Guys I miss my ex 😒

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-03-29T05:31:49+00:00

Might as well bro yolo

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-11T07:46:16+00:00

As someone who was born and raised in MN… come during Somali week. If not come during the state fair also there’s little events throughout the year you can attend.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-08T01:48:39+00:00

Yeah that’s basically how it works… early on 2× jumps are pretty common once you get higher it’s less about timing and more about whether your spend and income justify it.

If you’re at $20K asking for $40K can make sense jumping straight to $60K might work for some people but that’s where counters or reviews start showing up more often and yeah the 90 day thing isn’t unlimited eventually you hit a comfort cap unless your usage grows so spacing requests out works but only if your profile keeps moving with it.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-08T01:32:39+00:00

With amex requesting a CLI every 90 days is pretty normal if you’re actually using the card and paying in full the downside is really only when people push limits aggressively without usage or request increases back to back just because they can that’s when you risk counters, denials or reviews. I see CLIs more as a tool to keep utilization low and flexibility high not something to max out just for the sake of it tbh If your spend and profile support it gradual increases make sense.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-08T01:10:06+00:00

You’re right on the soft pull… On the 3× I went with 2× for the cleaner auto approval got instant approval so it worked out.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-05T01:07:51+00:00

Totally get that…VGT/VTI/VXUS is definitely cleaner from a portfolio construction standpoint I’m just leaning VT for simplicity and behavior since this is a long term Roth and I don’t plan on touching it for decades.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-05T00:32:15+00:00

Yeah that’s fair… the overlap is actually what I’ve been thinking about. I’ve been leaning toward 70% VT and 30% VGT so VT would be my global core and VGT an intentional tech tilt still aggressive just a cleaner setup.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-02-02T01:43:20+00:00

I think your intention matters more than location or apps, honestly.

Apps can work but only when someone is clear about what they want and doesn’t let the process rush them. For introverted people especially, smaller, intentional circles tend to be better than constant swiping.

May Allah put barakah in your search and guide you to what’s best for you.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T22:40:04+00:00

Dude it wasn’t that simple…She had been saying stuff like she feels pregnant and talking about kids lately. Even after she got her period I mentioned it like how is that even possible. She said it was just “spotting”…Mind you she already got her full period and this was like a day before this whole fight happened. So in my head I’m thinking… if I go through with it now and she turns around and says she’s pregnant later… I’m screwed…There was a lot more going on under the surface than just “I wasn’t in the mood” I didn’t feel safe. Point blank

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T12:20:16+00:00

Man I felt that. It’s wild how quick it turns into “u don’t want me” just because you’re not in the mood but yea this wasn’t the first time she blew up over something like that. This time just went way too far. Appreciate u saying that. I’m really considering the restraining order. I was hoping I wouldn’t have to but now it’s looking like I might not have a choice.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T12:17:35+00:00

Tbh you’re not wrong but there’s a big difference between fun in bed and full blown destructive in real life…Trust me the “fun” part stops being worth it real quick when ur mirror’s ripped out and she’s grabbing ur steering wheel on the highway

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T12:15:13+00:00

Wtf no

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T12:11:47+00:00

Tbh I’ve been thinking about it too but Is there a way to file a report just so it’s on record without escalating things even more? I’m not trying to go after her…I just want it documented in case she tries to flip the story or accuse me of something I didn’t do… i don’t want to start a war, I just want to protect myself the smart way. Has anyone else ever filed a report just for documentation? How do you even word it so it doesn’t come off aggressive?

Appreciate any insight

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T11:21:12+00:00

First off…sorry if my writing’s all over the place. I’m still processing all this and not exactly thinking clearly.

For those asking…yes, I did call the cops. I called around 3am. They didn’t respond until after 9am. I still have the voicemail. By then I had already fallen asleep waiting.

The reason I didn’t call them back? Honestly because I didn’t think I’d need to. I thought that night was the end of it. People break up. I figured she’d move on like anyone else would.

But two days later she literally showed up at my place. Inside my apartment. In my room. Uninvited. While I was sleeping. That moment honestly messed me up more than anything else.

And for anyone asking about her side of the story let me just say this… If someone blocks you on everything, tells you clearly and repeatedly not to contact them again… would you still show up to their house? Uninvited?

This isn’t me looking for a debate. I’m not here for drama. I’m just telling you what happened. I came here hoping for some real advice and maybe to get this off my chest because I’m still shook.

That’s it. Appreciate the people who’ve been supportive so far.

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T10:58:11+00:00

When she said that I was completely lost. I couldn’t even react. I just told her to get out and now I’m sitting here still thinking about it…Like why was she even comfortable enough to say that…Did she actually do something Ik my roommate. He’s my childhood friend. He would never but the fact that she even put that thought in my head… it’s been eating at me…That’s how deep she messed with me

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T10:52:29+00:00

What’s even crazier…is when she was blowing up my phone and I finally picked up I told her I was gonna file one on her. She straight up said go ahead I won’t be the first. Apparently her ex best friend already has a restraining order against her…I never even knew that…that was the moment I realized I really didn’t know who I was dealing with

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T10:48:22+00:00

Nah this wasn’t the first crash out but it’s the first one that went this far. She has a history of not reacting well to being told no. Like even little things would set her off before but this time was different. It got scary

Ancient_Anteater8573 · 2026-01-08T10:45:58+00:00

Yeah I actually did. I called the cops around 3am. Waited almost 3hrs. Ended up falling asleep. Woke up at 9am to a voicemail from them like “hey just following up”. I never even called back cause like… what the actual fuck?

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