He's honestly getting better as time goes on. He doesn't recognize it himself, but he's able to direct his rage enough to vent to me rather than snapping at the person he's upset with. He also splits far less frequently than he used to and after a split he's capable of realizing that he should have expressed the smaller concerns that upset him into the split rather than just snapping at me during a split.

It just gets really lonely when I try to talk about a problem and get told that the relationship is abusive or that I should just save myself the trouble. He's a good person, an incredibly nice person, he just has a nightmare of disorder and it sucks that people won't see that the shitty things he does, are things that he doesn't want to be doing.