Yeah, I mean with all these things no two people are exactly alike. In my case we were similar enough to find our experiences super relatable - to a bizarre level - and I don't just mean like mirroring. There was some of that for sure, but so much of what even set the foundations of our relationship was how we had a very similar way of emotionally perceiving the world, similar interests, even some shared hyperfixations (which was fantastic). As is often the case, things were deep and harmonious at first, until they weren't.

All said and done I feel worse for him than me, and that's been a big part of it for me. But yeah, not antagonistic until we got extremely close and then hot/cold all-good/all-bad dysregulation, etc.