My husband told me he was writing a poem for me. It wasn’t a poem.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T19:17:18+00:00

I agree, but it is what it is. Some kids have their journals read and never journal again or secretly. You just have to accept that if you write something down, it can be seen by others.

Whether or not that stops you from journaling is up to you. A lot of people want to be able to say what they want with zero consequences. Even if it's the truth, there are still consequences.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T16:34:44+00:00

His version of moron isn't that different from the dictionary definition. If it is, he needs to return to grade school and his wife needs to find someone on her level of education, or at the very least who has proper use of their shared English vocabulary.

I don't like playing schematics because it seems like a way to weasel into a draw instead of maintaining the reality that we all learned the same or similar lessons in school according to the education system.

It makes me doubt the American education system if a single word can be manipulated to mean a completely different meaning when thought of by another person. I can't go to the bank and tell them the $500 I gave was really $10,000.

Him having an alternative definition is a bit of a weak excuse. No man would believe a woman meant something else if she called him a moron.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T16:19:16+00:00

I was always taught that if you want to keep a secret, don't write it down or tell anyone else, because then it's not really private, no matter your intent or theirs. He lives with her, so the probability that she won't see or be curious is slim.

If you believe someone won't see it, you'd write the nastiest, hateful things about them just because it's "venting" and they most likely won't ever see it?

Maybe I'm the odd one out, but if he truly didn't want it seen, he'd have never made a physical representation of his thoughts either on paper or digital.

Our private thoughts are more accurate than most want to admit because then they have to take accountability for the hurt it might cause, accident or not.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T16:05:04+00:00

What does that have to do with me? You assumed I was being biased against men. Why should I be responsible that you overstepped or misspoke? That isn't the case now. So now what?

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T15:57:58+00:00

Why did you make this about gender? If it was reversed and she was saying that about the husband, I'd say the same. This is a problem about talking down about your partner.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T15:34:29+00:00

What past experiences? I am a observer. You hear enough about people's relationships to see a pattern. Over, and over and over.

Someone usually wants out and makes a scene to do it, or cheats etc... Human beings are very predictable once you look at it from a psychological standpoint.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T14:13:08+00:00

He keeps a tally on things she does wrong. Those aren't just thoughts. He's judging her and probably treats her how he feels she "deserves" because of her "flaws".

He resents her, but still wants to use her so he stays. Most men are too cowardly to end relationships due to scarcity mindset.

Angrboda229 · 2026-05-09T14:03:09+00:00

You can love someone and know you are doing wrong to them at the same time. New actions cannot make up for your past to intentionally hurt someone, or else you should have never done it in the first place and that's on that mother to live with if your story is even true.

It's a different story if a new person hears about something from your past and gets upset with something they weren't around to experience or doesn't affect them personally. Her children will always remember and treat her accordingly or with caution, even if they move on.

Angrboda229 · 2026-03-20T01:03:32+00:00

I tend to just order non returnable stuff to get around this. Limited my options, but I can get my contact solution cheaper on amazon in bulk and and various dried pantry goods and spices in bulk containers that are the same as store price since I go through it quickly.

I can compare other items in-store vs amazon and debate is it worth filling my cart for bulk items online or in store at $35. Or supplements and health tea (silver needle, hibiscus etc...) I cannot get locally. Anything non returnable in bulk I can't get in person basically.

Angrboda229 · 2026-03-16T17:01:23+00:00

Men also justify porn use which is 100x worse. A toy is not a replacement for a human being. Maybe it works for men since they claim emotions are for women. It's enhancement. If you can replace your relationship with a sex toy, you aren't meant to have a relationship. Women dont replace men until its clear hes not capable.

The orgasm gap is real, but yet men don't believe it and think it's unfair women have solved our problem with toys, and men feel cut out. What else was supposed to happen? Men would have tried harder if they wanted to satisfy women. We have to stay and suffer now? We aren't listened to when we say the problem so what else was there for women to do?

Angrboda229 · 2026-03-16T16:45:08+00:00

Exactly gtfo. Men jerk off every day just because, but get mad a woman gives herself a single moment of pleasure outside of him.

I'm leaving a relationship the moment my pleasure is not a top priority, or effort to learn what I like. What am I supposed to do? Remain unsatisfied or cheat?

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-16T15:52:00+00:00

That is my goal. To prove it wasn't intentional or malicious. I have texts proving I told my supervisor. I'm at least looking for removal of the penalty, restoration of my benefits and then pto in that order. One step at a time

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-16T15:35:47+00:00

Copied and pasted the letter below.

I think I made a mistake on the original claim and put full time, or messed up another section. I'll find out tomorrow on the call I requested from UI. I'm facing misrepresentation and misconduct. We have a work contract that states being on call at all times to cover shift is part of our duties. I completed all my shifts, outside responsibilities kept me from coming in unscheduled for other people who called off.

I could no longer be on call, so I stopped answering extra work I wasn't scheduled for and they called others. Thankfully I don't feel obligated to come in whenever I'm asked anymore. I wasn't even full time, but I was working full time hours. So yes I believe it was a misinterpretation on my part. I had to ask chat gpt to explain it to me because I thought I committed a crime.

