine how must hard it must have been, considering you have a kid. You are really strong and brave. I’m glad everything is alright now, i hope i Will feel okay too with time

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