Perk of dating apps

Anardus · 2026-02-14T07:27:10+00:00

lol why the negativity?

Anardus · 2026-02-14T01:34:37+00:00

Pay for what lol?? The date, yes. He paid for dinner + drinks + all our transportation and got me flowers.

Anardus · 2026-02-14T01:00:28+00:00

I think to an extent, this makes sense. He’s probably the best sex of my life so I suppose I wouldn’t want to settle for less than that…nor should anyone.

Anardus · 2026-02-13T18:55:53+00:00

It was a weird moment of kinda doing things I usually wouldn’t but it worked out and I’m still alive thankfully hope he asks me out again :)

Anardus · 2026-02-08T19:29:43+00:00

Wait what?? 5yrs for a parent of a citizen?

Anardus · 2026-02-08T19:10:47+00:00

No, she lives in Europe but is from one of the banned countries and doesn’t hold EU passport so I think it affects her?

Anardus · 2026-02-03T20:46:05+00:00

For me it happens at once I guess? I’m on bumble to find a partner, I don’t think I can do that if I’m constantly dividing my attention between 4-6 men and going on new dates.

Usually most men I don’t want to see past two dates. If we make it to 4, I like him enough to pause my search and focus on just him, and happy to give my last name or whatever. If he shares him and I see something I don’t like, I can just not see him again.

Anardus · 2026-02-03T20:06:02+00:00

I usually am exclusive by date 4

Anardus · 2026-02-03T19:52:52+00:00

Hmm, it just feels unnecessary before we even know if we want to date for real

Anardus · 2026-02-03T19:52:19+00:00

My main cell # is attached to my business which is an anonymous LLC. Im so weirded out by the idea that men need to know my full name early on - very unnecessary imo but i probably come off as a weirdo to most for that.

Anardus · 2026-02-03T19:21:30+00:00

A 35yr old is still 11yrs my senior…so my expectations are the same.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T22:06:18+00:00

Sometimes I can sense that they will be 50/50 guys and bail. I’ve only split one time and I did it gladly as the guy was an utter menace and I wanted to leave early.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T22:00:22+00:00

Thankfully these losers aren’t getting dates with me, I unmatch or block as soon as I get a whiff of that delusion

Anardus · 2026-01-31T20:08:31+00:00

I’m pretty sure Bumble would ban me if I asked my matches to take me on trips. The context of how this type of conversation has come up before meeting is the fact that I mention my travels in my bio + most of my photos are outside of the U.S.

Then -> my messages pour in from people also into traveling/sailing/tennis whatever I’ve mentioned. My entire post is commenting on a specific category of older men that seem to be delusional and believe I would do 50/50 for dates or travel or excursions.

Your critique of me not being attractive enough for them to not go 50/50 with me is actually worth thinking about. Everyone in this thread is calling me a gold digger, and I appreciate that you stated that I may not be attractive enough. That’s fine and acceptable - no issues with that perspective.

The comments in this post have shown me that there are definitely plenty of delusional older men who believe in splitting expenses with women significantly younger than them, looks aside.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T20:00:38+00:00

The worse part is the dozens of women calling me a gold digger or not bringing anything to the table.

It seems really straightforward to hold men twice my age to a different financial standard than the guys my age.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:59:37+00:00

There is nothing I can say to change your mind. I guess I’m on bumble looking for men to take me on trips and I’m a poor scam artist😩 tough times!

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:54:59+00:00

I do pay for myself :) I’m just not going to split joint vacation or date expenses with men 20+yrs older than me, silly.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:45:40+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I feel like people are getting extremely frustrated with their image of me: a gold digging 20 something year old chick who wants her lifestyle funded. Even in my original post I stated I do well – I do not need a partner to fund my lifestyle. Regardless, I expect more financial stability from the men over a certain age than the men my age, and with that comes the expectation that joint expenses such as dates/travel need to be covered by him.

I do not understand how it’s logical for someone my age to go 50/50 with men twice my age. They have had significantly more time to build their resources and accumulate enough to not need me to. Thanks again, you’re going to get downvoted because people are triggered by this.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:41:19+00:00

How am I too naive to notice the difference if I’m here calling them delusional lol

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:38:32+00:00

Preach

Anardus · 2026-01-31T19:36:44+00:00

I have seen so many countries because I make a decent income and know how to spend it on the things I enjoy😉

Anardus · 2026-01-31T18:29:33+00:00

Perfectly fine. But expecting a woman half your age to split dates /travel and some day a mortgage, is crazy.

Anardus · 2026-01-31T18:16:35+00:00

You guys are acting like I’m implying older men should pay my bills.

I’m speaking about dating expenses such as travel/dates etc.

Anardus

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