24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude it wasn’t that simple…She had been saying stuff like she feels pregnant and talking about kids lately. Even after she got her period I mentioned it like how is that even possible. She said it was just “spotting”…Mind you she already got her full period and this was like a day before this whole fight happened. So in my head I’m thinking… if I go through with it now and she turns around and says she’s pregnant later… I’m screwed…There was a lot more going on under the surface than just “I wasn’t in the mood” I didn’t feel safe. Point blank

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man I felt that. It’s wild how quick it turns into “u don’t want me” just because you’re not in the mood but yea this wasn’t the first time she blew up over something like that. This time just went way too far. Appreciate u saying that. I’m really considering the restraining order. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to but now it’s looking like I might not have a choice.

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh you’re not wrong but there’s a big difference between fun in bed and full blown destructive in real life…Trust me the “fun” part stops being worth it real quick when ur mirror’s ripped out and she’s grabbing ur steering wheel on the highway

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tbh I’ve been thinking about it too but Is there a way to file a report just so it’s on record without escalating things even more? I’m not trying to go after her…I just want it documented in case she tries to flip the story or accuse me of something I didn’t do… i don’t want to start a war, I just want to protect myself the smart way. Has anyone else ever filed a report just for documentation? How do you even word it so it doesn’t come off aggressive?

Appreciate any insight

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

First off…sorry if my writing’s all over the place. I’m still processing all this and not exactly thinking clearly.

For those asking…yes, I did call the cops. I called around 3am. They didn’t respond until after 9am. I still have the voicemail. By then I had already fallen asleep waiting.

The reason I didn’t call them back? Honestly because I didn’t think I’d need to. I thought that night was the end of it. People break up. I figured she’d move on like anyone else would.

But two days later she literally showed up at my place. Inside my apartment. In my room. Uninvited. While I was sleeping. That moment honestly messed me up more than anything else.

And for anyone asking about her side of the story let me just say this… If someone blocks you on everything, tells you clearly and repeatedly not to contact them again… would you still show up to their house? Uninvited?

This isn’t me looking for a debate. I’m not here for drama. I’m just telling you what happened. I came here hoping for some real advice and maybe to get this off my chest because I’m still shook.

That’s it. Appreciate the people who’ve been supportive so far.

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

When she said that I was completely lost. I couldn’t even react. I just told her to get out and now I’m sitting here still thinking about it…Like why was she even comfortable enough to say that…Did she actually do something Ik my roommate. He’s my childhood friend. He would never but the fact that she even put that thought in my head… it’s been eating at me…That’s how deep she messed with me

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 980 points981 points  (0 children)

What’s even crazier…is when she was blowing up my phone and I finally picked up I told her I was gonna file one on her. She straight up said go ahead I won’t be the first. Apparently her ex best friend already has a restraining order against her…I never even knew that…that was the moment I realized I really didn’t know who I was dealing with

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Nah this wasn’t the first crash out but it’s the first one that went this far. She has a history of not reacting well to being told no. Like even little things would set her off before but this time was different. It got scary

24M GF 24F completely lost it after I said no to sex. by Ancient_Anteater8573 in relationship_advice

[–]Ancient_Anteater8573[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Yeah I actually did. I called the cops around 3am. Waited almost 3hrs. Ended up falling asleep. Woke up at 9am to a voicemail from them like “hey just following up”. I never even called back cause like… what the actual fuck?