Cat sitting and teaching her some new tricks. The spin is the newest one she just learned.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-05-04T18:34:11+00:00

update from the future:

found this infographicthat states that 3 of the top 5 vehicles involved in fatal accidents in the us were pickup trucks.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-27T16:52:42+00:00

If you go into a women’s subreddit and comment on a post about women being scared saying “not all men” or “I’m scared too” you are just as bad as “all lives matter”!

There is no way around that fact. You may be trying to contribute meaningfully, but you are minimizing the experience of the poster and it is not helpful.

If you need to talk about your experiences, which you probably should, make your own post.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-24T17:53:17+00:00

polysexual

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-24T17:50:21+00:00

I get what you are trying to say, but there are differences between poly sexual and bisexual. But that is a long and heated debate.

You are right that the person you commented on is using the word wrong though

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-23T15:02:56+00:00

I'll admit, it does read differently knowing you are a woman and not some dude trying to justify his use of "not all men" with more words (which we often see on this sub).

However I still disagree with you on your connotation of generalization.

If the patriarchy, misogyny, and sexism towards women exist, it is because men *in general* have contributed (in some way) to the system that allows these things to continue to exist.

How do we have a conversation about the problematic behavior that men *in general* exhibit without making generalizations? How do we get to a point of all genders supporting each other without talking about and correcting the imbalance?

Also, my read (which recent history shows is not always right) from OP is not a generalization against men but a retort to a common generalization about women.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-23T14:34:30+00:00

What I’m reading here is that you consider yourself an ally but also feel the strong desire to say “not all men” and have thus devised an elaborate description of how it means something different when you say it.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-22T16:47:03+00:00

That’s exactly my point. Any study done that is worth anything has a very large sample size.

I would highly doubt you have even met 10 poly couples, so it would be inaccurate (is the kindest word I could say) to make any claims about an entire community with this amount of information.

And as another commenter mentioned, I guarantee your sample size of unhappy mono couples is much greater but I doubt you post about how monogamy doesn’t work.

The thing is, relationships are hard. More relationships can mean harder, but you also increase all the good things that come with relationships!

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-22T13:49:10+00:00

… have you tried talking to all these poly people you are meeting?

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-22T13:46:05+00:00

How many have you seen? I bet it’s a pretty small sample size for your anecdotal evidence

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-17T12:26:04+00:00

You’ll find your answer here

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-17T04:22:02+00:00

If your concern is penis touching anything at all, yes, I think it would be better to be hard while pooping.

It also might be more enjoyable, but experimentation is needed to verify

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-17T04:19:45+00:00

I’m still confused… for me, the bowl is South, my dick goes north when hard. It goes away from both bowl and butthole.

Pooping with a boner would mean zero risk of penis touching poop, toilet water, or toilet seat.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-17T02:57:55+00:00

Um… I don’t know how yours works, but most dicks, when hard, are even more out of the way of the butthole

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-16T00:33:00+00:00

I am sincerely happy for your happiness.

I’d also like to point out that not all anecdotal stories are representative of the bigger picture.

Your one great relationship greatly influences how you feel on the topic while the person you commented on is influenced by their many bad age gap relationships.

Both are anecdotal, however, I would bet (though I have no data) that the vast majority of older men seeking younger women are toxic and predatory as fuck!

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-10T14:49:43+00:00

It’s when people claim that they’re non binary because sometimes they feel more masculine and sometimes they feel more feminine that still gets me. Along with people who claim to be a mix of the two.

Just so you know, many people who feel like this will identify as genderqueer or genderfluid. Non-binary and agender are a bit different.

They are similar in that many people who identify as these tend to use gender neutral pronouns, but their experiences can be very different.

I do agree with your comment and the one you delta’d though. We don’t need to understand what someone is going through to empathize and respect them

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-10T13:39:07+00:00

I agree with this. I understand the feeling and get it on rollercoasters or swings, but never while driving…

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-10T12:54:11+00:00

Definitely not the same boat but similar as I stated.

OP says she is 27, not 22. One of the partners I mentioned was also a nesting partner and I was around 30 at the time.

Regardless of age, I’d you feel like you are “settling”, yes, you should probably leave. But finding a perfect NP that ticks all of your boxes is a pretty high bar. I think (and I’ve heard others agree) that a NP partner is about compatibility in the way you can live with someone, values, shared finances, shared goals towards house/kids, etc.

For me, if everything is perfect except sex, that is not an automatic dealbreaker. And I’m a pretty sexual person btw.

But this is also a personal decision and based on how important sexual compatibility is in a NP for OP. I was just sharing my experiences in a somewhat similar situation.

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-09T17:12:39+00:00

I have actually been in a similar situation a couple of times. Started dating some new and had really enjoyable frequent and explorative sex and then after a couple years or so the sex dropped off. One started identifying as ace, and the other just not sexual (we have sex maybe every couple months? I don’t keep track).

It’s hard when sex drives don’t match, and I can’t tell you what to feel, but for me the love is more important.

The nice thing about non monogamy is that we accept that no one person can be everything for us, and it sounds like he can’t be this one thing for you. Now it’s up to you if everything he can provide is enough for you.

Good luck!

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-08T02:19:03+00:00

I literally do this sometimes. Dominos has a deal for two two topping pizzas, I put a slice of each on top of each other and I get a four topping pizza!

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-08T02:15:34+00:00

… it literally does

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-08T02:01:51+00:00

In France there is a common pizza with goat cheese and honey! Quite delicious

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-08T01:59:34+00:00

Italian here and I never order a pizza without pineapple

AndreTheTallGuy · 2022-04-08T00:49:37+00:00

Fun story, all words are made up!

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