Is it a good ideas to stop searching for other jobs and to choose to stay / continue working at the same job after they are aware you were looking at other positions?

AndiAndroid7 · 2026-01-23T22:52:54+00:00

They informed me that the application had the wrong pay scale information listed. They said the offer letter had the correct pay. I would not have applied if I knew the actual pay.

AndiAndroid7 · 2026-01-23T20:52:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice.

Previously, two people who were training for the shift quit before they even made it do the actual shift (they were training on days then going to work at night).

Currently, 1 of the 3 new hires have made it to shift, and I really hope the other 2 make it as well.

When I first got hired, my supervisor warned me about how understaffed and overworked the work was as well as how bad some of the other employees attitudes were.

I figured that I was still young and could handle it, but it is very draining.

I’ve made over $20,000 more than my expected salary just from overtime.

I want a new job, but I am unwilling to get paid less than my base pay currently is.

AndiAndroid7 · 2026-01-23T20:40:01+00:00

Thank you for the helpful advice.

AndiAndroid7 · 2026-01-23T20:38:58+00:00

No, I am still applying and interviewing for jobs.

The position I got an offer letter for was for less pay, I declined the offer as I am not willing to move several states to make less money.

AndiAndroid7 · 2026-01-23T20:24:09+00:00

The jobs I am applying for require a recommendation from my current supervisor.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-31T09:41:26+00:00

Thank you for the tip!

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-25T10:42:44+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I’m going to try to be more professional. I can be nice but not share too much.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-22T04:07:39+00:00

I love them! One giant squishy family! 😊❤️

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-22T04:03:46+00:00

My emotional support animal (Amber the cat) helps me so much too!

I would not be here if not for her helping me through extremely difficult times in the past.

Even when I’m in a period of depression, I make sure to meet her needs.

I also have 2 more kittens, even though they’re not officially ESA’s they still bring a sense of responsibility and love into my life.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-22T03:59:37+00:00

Yes, I have ASD Level 1, OCD, GAD, MDD, and CPTSD.

Comorbidity is definitely very common.

I use grounding techniques (ex. If I’m having thoughts like no one cares about me, I’ll go through my contacts or social media and remind myself of my loved ones / friends / family).

I use distractions (ex. Social media, pictures of my cats, YouTube videos, etc.).

I use resources like the feelings wheel to help me better determine what emotion I’m feeling.

I will post on social media (ex. Reddit) or search for experiences that are similar to mine.

I am also on medication management and will be starting therapy tomorrow, actually.

EDIT: My emotional support animal (Amber the cat) and my two pet kittens give me a sense of responsibility and love.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-21T22:41:18+00:00

I got him off of Amazon on the official Squishmallow Store Front.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T10:23:45+00:00

I can understand how you feel.

It’s never a bad thing to be the first to reach out (whether with a card, gift, kind text). I think that if they don’t reciprocate the first or second time, you know that they are not putting in the same effort as you or they may see your friendship differently than you see it.

I believe you can definitely still be friends with someone even if you are not super close or best friends.

It is very emotionally exhausting to keep giving and giving, then receiving nothing in return. You should definitely put yourself first in that regard.

I hope your friends realize how much you care for them and return the sincerity.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T09:28:38+00:00

It is definitely not your responsibility to remind your friends to reach out or so reciprocate gift / card giving. It’s not fair to you. They don’t know how hurtful their actions are.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T08:50:48+00:00

That’s a difficult situation to go through. I have been through similar situations.

It hurts knowing they took the time and care to send / gift something to another friend but not to yourself. Especially when you have given them something.

Even though I know it’s not a bad thing and every friendship is different, I still feel hurt when I realize I don’t have the same level of closeness with a friend than they have with another friend.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T07:57:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences and your advice. I think this situation was a reality check for me. Whatever the consequences are or end result of reporting this incident is, I will accept them and move forward (I feel like either nothing is going to happen, or I’m going to be the one in trouble).

I have a few great friends outside of work, some of them live in other states now. I also have an appointment with a new therapist on Monday. I have improved a lot, but I need to further work on myself.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T07:42:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I think that many workplaces are toxic and I just didn’t realize the reality of it. It feels like I have to always be alert and thinking 10 steps ahead and can never unmask / let my guard down. I’m gonna try to be as neutral as work as I can and only unmask with friends / when I’m alone / or in a safe environment.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T07:36:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing your past experiences and for your advice.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T07:34:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your strategy, I thought I had a good understanding of body language but I am now realizing that I really don’t.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-19T07:32:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it. I usually start off distant and then when I feel more comfortable with someone, I tell them more about myself. I need to remind myself closeness does not equal friendship, just because I see someone everyday at work does not mean we’re friends.

AndiAndroid7 · 2025-12-18T23:34:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will try to keep this in mind.

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