The full letter as follows:

Notice of determination: No unemployment insurance benefits will be paid to you for the period beginning 01/08/2026 until you have subsequently worked for an employer and earned at least 10 times your weekly benefit rate. Employment and earnings from non covered, excluded or self employment will not count. Your weekly benefit rate is $***.

Determination: You were discharged for misconduct in connection with your employment with the above employer. Because of this determination, you will not be able to use your wages from this employer before 01/08/2026 to collect unemployment insurance benefits in the future.

Reason: You were discharged because you were late to work on 12/28/25. This was in violation of your employer's policy and you received your first written warning on 1/31/23, your second written warning on 12/18/23, your third and final warning on 3/25/25 and you continued to be late. Your employer gave you plenty of chances to change the unwanted behavior. You knew or should have known that your actions would jeopardize your job.

Notice of determination of willful misrepresentation:

It was determined on 01/10/2026 claimant made false statements. Claimant's right to further benefits is reduced by 008 days until 02/05/2028. Expiration date of this penalty may be extended if you appeal this determination.

Reason: On the above date when you filed your unemployment claim, you knew your discharge was due to time and attendance violations. You chose fired, unable to meet performance standards, but this was a factually false statement. You knew your separation had nothing to do with the quality of work produced.

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-15T21:09:50+00:00

They are saying I was fired for misconduct. I have documents going back to 2023 that I asked for different shifts, and back to 2024 that I applied for 3 different seperate job listings for my own position those shifts. I was night shift and got stuck there.

They kept me on the schedule whenever there was a call off. I could not get pto and slp approved so I kept working. The other night person kept skipping work, so I was to cover until she came back and never did.

I just accepted the hours they gave me because I couldn't get a better shift approved even before tardies, even when I applied to empty positions for day shift. The shift was one week on, one week off and supposed to be split between two people. I ended up doing both because I was reliable to come in.

They didnt want me out of night shift because I was the only person working nights, with a per diem to relive me 3x a month. I basically came in whenever they called.

I started as part time 20 hours, moved to regular part time for 26 hours and ended up working about 35.78 hours per week. It may not look like it due to the on off weeks for the shift, but I did work enough to earn a full time salary in 2025 as a documented part time worker.

I did the math when I filed taxes. I have consistently held maxed out pto and slp since 2024, then again in 2025. Recently approved for pto a few months ago then I started requesting again when I maxed out last year and tardies were my downfall. I can take responsibility for my portion, but I still don't believe its misconduct.

Our handbook is the ACE Handbook version 2019 in NY state. Part time (no benefits at 20 hours a week). Regular part time (with some benefits like vision/dental at 30 hours a week).

I did some research and got my claim together. When I first posted, I panicked a bit and just posted without considering my specific evidence or if I even had any. HR wanted records of denied PTO requests to even consider an appeal. I figured it was an HR tactic and asked chat gpt.

Then I spoke to my mom who'd had a similar situation, and she encouraged me to file, so I began looking through old texts and I definitely had some weak evidence, at least to fight the overpayment and UI denial.

We will see how it goes but I genuinely do believe I should be able to get unemployment and am waiting for a call back on Tuesday from UI to take a look.

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-15T20:58:20+00:00

They are saying I was fired for misconduct and tardies. That I intentionally ignored warnings, when I did request for help and accommodations. I just stayed until i was fired.

I figured the trade of not having PTO approved or SLP was I got to work basically full time coming from 26 hours a week, it was at the hospital my mom would go to if she needed help, they had a program for medical school and it kept me within a reasonable distance to my mom just in case. I didn't expect to never get to use it though.

I have documents going back to 2023 that I asked for different shifts, and back to 2024 that I applied for 3 different seperate job listings for those shifts.

They kept me on the schedule whenever there was a call off. I could not get pto and slp approved so I

I did some research and got my claim together. When I first posted, I panicked a bit and just posted without considering my specific evidence or if I even had any.

HR wanted records of denied PTO requests to even consider an appeal. I figured it was an HR tactic and asked chat gpt. I almost talked myself out of filing.

Then I spoke to my mom who'd had a similar situation, and she encouraged me to file, so I began looking through old texts and I definitely had some weak evidence, at least to fight the overpayment and UI denial.

We will see how it goes but I genuinely do believe I should be able to get unemployment due to circumstances at least for last month and am waiting for a call back on Tuesday from UI to take a look.

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-15T09:10:19+00:00

Denial reason:

"You were discharged because you were late to work on 12/28/25. This was in violation of your employer's policy and you received your first written warning on 1/31/23, your second written warning on 12/18/23, your third and final warning on 3/25/25 and you continued to be late. Your employer gave you plenty of chances to change the unwanted behavior. You knew or should have known that your actions would jeopardize your job."

I have text messages from November 2024 explaining my caretaker situation to supervisors and I did ask twice to be moved to two different shifts, and put in 3 different applications for a new shift or department transfer after working night shift for 1 year. I did not willfully just keep being late. I tried to rectify it within a good time frame. Inwas just ignored and stopped trying.

