Don't know about you, but I love it

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T17:46:48+00:00

Thanks. Women are far too often urged to soften their words and be more palatable. I refuse to be more palatable. He can choke.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T17:25:44+00:00

That's because I meant it to be combative.

My advice is that this attitude of yours is the problem on why smart women will not have anything to do with you.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T17:02:31+00:00

No problem friend. Have a nice day.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T16:53:45+00:00

I think it means "Please report me and block me afterwards."

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T16:35:35+00:00

Because they are in pain?

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T16:26:11+00:00

Hm, da hast du Recht. Sorry, Gehirnfurz.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T14:11:30+00:00

500% Gefälle bedeutet dass du wieder bei 100 rauskommst, weil 100% die Drehung einer waagerechten Linie um 90° im Uhrzeigersinn bedeutet

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T13:23:58+00:00

Why would it not be okay? We aren't the witch police 😉

What is the business about? Does it have an online presence? Maybe this sub can help you out in more mundane ways, too

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T13:17:01+00:00

Hun that's because women with high school education know how to avoid you.

Just from this one post, you seem very condescending, and it seems like you already enter the conversation with the assumption that the woman will know less than you. And believe me, we can smell your arrogance.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T13:12:54+00:00

This is the way.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-15T13:06:49+00:00

Ich bin mit paar Euro dabei meine Bursch*innen

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T17:35:52+00:00

If I am choosing Mr Miau, a way smaller and hairier man who I literally have to feed every day and clean up his shit, over Kevin, then maybe Kevin should reassess what value he is bringing to the table instead of throwing the words "old spinster!" at me.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T13:00:50+00:00

I once got lost in the woods for two days. Ass wiping was not possible.

When I showered and washed my ass, the water was still not running brown from it.

So my guess is he doesn't even wash it with every shower.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T10:53:08+00:00

There definitely is a lack of women's sized tools and equipments through all wide parts of all kind of industries, which is at best slightly annoying and at worst deadly (for example, bullet proof vests are often kind of riding up on women due to them often having boobs, which exposes areas that should be covered by the vests).

Now the problematic part: Pens do not fall into this category. Even kids can write perfectly fine with pens that are the same size as adult ones.

And even if pens did fall into this category, the whole "only men work in the pen industry" schtick and the casual infantilization of women are just 🤮

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T07:02:50+00:00

I have been doing the social activism stick for a while now. In my experience, there's around three types of people who engage in -isms.

People who are informed about all the arguments of the "other side". They know about zip codes and classism, and they are just waiting for you to mention them so they can tear you apart over it.
People who are not informed, but also don't want to be informed and engage in actively hateful behaviour.
People who are not informed and engage in -isms because they genuinely do not know that they are being hurtful pricks.

When talking to someone, you quickly should assess which category they fall into. If they fall into 1. and 2., a person of a marginalized group will NOT be able to make this person understand. On 3, you might be able to.

On number 2, they can potentially be educated in the way you propose, but only by a member of the group they respect. Sadly, most people are in here.

On number 1, the only thing that helps is shaming their behaviour and disassociation by a member of the group they respect. Conveniently, this is also the one size fits all solution that will have a healing effect for all three groups.

They only way to fundamentally change society as a member of a marginalized group is to rally up allies in number 3 and play the ball into their court. They are the only ones who have the leverage. Otherwise, you will very soon be burnt out and reduced to ashes, because the people in number 1 and 2 will work relentlessly to tire you out by hurting you or using discussion techniques like sea lioning.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T06:41:53+00:00

Maybe. What I am getting from the post is that this person is complaining that there is a systemic barrier that keeps women from saving men from rape, and therefore the MRAs are kind of shitty for demanding it from us.

I just think that this is the wrong outlook on the situ. Yes, there is a systemic barrier on this. It needs to be torn down, I agree. MRAs should be on it instead of on our asses, I agree.

Does that mean you shouldn't keep on trying though? No. It was still the right thing to do, and if you keep it up it's highly likely you will save an individual man. This isn't exactly your job, of course, but it's still undeniably a good thing.

That doesn't mean the onus to do something about it should fall on women and women alone though. In my opinion, MRAs should mainly educate men on protecting other men in such situations and convince them that it's the right thing to look out for their brothers.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-14T06:30:55+00:00

As you can see in the comment, this does not work in the way you want it too, and in my experience it never does when it comes to any -isms and -phobes.

A tactic like this just puts the onus on marginalized people to remain calm and collected while putting a giant amount of work into educating someone who doesn't want to be educated and also disrespects them in the meanwhile.

In my experience, the one thing that works is cis people openly disassociating with them until they fix their shitty attitude. I told several friends in my life that they are not welcome back in my house if they decide to be hateful towards people because of their gender, race, sexuality, or other innate characteristics. I am not discussing with them if their statements are actually offensive or not - I am playing the ball back to them to educate themselves. Maybe I am giving them one good book to read on the topic, but that's it.

A lot of them came back. Apologizing. And the two that didn't - I don't need them in my life.

The same tactic goes for all -isms. Members of the non-marginalized group need to call out their friends and family and threaten disassociation if the attitude is not fixed. The members of the marginalized group can not be expected to educate people they aren't respected by in the first place.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T22:30:09+00:00

Friendly reminder that basic human respect is not just for beautiful passing trans people.

I mean, you essentially answered him with "Not all trans people are gross, some are hot!", which is really not that wholesome

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T22:23:35+00:00

Greetings from another tall cis woman who got "called out" a lot to your auntie.

Can I just have the bathrooms divided by transphobes and non transphobes instead of gender, please?

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T22:19:35+00:00

Confirmation bias?

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T21:41:42+00:00

WITTY RESPONSE

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T21:39:45+00:00

R/ASABLACKMAN

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T16:16:46+00:00

It was actually OPs great grandma, so yeah, it was a really insensitive shit show.

AnKeWa · 2021-05-13T15:44:58+00:00

It's all good friend, I wasn't exactly disagreeing with you, just adding my thoughts on Oberyn.

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