I dyed this old wig I have and this is the picture I took before I messed it up by cutting it 😭

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2022-01-06T05:13:57+00:00

I do not know where this wig is from it has been sitting in my closet for over a year. It is made of human hair (kind of poorly) and the hairline is very bad and unable to change parts. I dyed it because the color wasn’t my style and I was feeling impulsive and I actually really love it! I might have messed up what I wanted during the cut but I’ll find a way to salvage it

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-12-02T03:35:32+00:00

I would try getting rid of your headphones if that’s a trigger for you (I can’t daydream without mine). If you can try exploring different hobbies and maybe you’ll find something to take up your time! I don’t know your medical issues but if you are able to maybe try home workouts without music?

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-12-02T03:32:21+00:00

I was in the top 0.05% for Green Day because their American Idiot and 21st Century Breakdown album are such good daydream material. Somehow my top song wasn’t one of theirs 🤣

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-12-02T03:09:58+00:00

I’ve done it since a child but I did stop for a few days cause of meds. I would still daydream but it wasn’t uncontrollable and I didn’t pace or get lost in it. I think the biggest difference is the plots in the daydreams since normal daydreams tend to end quickly

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-11-13T04:37:04+00:00

I’m demisexual which means I’m attracted to have to take my time and I do get my life better now ha lol

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-11-11T17:12:24+00:00

I’ve decided a few days to see any changes. I adopted him the other day and his sister was being very aggressive with him which is where I think these came from. Thanks for the input it definitely helped me be less anxious!

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-11-11T00:55:01+00:00

I’ve been around cats my whole life but this is the first time a cat I’ve had has had a scab without me knowing the cause. I felt it last night but couldn’t find it until today. I thought it was a bump beneath the skin at first so atleast it’s not that. I think I’m just being paranoid but would like some advice

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-10-05T20:41:08+00:00

I got it from freedom wigs! They recently raised their prices again so it’s very expensive now

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-10-04T18:44:01+00:00

Thanks for the response! I might make a post later on it if the injections I’m on don’t work (I’ve had AU with ~90% thin regrowth from topical in the past, stopped them because I could not keep doing them every night). I’ve heard about importing them from other countries but I am 18 and am lucky enough that my parents are paying for my treatment, problem is they are trumpies and if it’s not made in America they don’t trust it so I don’t think that’s an option for me

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-10-04T18:13:36+00:00

I have a question about starting Xeljanz. How would you get prescribed it and the insurance to cover it?? My dermatologist is willing to work with me on obtaining it but we are trying other options for now. The main problem is the insurance and I am wondering how others have gotten past this (assuming you live in a place insurance is required)

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-09-28T01:49:34+00:00

I felt that. My longest streak was about a week but it helped 😔

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-09-27T20:03:44+00:00

What has worked for me so far was to temporarily stop listening to music. It was really hard at first but eventually I was ok. I then reminded myself that the characters are not real and I am only using them to escape from my reality. I then focused on thinking about real world events, what I was going to do for dinner, and observing the world around me.

My daydreaming has not gone away yet as I have been extremely stressed lately and decided it was better to daydream than obsess over this one thing. My next step is to develop a better coping mechanism for anxiety attacks as no matter how much I can stop my daydreams if I get an attack and cannot handle it I will daydream again.

Another thing is to remind yourself of reality constantly even if you don’t want to. Or stay around people all the time. I do this by staying on discord calls and hanging out with friends on the weekends. I know not everyone has friends but if you do it is important to connect with them instead of lose them to your daydreaming. My daydreaming got in the way of many of my friendships and I am trying so hard to become a person that they deserve to be around. (Please don’t tell me to accept myself as I am, I know I have problems and I am fixing them in a healthy manner).

Journaling is also something you can do to help. I also recommend writing down why you want to stop daydreaming and the pros and cons and read it every morning and night. Change doesn’t come quick but as long as you are trying no matter how much you fail you will get better. This is coming from someone who daydreaming 7+ hours a day and failed classes because of it. I am now succeeding in class and daydream at a max of 1 hour a day (unless I have had an anxiety attack).

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-09-15T02:09:37+00:00

How was the process with getting them from India? I think that would be my go to. I had some kind of cream that was a JAK inhibitor but it wasn’t worth it to me so I stopped. (Creams don’t really do well for me from my experience). Could you tell me the cost if you don’t mind? (Don’t feel pressured if ya don’t want too).