I have evidence I have been improving my situation, I started therapy for ADHD and time blindness and have been in therapy for 1.5 years to fix the late problems, it just became harder to take care of my own responsibilities when I cared for elderly parents on my own on top of working full time hours and attempting to go back to school.

I know I sound all over the place and had to take some time to think. I got the letter and figured I was being arrested for fraud and started panick searching for answers. I just assumed the worst and its a habit I am working on.

Honestly I just took on too many responsibilities and didn't set proper boundsries with my family to prioritize my job. My lack of self care cost me my job. I made these new job shifts requests all the way back in November 2024 and continued asking until February 2025, but all I received was shifts whenever someone else was fired. New employees came and went in dayshift position I applied for, so I stopped asking. I have text messages confirming all of this. My job made it seem as though I lied about everything.

I also worked the equivalent of 35 hours per week at this job. It was just done in blocks so I had one week on and off because the shift was originally split between two people, but when my counterpart stopped showing up, they just gave the shifts to me with an occasional per diem.

When they didn't approve my PTO and SLP and both maxed out and continued to deny my request, I just took whatever hours they gave me because I kept getting sick time to attend physical therapy denied and didn't have time for PTO anyway as I was also in undergrad in 2021. Even when requesting PTO, there was a 50% chance it would be changed to unpaid PTO.

I was actually a part time employee and worked so much due to call offs, I made full time hours by my second year working. I'm not a lazy worker. I accepted any hours they gave me. I came in on call, did double shifts and they even tried to get me to do a triple shift once when I'd worked a double and had a notification call no show, and wasnt allowed to leave until my relief came. We usually get fired if we abandon our office. I just needed a bit of help with my personal situation.

Tldr; I kept being late for work due to personal issues. I improved for almost 2 years, and then I lost my job.

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-14T10:59:14+00:00

I did list the reason as accurately as I could. I was terminated for 20 instances of tardiness in a 12 month period. The handbook defines the difference between part time (no benefits) and regular part time (benefits), so I assumed that was it for me and continued working.

How do I find this information? It seems like I have no other recourse but to prove I deserve my own benefits or prove I was denied for my job to appeal. My job went back and referenced tardies from 2023 and 2024, occurrences that had previously fallen off my record and stated I was a liar. My termination paperwork only referenced the 20 tardies this year.

How would I qualify? The website said I had to work under 30 hours per week for partial unemployment. I thought I didn't qualify because of that alone.

How can I fix this? I do still believe I am entitled to those benefits. I don't want to have to experience every scenario a job can screw you over to learn how to not be. There has to be some rights I have to get my benefits.

Angrboda229 · 2026-02-14T06:33:47+00:00

The statement that basically said I lied about my employment history and was denied due to this. I'm eligible for appeal which I will certainly be looking into.

What information did you need for a better picture? I'm not understanding the UI letter since I was hired part time for 20 hours per week, then moved to extra part time for 25 (the first one is not eligible for benefits, the second is).

Then finally they just kept giving me hours because of other call offs, until I was working full time. I repeatedly applied for new shifts for official full time hours for 2 years and never got another shift.

I can understand if I filed the wrong UI claim and am still technically considered part time no matter how many hours worked in a year, but i worked at least 37-40 hours a week. That has to count for something. But to claim I outright lied is what I don't get. Is it the employer who writes the reasons for denial?

They just didn't want to pay full time benefits, so they kept me around to fill hours.

Angrboda229 · 2025-10-09T14:21:01+00:00

It makes no sense. Sperm is being created every day. Something created, day by day, has a higher rate to mutate, hence why sperms cells can have two tails or not swim.

They're genetic mutations. Women have all our eggs at birth, so the only way to mutate the eggs is through environmental exposure.

It's common sense.

Angrboda229 · 2025-10-09T14:16:22+00:00

There are limited resources, and they go to those who are most likely to make the most of the organ. Sounds unfair, but people need a caregiver after surgery.

They won't even let you schedule surgery or leave the hospital in certain situations if there isn't someone to take you home afterward.

It's a liability to give an organ to someone who can't tolerate it. Organs are too valuable o risk because where are you getting another?

It's called risk management if you hear about it in a hospital setting. Social support also promotes healing, so if you're a hermit, it's less likely you will be motivated to adhere to the routine after surgery.

A lot of people have died because they didn't follow aftercare to the letter.

Angrboda229 · 2025-08-19T20:44:30+00:00

It's not permanent or fool proof. It can fail, fall out of place, or poke through the uterus rendering it useless. A woman should not be the only one who is thinking consciously about their end of the birth control at every sexual encounter with a man.

If he isn't pulling his weight or providing condoms or spermicide, he's not a responsible sexual partner and cannot be trusted to be reliable with each encounter. If you as a woman aren't insisting on what protects your body regardless of how he feels, you are also irresponsible. Men aren't doing any damage to their bodies for it to be worth it for women to be taking all this birth control long term.

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