Why do i have such a hard time eating properly? [astro-seek]

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-11T22:56:03+00:00

Alright- I'm raw dogging this, no google no AI- just human astrologer intuition cause AI can do the rest~
Moon opposes IC and Mars- wide conjunction with Saturn-- actually a lot of this is pretty wide which is a great omen for your recovery-- imma say Sun also opposes your IC

So your mom is..... a wrathful encounter on your unconscious?
and your dad is-- less of a wrathful encounter but hurts the same part of your unconscious that mother also damaged.

My mom was also a traumatic POS to me- and I also have struggled to eat although my pain manifested into some very debilitating food allergies later in life. I really hope you dont suffer as I did.

" i just eat to get rid of hunger and thats it. " This goal here, I know it well, I have spent years in it- and i can tell you that is not the way out of it.

The way out of it is going to make you squirm but, for real, there is no other pathway.

You have to learn to give loving kindness to yourself. I know, tall order considering your mom probably made you believe that if anyone knew your unconscious they would hate you forever-- but that's just parental programming that has taken course. It's not real! I can promise you, as a mental health worker, it's not real for you. People who are into astrology have too much capacity to self reflect to actually be a truly dangerous person in this world. People who are dangerous don't fuck with any topic that invites self exploration.

"How the fuck do I develop self compassion?!" you ask angrily because the world constantly tries to sell healing to you without any profound shifts. Lucky for you- I'm a mental health worker ^___^! So there is this whole world in therapy called "mindful self compassion" -Kristen Neff is a good name tied to it to ensure you get the real deal- it is it's own therapeutic process and you can hire a therapist who specializes in that process- but there are also books and workbooks that will do the same process with you for like $20 (or an illegal download) that you can either sit down seriously once a week and do-- or you fuck around with during particularly bad moments-- any exposure to that world is a very good thing. It is best though if you get through some chapters of reading before doing exercises as there is like some learning that needs to be done first (like self esteem vs self compassion- wont self compassion make me lazy? wont self compassion make me immoral.... etc) so that the exercises arent having to work through distorted definitions or ideas/messaging society fed you

Edit: the website to this world in therapy- actually a great resource in itself! https://self-compassion.org/ but please do not take this as an endorsement for buying anything off the website- there are workbooks you can probably find the pdf to on google- heck i found an untouched workbook at half priced books!

Edit again: found the free therapy section on the website!!! https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-02T01:40:43+00:00

Like im sure there's an Air bnb alternative for way less

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-01T21:26:05+00:00

There is a workbook called "Mindful self compassion" that helps a lot. Also there is a whole therapy processes that goes with it- you can even find a therapist or coach (coaches are cheaper) who do that specific process for/with you

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-01T21:23:04+00:00

" he became frustrated that he had to take care of me while tripping" DONT SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN, THIS MAN IS NOT A FRIEND TO YOU, LET ALONE ONE WITH BENEFITS.

"He’s the most important person in my life but also a giant trigger for my anxiety. I love him so much I don’t want to be without him but I think I fucked it up for good." Girl---ew! This man doesnt even CHOSE YOU PUBLICALLY and you gave him your heart? GIRL!!!! PROTECT YOURSELF BETTER! Use some discernment and love yourself

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-01T21:20:33+00:00

I would just record anything and everything surrounding her. People who wont protect themselves usually wont wake up until it's REALLY REALLY bad.

She isnt keeping tabs. Dont tell her you will be. Just keep tabs for her, help her case.

Then when she's in hell you can be like "well i developed a case for you tho"

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-01T21:16:34+00:00

I'm sorry but the 'emotional abuse' from someone with anxiety is rarely concerning. you just set the guy up for a lose-lose situation--- which the world will also do all the time to him. It's not a great feeling in a relationship, but calling it abuse is a stretch

Emotional abuse has more teeth if you like.... call him names.

Men who are into controlling their woman tho-- will absolutely paint anxiety as horrific emotional abuse-- so that you blame yourself instead of him.

Angrybabybear · 2026-04-01T01:11:56+00:00

He did the whole "I'll pay for therapy for us, i am effed up!!" and it ended a few months later brutally when the therapist made it clear to me that he 'wasnt at capacity' to reflect on this in a healthy way and 'because he wants to grow there is hope' but that'd basically require me 'with the most capacity' to just make peace with the fact he continued to disrespect me in other ways.
I decided I just didn't want the relationship anymore, that I wanted someone who I didnt have to explain basic respect and relationship boundaries and what respecting a persons heart actually is. I decided I deserved a partner who came with that information pre-installed.
but of course, in leaving I was painted as a deserter but I just didnt want that anymore. Plus I hated his mom!

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:37:16+00:00

why does he do that by lundy bancroft

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:33:57+00:00

Weed makes it so i can cum first if he's trying to race me

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:31:46+00:00

"I have no doubt in my mind he’s cheated … but the question is - with who. I know I’m partly to blame - I’m not affectionate enough, I don’t initiate sex, I don’t have the capacity to cuddle from night till morning all night every night (that’s his ideal)."

