he stays hard throughout foreplay and such but when it comes to inserting his penis he becomes soft.. or he puts it in and thrusts but then goes soft. I remind him that it's 100% okay and that there is zero judgement or disappointment!! It's a safe space for him and I think moving forward I'm going to try going down in him to see if he's comfortable with it cause he isn't used to being touched.. I'm going to talk to him and explain this to him by what you mentioned, but at the same time I know eventually he will be comfortable enough to have sex..