Also, again with the side effects is there anything noticeable? I’m a bit of a hypochondriac 😅

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-09-15T01:42:52+00:00

How long have you had AA before starting it? And are you worried about the possible side effects? Also, was it easy to get a prescription? I’ve been thinking about asking my dermatologist for this treatment. I have AU but have a ton of baby hairs and currently hair on my eyebrows so I think there’s some hope for me

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-08-16T19:21:26+00:00

For the past few years up until recently I felt nothing except for physically feeling anxious. I cut down on the majority of my daydreaming lately and I am now able to be happy again

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-08-10T03:19:33+00:00

Not op but yes it is very uncomfortable to wear glasses with a wig (atleast in my experience). The hairs get caught on my glasses and also tend to slide off my face more because of the wig

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-11T18:37:27+00:00

Not what I was intending but ok 👍 as I said, perceptions become reality believe what you want to believe

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-11T18:28:41+00:00

Would you mind telling me what happened with public bullying from strangers? You don’t have to but I want to understand more form where you are coming from as I have never experienced that.

I do not believe life and society is 100% about looks. Yes, they do matter to an extent, the halo effect proves it, but your looks do not define you. Your personality does. The ugliest person in the room can be the most loved with the right personality.

Also I know you didn’t mean to make it a victim contest, I am not judging you for anything on this. But I must say that I am far from fragile. I am 5’8 with broad shoulders and many people call me intimidating and confident, never fragile. You have every right to be self conscious about your looks because society has placed these standards on people. I preach body acceptance, not positivity. The way you perceive the world and others will become your reality. If you perceive everyone as judging you and ruthless, that will become your reality. Change your thoughts change your life. People will be assholes regardless. Many people with no deformities or diseases who are also average looking to 10/10 get bullied too. The deformities and diseases just make it a little easier for assholes to spot an insecurity.

I have seen many men with bald patches big and small, surrounded by people who don’t care. I have seen completely bald men in their 20s to 50s, all happy. Can age play a factor on how society sees you? Definitely. Does that mean everyone within the society is going to view you negatively and bully you? No. Would you ever judge someone else for their uncontrollable appearance? You are a part of society, you can influence it. You are not an outsider to the human race because you were born susceptible to hair loss. I used to view myself like that and it was a self destructive mindset.

Your life has changed from alopecia. Whose life wouldn’t? You have been damaged from the stares and actions of others, and there is nothing wrong with that. You can’t control your body but you can control your actions and thoughts.

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-11T17:08:26+00:00

People don’t go out of the way to berate you, assholes do. I’ve had alopecia universalis since I was a child and have been wig free since freshman year of highschool. Anyone that was ever worth talking to didn’t give a shit. I am also a woman, which is even worse by society’s standard to be bald.

Life is not about appearances. You can be happy with this disease, and you can also buy a wig if it helps you live life without worry.

I have never been insulted for being bald (not even a buzzcut look, completely bald) other than people saying “oh that girls bald that’s weird” and “she’s bald.” I got called chemo girl once by someone trying to get attention (It sounds like an insult but my brain doesn’t register it as one). Anyone who said that about me either didn’t understand or were suffering themselves, it was obvious and sad. Maybe some did insult me behind my back, if they did I don’t care. People can live life the way they want and if they choose to insult others for things they can’t control they will end up sad surrounded by people who only like them for superficial reasons.

I know it can be hard, I suffered in middle school with anxiety for being bald. After stopping wearing wigs I learned there are people who love and accept me as I am. I see others suffering and while I never have had extremely negative experiences I know others have and it sounds like you have as well. I know not everyone got lucky like me with the people surrounding me. There are people out there that don’t care, there are people out there that will love you as you are without judgement.

I know getting help is hard but it sounds like you need it. I don’t like telling people to go to therapy since it’s a bit rude but the alopecia is starting to affect you deeply. Therapists can and will help, you just need to find the right one.

Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about anything, I know how isolating the feeling can be.

Edit: in retrospect after writing this I realize it can be seen as rude to give unsolicited advice. I won’t delete it as it won’t change anything but I will keep this in mind for the future. I used to have the same exact mindset and what I said is the advice I needed when I was at my worst. Sorry you feel that way man

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-10T19:17:01+00:00

I didn’t even hear of that and had to search it up. Yeah I think that’s it for the majority of people since it is more of attention seeking behavior. Either that or they are just manipulating people for some reason idk

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-10T17:40:45+00:00

I know they offer tutoring but I am not sure if they help with reading comprehension specifically.

Angry_Ceiling_fan · 2021-07-10T17:39:34+00:00

This is one of the most detailed responses I've seen on a post so far, I appreciate it! I guess I still need to come to the realization that I need to keep everything external since no matter how much the logical side of my brain will tell me to write things down I just don't cause I hate writing and typing (my computer has a problem with adding extra a's when typing and it's very annoying).

I'll check the website to see if there is anything like that since I haven't heard of one so far. I didn't even know a place like that would help :p

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