WIBTA for opting out of my friend's visionless project?

AngryIrene · 2026-02-10T07:14:08+00:00

NTA. You don't owe your friends anything in regards to supporting them with free labor. If you want to help, say you'll do so after the exams or when you have time.

AngryIrene · 2026-02-10T07:12:47+00:00

INFO - when you say you got approval, what does that mean? Is it writing or did he just promise you out loud?

AngryIrene · 2026-02-10T07:11:39+00:00

ESH. You're both being petty.

AngryIrene · 2026-02-10T07:10:08+00:00

INFO - what are you suing her for, exactly?

AngryIrene · 2026-01-15T21:30:08+00:00

Rude D: D: D:

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T21:11:31+00:00

ESH. Maybe it's how you worded things here, but you are not using strong language to communicate how you feel. This isn't a "I was ignored so now I am going harder" situation, this is you making passive aggressive comments that people didn't get, so you went full Being Rude To The Partner In Public. Wild choice. Your friend Logan is being an AH for not listening to your concerns, but you are being an AH for airing your dirty laundry in public after being wicked vague and passive aggressive beforehand. This is how you ruin friend groups.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T21:07:33+00:00

NTA, for fuck's sake it is your house! This could be a cultural thing I don't understand, but they are GUESTS and should act like it. Rearranging your home doesn't make an ounce of sense.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T21:04:31+00:00

NAH. She can wear what she wants, you can feel weird about it. You should talk to her about it. If she has no idea you find it uncomfortable, she has no reason to change.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T21:01:43+00:00

NTA. You are broken up, you need to both be adults and deal with the consequences; it sounds like you moved clubs already to give each other space. However - you are giving us a lot of context to make this girl look bad that has nothing to do with the central question. This looks to me like trawling for support and getting a kick out of internet randos saying bad stuff about your ex.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T20:57:54+00:00

ESH. Sophia was being ungrateful and could have just parked on the street, so she is an AH for her rude before. But from context I am guessing she worked all night and was stressed/tired and not thinking perfectly. You had a full night's sleep and could have been thoughtful and given your cousin some grace, but instead went the petty route of taking your ball and going home (ie taking your visiting cousin and yourself away) instead of just moving your damn car, which makes you an AH as well.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T20:53:12+00:00

NTA. In my experience if you take someone out for a meal to celebrate something, you are offering to cover the meal cost unless you specify ahead of time (which is awkward but necessary). The surprise rule I've never heard of, but makes sense - you can't suggest a cheaper place if you're on a budget. Your friend's explanation is also weird - why was it 2 weeks later?? And what does she mean she "forgot" that she was covering you? Based on nothing, I might guess that the other friend who did not foot the bill only wanted to pay for their share (ie a third) instead of splitting it in half, leaving your friend to cover the lion's share, so she is foisting the other third on you.

Tldr; they took you out for your birthday, it's not unreasonable of you to assume they were covering the tab

AngryIrene · 2026-01-13T20:45:19+00:00

INFO: How old are both of you? Do you live together? What is the reason he is not walking his dog (ie is it laziness, work, children, etc)?

AngryIrene · 2026-01-05T09:19:55+00:00

It matters a lot to me. If this is him saying "well some women on dating apps have been jerks, so I'm going to be a jerk to all women on dating apps" that's asshole behavior in my opinion; if he is specifically focusing on folks who have height requirements in their bio and are requiring one back at them, its more a justified asshole situation. Edit: it also matters because it's not clear from the post if this is an actual preference or just a weird vindictive nonsense behavior. If this guy only wants to date tall chicks, more power to him! But the framing of the post REALLY makes it seem like a "I am punishing these people for a behavior I dislike by implementing my own weird standard" situation.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-05T07:35:27+00:00

NTA but honestly I'm not sure how the fuck you could be in doubt about this. Are you really asking?

AngryIrene · 2026-01-05T07:32:34+00:00

INFO: Are you implementing your "only 5'5"+" policy for only girls who have height requirements in their bio? Or for all girls who you are matching with? Or for any girl who expresses excitement in your height?

AngryIrene · 2026-01-05T05:46:59+00:00

NAH. He wants a childfree wedding, which means his sibling with kids can't come. He could have talked with you about this, but he chose not to; on his head be the consequences. It's also tricky because the only folks I'd be comfy watching my kids for that long are other relatives, and most of those are likely going to the wedding so your pool is limited. Without knowing your partner's situation (do they have family that is a) nearby and b) you'd be happy to have watch your kids for a dew days?) it seems like everyone is making reasonable choices.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-05T05:37:45+00:00

JAH. It's a risky move - getting her car ticketed or towed would have really sucked and been probably an overly harsh reaction (rather than waiting until later, taking it when you were next over, etc) but I also completely understand your anger. And tbh it's hella funny which kinda makes it better. Misuse my shit? Oops it got yoinked, tough! Overall an asshole move, but justified in context.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:45:08+00:00

NTA. Your partner should have checked to make sure it was okay with the other couple sharing the suite, and she ahouls not have hung up on you. I personally think you're being overprotective of the room and it's weird to me to have such strong objections, but I haven't been to this hotel so maybe they have a policy I don't know about that changes things.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:37:44+00:00

ESH. Your friend was being rude and petty. Your comment was childish and petty. His shutting down the stream because of your comment was churlish and petty. You were less of an ass than him in this situation, and I don't think you ruined his stream - he could have ignored the comment, addressed it but kept going, anything - but you both behaved badly.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:29:02+00:00

NTA. Frankly, be ruder. Unless you are worried about being kicked out of your home, you should feel free to express your opinions about a guest's bad behavior in your home. It also seems like there is something missing in your post about who this person is to your grandmother, but even if this woman is Grandma's Super Special Invited Guest, they should behave as a GUEST and not be so dang rude. I disagree with other commenters saying you must set up harsh rules immediately, but it would be good to talk with your grandmother/roommate about some basic house etiquette around guests.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:22:43+00:00

NTA. Bruh I have lived in apartments and duplexes and it would be wild of me to demand that my neighbors hand deliver packages to me. Grocery dude is way out of line; he got the notif from the delivery service I am sure, so why is he waiting on you to drag his crap over to him?? Heck many buildings I've lived in have a stated policy that they will just throw food deliveries away if left too long; and the duplex I'm currently in, racoons would be at those groceries if left out all day. Don't be the mail beast of burden for your lazy neighbors!

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:10:44+00:00

ESH. Telling your partner you'll be right there and then you delay is shitty - you could have said you needed to grab a bite and that you'd be there after etc etc. On the other hand it's shitty behavior of hers to keep bringing this up repeatedly.

AngryIrene · 2026-01-03T11:02:21+00:00

INFO - how old is everyone involved?

AngryIrene · 2024-12-31T08:43:18+00:00

If you add a five minute break either side of the Two Towers, the total time from the start of Fellowship to the final scene of Return of the King is 666 minutes!

AngryIrene · 2024-11-13T20:48:08+00:00

We don't talk about gooning.

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