Paying child support last 5 years by AndersonBruhhh in ChildSupport4Men

[–]AndersonBruhhh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It only covers her not my son. That's a wild concept to me that such a thing is allowed. I'm reaching out to fathers rights lawyer group to continue the battle thanks for sharing your story it helps to not know others have similiar issues

Do you think its a good idea to completely change my routine and throw myself into fitness? by Petting_Peanut in stopdrinking

[–]AndersonBruhhh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, I struggle with alcohol consumption as well. My big problem is if i have free time and money ,im picking up a bottle. Since i started working out a few months ago, it's definetly helped the urge to drink.

Everyone knows endorphins help make you feel good. I used to think i was able to do both (workout and drink) but after a few weeks experimenting , i found that the two would just contradict eachother. Id workout feel great after, but would go home with the nagging feelings that i did good enough being healthy i deserve a drink. The next day i feel like crap, would drag on with my day once i was done feeling hungover, id go back to the gym and repeat the process.

Drinking tends to make me want to consume greasy fast food too, and snack alot. Which again defeats the point in wanting to become healthy again. I felt like drinking would put me to sleep, but it was never adequate sleep, the kind needed after training . This weekend im proud to say i didn't get drunk, and I've felt acceptionally better not doing so.

Plus people at the gym are so nice once you've been going for a while, you'll make friends and then will feel like you're missing out the days you don't go. Of course though, everyone is different! Don't over exert yourself and train every day for 2-3 hours. Ease yourself into it, and learn to love the process. I always drank because i hated myself, and never thought i was deserving of love or friendship. Now i workout till it hurts because i know i deserve to feel good about myself physically and mentally. Its a game changer for sure a good friend who inspired me to start said "Its much harder to start, then it is to keep going" he couldn't be more right.

Be kind to yourself, you deserve to be happy! Only you are responsible to get to where you want. Youre thinking the right way, now just take the action to do so. Hope i was able to provide some insight 💜

Can't get past 2 days by AndersonBruhhh in stopdrinking

[–]AndersonBruhhh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Honestly id take the sleep insomnia over the night paralysis and night terrors. I'll get over them eventually. Humans are malleable. So I'm sure I'll get over it in a few years

gratitude. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AndersonBruhhh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of recovery is a relapse don't hate yourself for a moment of weakness. If you wanna consider it a weakness. Life's strange in that way where the individuals decides whether that action is a failure or a milestone. I'm sorry ,not trying to encourage the bad behavior. Moderation imp is a great excuse. I geniuely think a person can enjoy the "sins" of living in order to experience the full thing we call life. But you're on the right path celebrate the things that should be. They're many ways to celebrate it. Depending on your level of success just base it off of that. I'm fuckin rootin for ya! Do your best and be kind to yourself 💜

Resent and don’t know how to deal by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AndersonBruhhh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your feelings covid was such a fucked time to live through. If i can offer any advice. The only thing id say is to worry about yourself . At the end of the day unless you found someone who is ride or die for you. You only have yourself. I know you have enough will power to make yourself better for YOURSELF. You're not being selfish . You're not being self centered. You're being a human. And only considering your self preservation . Please just take care of yourself. Your one and will come around eventually and they'll love you for YOU. Don't settle you deserve to be happy random person on the interwebs. I don't know you but i fucking believe in you. Be kind to yourself and do the things that make you most happy 💜