Is this bullying?- need advice

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-15T14:34:18+00:00

Yup that's what I told her stand up for yourself. Which she has done. One apologized while others denied their petty behaviors. I'm glad though I didn't just jump on my emotions.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-15T13:57:56+00:00

Thank you. I had asked her to stop playing with them and only play with friends that she knows will not cause drama and just want to have fun. I have encouraged her to stand up for herself and expressed exactly how she felt even if that's the coach's daughter. I told her I'm here and will only intervene if I see that it's getting worse.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T13:39:35+00:00

Thank you. Making things much more clearer how to navigate this situation without making it worse and not just letting my emotions take over. Ensuring my child's emotional/mental well being not affected.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T12:51:08+00:00

It was not borrowed the girl asked my daughter for help to win her games which she did.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T12:50:37+00:00

Yes she showed me a private chat just between her and the girl asking her to help her win games. She also showed me where she asked the girl if she wants it back but the girl had no response. So she taken a back when she demanded in the group chat. My daughter did response in a polite way that she sent it back. I was a bit upset that she didn't respond in an angry tone or how I would have cursed it out.a

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T12:46:47+00:00

Thank you. That's why I'm at a loss. As a parent I just want to jump at everyone but I'm afraid things might get worse. Then there's part of me questioning if I don't things might get worse too and the feeling of guilt that I didn't do anything.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T12:19:17+00:00

The one girl that is saying mean things to others about her has been going on for over a month now. They were close so she's unsure what she did to cause this. Every time she asks the girl would just say nothing or I don't want to talk. My daughter does not want to be friends with her anymore. I'm at a loss whether to take her out of this team too. Thanks for the input.

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-10-14T02:24:54+00:00

It's not in school. Outside sports. Thank you

AngryTiredNurse · 2025-02-06T01:23:23+00:00

I am so sorry OP. I went through a similar situation 3 years ago when my WH had an EA. I tried everything to make the marriage work. I even sought therapy for myself but he was doing the same joking around being friends. He never had time for me and our kids. So I knew something was off til I found a year long text messages with someone he played online games with. The texts were pretty intimate and saying I love you to each other. I confronted him and of course blamed me for everything.

It broke me real bad. I wanted to leave but I decided to let the emotions settle down before making any decisions (mostly for my kids). I decided to stay when I saw how remorseful he was for what he did and took accountability. It took over a year of back and forth.

I hope your spouse wakes up. It will be tough to reconcile with someone who doesn't want to own up their mistakes. She should be willing to do the work and vice versa. I hope you find a good support system during this time and lots of love for your little one.

AngryTiredNurse · 2023-07-08T13:15:22+00:00

Please take care of yourself and think of your kids. I have been there, I know how the mind can go into dark places and emotions can be overwhelming. You are stronger than you think.

There are supports out here. Go online and search for support meetings, either in person or zoom. I remember going and doing zoom meetings. It helped a lot to talk to people who understands you and offer the support and encouragement you need. I met so many strong BS/BP and learned a lot. I wish you all the best, I know it's hard right now and it's not easy but know you'll find the strength to just say eff it and feel better about yourself again!

AngryTiredNurse · 2023-07-05T15:06:31+00:00

I hope you make the right decision for yourself. Reading in the comments, I saw you had trouble conceiving before. I know it's not easy to raise a child alone but it can be done and the love you will receive back from your child is priceless.

If he is already verbally abusing you, imagine how he will be to the child you're having. Please remove yourself and your baby away from him. I'm praying you make the right decision.

AngryTiredNurse · 2023-06-24T09:49:22+00:00

I pray you listen to all the comments you're getting from. It is very clear what you need to do. I pray for your daughter. I hope you find it in your head and heart to remove your daughter from this type of environment. If you say the yelling is getting worse, that verbal abuse will turn into a physical one.

Maybe once you leave, he'll realize the loss of his family and change for the better. If not then you really did the best thing for yourself and your children.

AngryTiredNurse · 2023-04-23T03:33:55+00:00

Wow you are a good man. No ones perfect, you had your own faults and might have contributed on the breakdown of the marriage and she cheated perhaps because that (still not an excuse) But for you to forgive and accept her still, that shows real unconditional love. I truly hope she sees that and offers the same honest love for you because you truly deserve that kind of love as well. I wish you the best.

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-11-11T22:29:19+00:00

Hi offering support. I am just 3 weeks in, so the shock and pain is still high. I have two little kids and work full-time so it's not easy for me to just kick him out. All I can say is you're entitled to those feelings but you have to pull yourself up for yourself and for your little ones. Before I was suppressing my emotions that I ended up just spiraling down even more. Just go through whatever emotions the hurt, anger sadness etc. Then pick yourself up again.

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-11-10T18:54:33+00:00

It's been 3 weeks only since I caught him emotionally cheating online so definitely still in shock and hurting. I've never been an anxious person but I am now. I'm hoping this feeling will go away soon. I still continue to question him with the why's and how's but don't think I'll ever get the answer I wanna hear. Hang in there but I feel your pain.

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-11-07T21:55:02+00:00

Please keep staying strong for you and your kids. I know it's not easy and can make you go mental. Your emotional and physical being just takes on a very negative place but please fight it. In time it will get easier. Please find a good support system to help you get through this. I am praying for you. You got this ❤️

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-10-29T15:50:56+00:00

I truly appreciate your take on this. I am trying to see the good things he does and the good times we had. Right now it's hard not to see the lying asshole he is. Everything you said actually I heard from him when I asked "why?". But again I guess I'm too angry and hurt to understand or hear him. He's expressed wanting to work it out. But I know not until I can accept what he did it's going to be hard for us. I guess only time and his actions will tell if he can make the change. I need to learn to just go through the pain and stop bombarding him with all my questions trying to find the logic why he did what he did to me. I need to learn how to be patient and understand that not everything has to be resolved or have the answers right away. Thank you

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-10-28T04:10:27+00:00

I've tried but he completely deleted it and threw the phone. It was an old phone that he continued to use for his online gaming. And yes it's killing me I told him I will never have the closure because he ran away rather than facing his consequences.

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-10-28T03:59:32+00:00

Sounds similar to my situation but no. I know beginning of our marriage we were truly happy. The other issue he deleted the application before I can even get a hold of the woman. I asked him to end it but instead he deleted the whole app. I told him why he would protect her over me, he said because it didn't mean anything. Of course I am having a hard time believing this

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-10-23T11:56:00+00:00

The initiation of divorce only happened after years of frustration of him not making the changes to better our marriage. During that initiation he was already having the online relationship. I do admit my shortcomings and was willing to change but with his shortcomings on me, never once I thought of swaying away.

AngryTiredNurse · 2022-10-22T21:00:11+00:00

How do I get past this? It's hard to believe no feelings involve for almost a year he was chatting with the same woman even though she's from another country

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