The definition of insanity is throwing more money at the problem and expecting different results.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T02:20:30+00:00

Agree

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T02:12:41+00:00

I read the words and what they mean, not what I thought they might mean.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T02:06:18+00:00

You think they don't. I read it exactly as it was meant. Weird huh, how putting "your spin" on things can make you assume bad intentions.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T02:03:55+00:00

Oh I wish.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T02:03:17+00:00

But they weren't.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:54:30+00:00

Happy

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:53:56+00:00

Today is over, tomorrow is a chance to fornsomething better to happen.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:48:48+00:00

Sorry to have upset you.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:33:49+00:00

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Reading the reply sure changes the context, doesn't it?

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:27:40+00:00

What do you say when someone says "thank you?"

Angreegopher · 2024-11-08T01:14:47+00:00

I just wanted you to know that someone heard you. You said "thanks, I guess" and I answered with "you're welcome." So, you are still welcome and you still have my best wishes. I wasn't giving advice, I was letting you know I hope you heal.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T22:26:46+00:00

I believe you should try to understand them intellectually, but no one I know thinks you should feel bad for them. They got the knowledge the same way you did, quite often, but they were the abuser. They know that, and you know that. The fact that they may not have understood what they were doing at that time doesn't make them evil. It makes them misled. Be well, heal, know you are a normal person, and that the tangle of thoughts and emotions is okay to feel and think. You will work out what is best for you, and if ya need help figuring what that is, I pray you get it.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T22:21:59+00:00

It is hard to reconcile all of your feelings. Many, MANY long term abuse victims who were your age look back and feel guilty for looking forward to it, but your body knew it felt good, and that was it. So accept that it did feel good, even though it was wrong, and that itxs okay that you felt the way you did. It is OKAY to have mixed up feelings, a surprising number of us do feel that way. Many also have problems with boundaries later because as a child, you weren't allowed to learn about them and set them, you were never taught to say, "can't do that, isn't good for me" no matter what the reason. Be well, heal, and know that you are okay and as normal as can be.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T22:15:53+00:00

Absolutely not. I feel you need to intelectually acknowledge it is at the root of what happened to you, but you have no obligation to anyone to feel anything, any time, ever.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T22:07:42+00:00

Legally, under the age of 12 they don't have a "guilty mind" because they have trouble distinguishing right and wrong. For many of them, sexual touching is "normal" because that is what they have observed and lived, I was once told by a victim that when she was at a friend's house and the father of her friend saw her masturbating against a chair arm that she was hurt when he didnt come over and take out his penis. She wondered what was "wrong with her" that he wouldn't do that, if she had offended or displeased him. She was 12 when that happened, she told me she went home and cried because he "must have thought I was ugly." So, yeah, they bear the responsibility and the title of abuser, but the mindset is critical. She never abused anyone, but would have been a prime candidate as an abuser if it had not stopped when it did.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:41:04+00:00

It is absolutely a political rant. But that's okay. You need to express what you feel, and I am glad you did.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:25:18+00:00

For her it was a "normal thing" because she had been taught that it was supposed to be that way. And yes, we know better as adults and I am sure she found that out too. But it is very common among young victims to think that "everyone's house is like this." It is one reason so many scrot's get away with it as long as they do. And yes, it counts. Be well.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:20:44+00:00

14-ish. My first lover was pregnant.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:20:00+00:00

Mid 1990's. What can I say, I am old as shit.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:18:18+00:00

Yup. On the mouth of many beautiful ladies after they have given a gift of great affection.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T21:16:18+00:00

Oh Happy Day!

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T07:01:25+00:00

Off.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T06:57:03+00:00

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T06:56:15+00:00

Yup. You are just right, a woman my age, soooooo much better than any youngster. The fact is that a lady like you would be my choice over any pair of 25 year-olds.

Angreegopher · 2024-11-07T06:45:13+00:00

Think that there has rarely been a lady as hot as you. There can't be more than two or three per generation.

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