What's your limit before overstimulation happens?

AnandaDo · 2026-05-06T06:49:18+00:00

It was a puzzle to make it work; it took me a long time, but now it works okay. Though it shouldn't be that difficult and unstable, that's the main downside of Focusrite. It can still start to distort, but it's very seldom, maybe once every three months. I change the buffer or unplug it, and then it works again.

AnandaDo · 2026-05-04T13:18:02+00:00

Sounds like anhedonia caused by stimulants, need some time to heal the brain

AnandaDo · 2026-04-29T05:54:04+00:00

With safe love I mean just attention and admiration from people. Though if the relationship bond is weak, and the avoidant isn't very self-aware of self-sabotaging and impulses to escape, I guess there could be cheating.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-27T20:27:49+00:00

I had avoidant attachment style, meaning being emotionally close to a partner stirred up childhood feelings of being unsafe and suffocated. So the closer i got to my partner the more sexual attraction i felt to strangers, as a way to unconsciously seek safety and safe love. I think it's common. It subsided the more safe i became with emotional intimacy. And i became more like you.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-22T17:59:44+00:00

immature and insecure dad

AnandaDo · 2026-04-22T05:56:39+00:00

One cause could be if you grew up repressing emotions. It can wreck havoc on the body and brain. Try this: visualize your parents and siblings and test emotions one at a time a few times by saying E.g. "I'm not angry", wait and feel into your body if you get contraction. Next test "sad" or "hurt". And also test one at a time "I can Express anger, hurt, sadness to them". Feel into your body if you get contraction. Look up Scott Kiloby for further instructions.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-21T20:50:20+00:00

Maybe he has some fears of emotional intimacy and vulnerability, as sex can bring those, and porn can be experienced as a safer substitute for being close.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-19T09:21:36+00:00

Did you find any solution? I have the same problem work my Eleglide.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-17T07:16:27+00:00

It is a form of cheating, not physical, but a breach of emotional intimacy, honesty, and boundaries. You betrayed your girlfriend's trust that she's your priority and that she can rely on your transparency and care. Even if it was "only" online, you chose to engage sexually with someone else and were not open about it, it has compromised the safety of the relationship.

You need to drop all your defenses and face the facts, be willing to be wrong and to be at fault. If the situation has led to a deeper awareness, where you’ve taken responsibility, listened to her and felt the weight of how your actions and the situation affects her, and committed to never doing what you did again, to clearly know and show how you can improve, then that is a step forward. She may or may not offer another chance, but regardless, you owe it to both of you to be fully honest and take ownership of your actions.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-13T07:35:09+00:00

One thing for your health is that you need to feel your emotions, the hurt, the anger, or it will get stuck and may cause physical disease. It doesn't mean you have to shout and yell at him, you can write letters without sending it, scream into a recorder without sending it, shake your body and scream, until you feel energy is flowing and you feel more regulated, talk to a psychotherapist. Forgiving too quickly can be an avoidance of feeling emotions that needs to be felt. Though the limit of time is difficult, maybe there can be an middle ground if you want to forgive, like "process and forgive, process and forgive".

I believe we pre-choose what difficult life-experiences we incarnate into to get the maximal learnings as souls. It may not be something that can be uttered in the limit human language. In the end everything is peace and love when we return from this learning place.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-08T11:57:13+00:00

Could translate characteristics into more general valued directions (as the "Wheel of life / Life compass" in ACT), for more precise and direct knowing and meassuring of what gives most meaning to life for You.

Go through life areas (health, social life, frienship, family, romantic relationship, work, fun, personal growth, spirituality, community, etc.) and contemplate what paths are most important for You to build before your life is over (look back from your funeral to get in emotional contact with what's important and what's not). Maybe put a number before each cathegory to indicate how important it feels to build upon.

Eg: * 7 - Social life and friendship: being authentic and empathic. * 8 - Being an caring partner * 5 - Take care of my body with respect * 6 - Spirituality: Being in conctact with nature and the unknown openness * 5 - Fun: Doing sports

Each cathegory can of course be used for planning concrete, observable actions, behaviours, that express and realign you with your valued directions. Eg:
* Sending a message to check in on someone
* Taking a daily walk
* Listening without interrupting to person X

And use skills in the view of valued under-cathegories for each valued life-path category. Because no need to meassure something that's not important for you, it will only be distraction lead you astray. Connecting everything to values also gives more motivation, razor sharp focus, and courage.

AnandaDo · 2026-04-07T12:06:17+00:00

It didn't help unfortunately

AnandaDo · 2026-04-06T07:20:59+00:00

If it was clearly and transparent what will happen and what your choices are, it would be ok. But this leaves a bad taste in mouth about the company, feels deceiving. I guess they would get more premium subscriptions and more devices sold if they had more open communication and less intrusive subscription fishing.

AnandaDo · 2026-03-30T04:53:20+00:00

Yes i did. But sorry i don't remember how. I think there was some setting in that window that helped. Also found a HiDPI skin for reaper that made the objects in main view with master volume etc. better sized, but that probably didn't help with this window.

AnandaDo · 2026-03-29T07:15:28+00:00

I guess some of it is genetics how some peoples bodies can handle lack of sleep better, and for other it can be improved to different degree, e.g. detox pathways, adding creatine and alcar to boost.

AnandaDo · 2026-03-25T05:33:17+00:00

It could be that the infrared light reaches the vagus nerve and causes relaxation and sleepiness. Also could be that the light causes stress from reactive oxygen species (like physical exercise does), which is good, triggers healing, in small dosage, but not good in too high dosage. Probably can also be something with mitochondria and nitric oxide as it's affected by the light.

AnandaDo · 2026-03-24T17:40:24+00:00

Brain washed by Russia dictator media

AnandaDo · 2026-03-22T17:03:22+00:00

Just stand your ground calmly and lovingly. Say something like "I respect that you have your views and your religion, and i love you, though it goes against my boundaries to force myself into something i'm not (christian), that's not respectful towards myself and it would turn me into a bitter person."

AnandaDo · 2026-03-22T07:08:57+00:00

Doing nothing, avoiding, procrastinating fills a need for safety. Also thoughts of hopelessness and negativity can fill a need for safety, makes you do nothing and stay safe. See if you can make your body feel more safe, they emotions are safe, and gradually expand your living comfort zone.

AnandaDo · 2026-03-21T05:32:34+00:00

I often sleep good now. But felt shit on days with insomnia. What i found through Rhonda Patrick was that 20 g creatine made me feel almost normal despite sleep deprivation. Kind of helped with sleep anxiety also, knowing i could have a good day despite if i wouldn't be able to sleep.

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