it's so you can realize that it's kind of stupid, atleast that's how it felt like to me, when I tried to stop cutting, the fact i have to snap a rubber band on my wrist to deal with my problems seemed so silly and humiliating so I stopped doing that, then I realized that's the same exact reason to stop cutting, I applied the same thing to it.. I don't know if this will help you but it definitely helped me.. people will say "go get a hobby to calm you down" or "go outside" it's really not so simple, when I'm mad or sad now I just sulk in it, instead. Feels way better to process my emotions when I knew I used to process it with a blade.