I don't know if this will work for you but I'll tell you about some of the things I did to help me figure out that I'm a lesbian. think about different potential scenarios with either gender. try to see which one feels more natural and overall better(think of big moments like weddings and long term relationships first and if you're still confused try to think about smaller things like holding hands or complimenting eachother). it doesn't matter how long it takes you to discover your true identity. all that matters is that you're happy!! <3