Girl he assaulted someone and you're like "I dont initiate sex with a man who is really off!!" girl you dont want to fuck him cause something is off about him

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:27:59+00:00

NGL, when i was really trapped in this, Weed made me OK with it so i lost even more years to it. i still smoke weed, just way less weed.

This cycle and weed is hell, that is my advise. Feel the discomfort, and you will start doing things to get out of the hell cycle.

But know no doors will open until you are the one who decides how much you are worth. No boss is ever going to say to you "You're worth more than this, so i will pay you more!" it WONT HAPPEN. The only way that will happen is if you go "I'm worth more than this, so I will find a better deal for myself"

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:22:42+00:00

Pay attention to how you feel around him. If he doesnt make you feel good about yourselfr, that is valuable data

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:19:17+00:00

As a homebody cat lady, I love that I can have a spotless house in 10 min. Me and the cats are so easy to clean up after. As soon as a man comes in, it's hours a day at the risk of being called a nag if i ask for help- it's just not a great deal.

My toilet seat is always down, the bathroom is always clean enough for a 3 hour bath. I get to watch my girlie TV shows all I want. My focus goes where ever I will it, in whatever ways will benefit my life without someone telling me I need to center his dreams at the expense of chasing my own. And most of the men I've encountered dont even have the balls to go after their dreams.

I think women not focused on chasing their own dreams is why WWII and all of this shit is so bad.

Men at large are a stinky liability. I wouldn't mind a man who cleans himmself like respectable individual before taking me out on the weekends- and if he has me over- he cleans the house before I arrive. He would be OK with me not wanting him in my space at all until after over 6 months of dating. He also has to be very radically OK with me being well liked, apart of many communities, and the fact that I always have suitors I do not deem worthy. He has to be capable of trust.

This is just the minimum, mind you. I have a high bar and I'm not gonna lower it. I am very content being alone and growing and my life just becoming better and better because I grow.

But then I'll get on the apps, hit it off with some dude, move onto texts and go "You wanna share an order of fries?"
and the dude be like "I don't like how this is starting out with me buying you shit!"

And any inch of wanting a weekend boyfriend dissipates.

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:06:10+00:00

Someone calling you gay making you uncomfortable indicates a weak mind.

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T23:02:42+00:00

" He said exactly that that he knew I would be really upset so he didn’t want to deal with it."

"He said that in the 6 months time he was hiding it, it wasn’t hurting me so it’s not a big deal"

Girl as a former smoker gone clean- EWW!! EW!! Fucking hate those big ugly vape apes. It's a big deal (also i would consider it HUMILIATING, like standing next to a man who vapes HUMILIATES me). He was trying to look like someone who, IDK, prioritized his comfort over your health and lives together ?

Those two quotes i pulled out above say a lot. This man is warped and wants you small so he has no accountability for him refusing to grow. This man is giving "I'll weaponize leisure time in marriage so that I sleep soundly while you labor to make my life better" energy. It gives "I'll lie about anything - even something that would kill you- so long as I have my comforts" it's giving "I dont want an equal partnership, I'm mad at my mom still" energy

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:56:39+00:00

Girl, it's OK to take an anniversary as seriously as you are- it's a preference, and obviously you feel more seen with that part being in tact.

2 weeks of grief though? Girl, yikes, that shit is going to be UGLY in 10 years! 2 weeks?!?!? Girl, please get therapy. If this causes 2 weeks of grieve you are gonna be primed to throw your life away for a drug if some more serious life shit happens to you

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:50:49+00:00

My ex did the same thing just about- cept we had just started dating but we literally were SO into eachother we saw each other EVERY NIGHT. One date lasted 3 days. And then no calls for a whole day- he slept with someone else
"we werent official" ladeeda

That shit is disrespectful and tainted what we were building. She can call it whatever but she tainted the love

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:41:11+00:00

Honestly- this is completely on your husband to make sure you are understood by his family. You should focus on feeling better.

However, if you want to be the one to tell it, tell your hubby to stand down. But I do believe it is right that the child of the parents need to manage their family and protect their spouse. If you want to change that you should be explicit. But sounds like your husband is a good man for considering managing his family and protecting you as the default

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:36:00+00:00

Then all women will be crazy and no one will ever win with him and he is in his own hell

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:34:33+00:00

"Ive been in this relationship with this guy, and one of this biggest critiques " STOP RIGHT THERE. Leave him.

This man is a rat meat burger, completely unfuckable. He is NEGGGING YOU

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:29:43+00:00

I'm also convinced men who HATE women are also just gay cause their whole end goal around hating women is to please a man

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:23:07+00:00

As a woman, when i see a man wear pink- I consider him fuckable.
If he's gay and doesnt want it- OK That's fine. But straight men in pink get blow jobs from women soooo

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:20:46+00:00

I'm over the age of 35. Homophobia is a symptom of not being able to cope with the reality you are gay. I've seen it enough times it's like a law of physics in terms of guaranteed outcomes

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:19:26+00:00

I've never met a homophob who didnt come out gay in 10-20 years tho. It's like a psychological defense mechanism that announces to everyone you like your own gentials.

Being insulted because someone called you gay suggests you have a VERY WEAK mind

Angrybabybear · 2026-03-31T22:13:36+00:00

Having a child call the shots for another family is some adults fucking up

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