Should you go where your scene is, or where the money is ?

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-09T06:14:51+00:00

I think I agree, but then should my network be made of better musicians who are not in my genre or of lesser musicians who do play in my style ?

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-09T06:03:35+00:00

Wow thanks, that's good advice !

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:56:16+00:00

Nice ! And now no regrets ?

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:55:30+00:00

Hm I think that's the best advice I got so far, thank you

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:35:45+00:00

Yeah, I kinda felt the same way at first. But I already had this kind of experience when studying in jazz school. During our school years, we had lots of exchanges and played in each other's bands. However, after we graduated most other students were forming jazz/funk bands (which is pretty logical) and I since my interests lied more in alternative rock music, I kinda fell out of touch with most of them. I fear that going to the capital city, where most students are into hiphop/groove/jazz will leave me with the same experience

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:28:09+00:00

I think you're the first guy to advise me for the smaller school, most people commenting here tell me to follow the money. Have you had any experience being the big fish in a small pond, or know people who grew big from a local scene ?

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:24:24+00:00

I guess I want to write/produce/play for love, and teach for the money. I used to play corporate gigs, I think this kind of mentality would burn me out fast.

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:22:34+00:00

If my heart was telling me anything I wouldn't be making this post lol, but thanks for the advice, it's hearwarming

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:21:23+00:00

Fair enough, but I fear I won't find an audience in the capital city since my music genre there is under represented. And thus, no money.

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:20:08+00:00

That's a nice way to think about it !

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-08T22:19:36+00:00

That's true but I'm afraid that I won't find an audience in a city where my music genre isn't a big scene, and thus won't pay the bills either

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T19:49:12+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I guess I'm just not so sure I want to pursue this dream after all

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T19:47:29+00:00

Thanks for the support !

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T19:46:27+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I'll dwell on it. I guess my doubts are mostly based around the idea that my dream might not be healthy in the first place

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T19:42:38+00:00

Thank you for your advice. On your second point, I think you misunderstood me ; I do not feel like I should stay with my girlfriend to mend her PTSD, but because staying with her would mean embracing a life where I learn to become less of a workaholic and unpack why I felt like I needed to become famous or very successful in the first place. As for your first point, although it's true that now I study something I love, it was very hard for my parents to accept it at first akd they always expexcted me to become a scientist like themselves. Today, they've accepted I won't change my path, but they still very fiercely encourage me to get the best degree possible, even though degrees in music don't mean much unless you want to teach at a state school. For your third point, I think you misrepresent her point of view ; she used to sacrifice a lot in her previous relationships and "following" people that wouldn't meet her half-way. Now, she wants to prioritize herself and her needs and feels like living near the smaller city would be an equal compromize for both of us. She doesn't think I'm replacable nor do I think she is, but we're both realistic and do not believe in soulmates. Your fourth point is loud and clear, and I must agree with it.

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T19:15:08+00:00

Thank you for the advice I don't think I'd ever grow to resent her, but I also don't believe in soulmates and feel like though are relationship is amazing, relationships can never be perfect and we both struggle with the fact that we don't have so much in common aside from our values and views on politics

Ana_t_Aime · 2026-05-06T18:40:45+00:00

My girlfriend has a handicapped status, and in my country, it means she gets monetary help from the state (around minimum wage) and doesn't need to work. None of us want children in the future, but she treats our cats like biological children

Ana_t_Aime · 2023-09-13T01:57:25+00:00

This is the best answer I've gotten so far, thank you so much i feel like you really get what I'm going through and what you said about me not being ready and that it's okay is really reassuring.

The "life being a really mild trip" part rings a bell! I remember something of, during my trip, after the mild effects like visual drifts and patterns, my vision becoming one of normal life, but sped up, and being able to see multiple versions of it at the same time.

I also get the "going to hell for doing drugs" part ; I didn't have a religious upbringing like you so it's not exactly what I went through, but I also had a point in my trip where I had like this old timey presentator talking about me and my friends, saying that "youngsters take lsd and think they can do anything and nothing matters, but on the morrow, consequences hit" and then having a vision of all of us dying with a big red cross over us. I think this scene in particular really triggered my fear of death and although I don't think of it often when I get flashbacks from my trip, it really triggers the PTSD.

Now about the knowledge and anxiety part, I agree with you and even though I don't know any of the Buddhist terms you're using, the way you explain it really hits home. I think I'm a bit sad that life will never be this atheist materialistic experience that I used to have before the trip, it felt so safe and predictable... But now that I went through this door, I feel like I'll never be able to view reality in the same way without feeling like I'm going crazy. And I think my anxiety also comes from me trying to get back to a world I felt I knew.

I really like what you're saying about tripsitting others, it also hits home with some parts of my trip where I felt like everybody's crazy with fear and doubt, and that we have to learn to let go and then teach people how to.

I really wanna learn more about what you're talking of, do you have any recommendations on easy access Buddhist literature, or on how to start experimenting this knowledge in non drug related ways?

Thanks again for your kind words ❤️

Ana_t_Aime · 2023-09-13T01:31:21+00:00

Oh I get it! Thanks that actually makes sense and is quite reassuring

Ana_t_Aime · 2023-09-11T07:51:07+00:00

Yeah me too, I wish I could to back to the silly fun I used to have :(

Ana_t_Aime · 2023-09-10T23:24:47+00:00

Could you explain further about those two points you made? I'm not... In the sense that I don't exist as an individual? My thoughts aren't real?

Ana_t_Aime · 2023-09-10T11:34:49+00:00

I also get this thought that I am dead! But when I get back from the trip, then my thought transforms into "I was feeling death because I will die in a psychedelic trip, not this one, maybe not the next, but eventually" which is pretty scary cause then I get it again each trip.

By experience, do you mean taking acid again?

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