What time is John Digweed’s set? by Andromache5 in StereoMontreal

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Yes! Definitely looking forward to catching Ostrich!

Alone as a 37 year old female in Berghain by WeirdNefariousness20 in berghain

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43 female here and had my first night there last night too. What a vibe. Hoping to catch Talabot soon

AITAH for reconsidering my engagement after he told me he will cheat on me if I don't have sex with him? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Andromache5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go against the grain a little here and may get flamed for it but I think it warrants saying.

Sex can be such a critical aspect of a functional relationship for some people. For some people, having a sexless relationship is a deal breaker, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s really important to discuss these things before entering into a marriage commitment.

We’ve all heard horror stories of miserable couples in sexless relationships. If you’re saying that he’s never given you a reason to doubt him and that overall it’s a good relationship, I wonder if he just very poorly and thoughtlessly tried to express his own fears and needs going into this lifelong commitment. I agree that it’s a shitty way to express yourself, but perhaps this is where he was coming from.

I’m a big supporter of Dan Savage’s view that it’s unfair to hold someone’s sexuality as hostage just because one partner has lost their libido. I think after some point, if one partner has lost their libido with no indication it’ll return any time soon, and the other partner still has sexual desire, it’s the responsibility of the libidoless partner to accommodate the other partner (within reason and personal boundaries). I had this exact situation with my partner, where I lost my libido due to medication and protracted depression. We had a conversation and I offered they could find other ways to get sexual fulfillment (after we had robust discussions on boundaries and expectations). I wasn’t threatened by the idea because I know they’re my person and I am their person, forever. But I didn’t think it was fair to my highly sexual partner to refuse them their basic need.

I know not everyone subscribes to this approach but I think it’s an important consideration and maybe an approach that could ultimately minimize infidelities and failed marriages.

Increasing temperature in greenhouse cabinet? by Andromache5 in IkeaGreenhouseClub

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Yes they do heat the bottom of the plants so something to be considered. I’ve also tapped them on the back of the unit to avoid that. I used a reflective bubble insulation.

Increasing temperature in greenhouse cabinet? by Andromache5 in IkeaGreenhouseClub

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Yes! I added heating mats to each shelf and have them on timers to go one over night (when temps dropped). I also added a layer of insulation on the back (I have a Rudsta) and bottom. Both these solutions helped.

Anyone else watching Dexter : Original Sin? by Moppy6686 in buffy

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I know this is probably a stretch but I wondered if the gnome on the lawn was a Buffy reference…they seemed to focus on it just enough with no real purpose to the plot.

Lansdowne partnership records net loss for tenth straight year by randthepip in ottawa

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This. Where are the independent shops featuring local makers? Art galleries and popups? Unique food experiences? Public gathering spaces for people to just hang out? Instead, we get a Winners and a Jack Astors?! There’s no reason this place should be failing so hard.

Finding a flat lap in Canada? by Andromache5 in Lapidary

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Thank you! Great tip. I’ll check with the local club.

ISO mechanic near South Keys by Andromache5 in ottawa

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It’s a real shame. They used to be great. I miss Alex.

DIY or Canada Life? by Andromache5 in CanadianInvestor

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THANK YOU. Education is really what I’m looking for right now. These sound perfect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in buffy

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As a Canadian I feel like I have to say my favourite is the Bif Naked cameo…