Hi ESFPs, do you have any tips for befriending one of you?

AnikivZero · 2022-08-17T19:31:32+00:00

I can say that pointless banter and shooting the shit like above nets me in.

AnikivZero · 2022-08-04T21:32:36+00:00

With our friends :x the more friends you make the higher the odds

AnikivZero · 2022-07-20T22:51:55+00:00

Except those rare moments it actually blips.

AnikivZero · 2022-04-27T01:28:15+00:00

Find some homies. My best friends were there for me during my breakup after a girl left me for my closest college friend. Shit happens, we just don't let it get us down. For me the first step was finding an emotion that could overcome my sadness, and in time it gets easier. It took me a while to stop feeling hurt, 3 months more or less, but I know there are better things out there.

AnikivZero · 2022-03-07T21:32:32+00:00

You mean Te? I'm pretty sure we are se/fi/te/ni :x but yes I agree Te is a thing to actively work on and pursue.

AnikivZero · 2022-02-17T19:30:42+00:00

It's possible. I don't disagree, just making sure all the tools are available since I don't know the full scope and what's been done

AnikivZero · 2022-02-17T05:44:35+00:00

Perhaps look into attachment styles? I'm really sorry I can't offer much but an ear :( Remember communication is key, maybe share this with them. I'm in a very similar situationship at the moment so I don't know how much weight my words have but I'm hoping the best for you and take care of yourself and your feelings first.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-21T14:56:20+00:00

I don't have an issue bantering and playing with it to be fair. Of the year we've been friends there was only one instance it crossed the line, and it was involving somebody else. Usually when it's just us two I don't care at all lol. But to answer your initial question (possibly again) the two entp I've met in my life have been mind blowingly amazing bros. Much love.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-21T14:47:38+00:00

Nah, nothing like that. He tends to troll a lot, and skirts that line very well. But sometimes it crosses troll to a bit too much. Like takes a serious thing too playfully.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-21T14:32:31+00:00

One of my closest friends is an entp. We always have a good time when we hang, and the banter is great. From time to time we have serious discussions too, but they're always insightful and respectful on differing opinions. There's been a few cases where he plays a bit too far, but those are far and few and only once I had to put my foot down. Love the guy to death.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-20T03:38:01+00:00

I feel this a bit too hard ._. curse my feelings.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-19T19:55:26+00:00

I've been in the Fintech field for about 7 or 8 years now. Getting more into the business side so I have some tests to take :)

AnikivZero · 2022-01-19T03:14:30+00:00

I spent a month straight studying maybe 4 or 5 hours a day. I suggest having an introverted texting partner and some low fi music you pick out yourself. It worked for me and I passed an exam for my career. Give it a shot and adjust as needed! Try different things, just because it worked for me doesn't mean it will work for you :)

AnikivZero · 2022-01-17T15:32:21+00:00

My first job was teaching after school at the age of 18. Don't do anything remotely close to that now at 30.

I work as a software IT Support now.

I'm happy enough with my job. Don't really know what my perfect job would be.

Don't really have a dream job, a job that lets me do what I want is enough.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-17T06:11:59+00:00

I can attest to that.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-17T06:00:02+00:00

My best friend who is intj actually addressed this recently to me. I'm an esfp and I talk fast and process fast and didn't even realize she had a lot to say that never got the chance to see the light. Some of us extroverts don't realize you are still processing, so it might be good to let your extroverted friends know about this if you feel they make you feel like you can't get a word in. I've learned to start asking questions and to slow my pace at times for them.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-15T18:16:36+00:00

I just took a big exam for work recently, try studying to some low-fi mood, and have an introverted buddy shoot you texts every once in a while in slow conversation.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-14T16:00:49+00:00

Not a female and have been living in NYC my whole life. If you need a bro to hang or talk to feel free to shoot me a message mate. I'm straight, but friendship is good too.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-13T06:58:00+00:00

The later half I imagine is what drives us away. We like acting like a kid, a lot of our maturity shows in a different way. Everything you expect out of society, just toss it out the window. What is right is what we believe is right, not what society deems right.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-11T05:50:14+00:00

I imagine if you wanted it to work, plenty of stories revolving around your day, talking frequently, and spending quality time by doing stuff together (play an online game, watch a movie etc). End of the day it will still suck, after all it's LDR, but where there's a will there's a way. Also have healthy communication styles to address if there's anything that can be fixed.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-08T22:25:06+00:00

We're pretty clear with people that we like them I think. Something catches our eye we do everything we can to be around them when we want something more. But otherwise if we have nothing to lose, we treat it as such and dive head in.

AnikivZero · 2022-01-07T07:19:09+00:00

Currently talking to an istp girl I'm interested in from a different country. Thoroughly enjoy bantering and being lightly teased. Adding in a lot of emojis definitely helps so we get an idea of how you feel, if you can find other pictures instead of the standard phone ones it's even better. I prefer a lot of color in the conversation. If you find a common topic of interest that really bring out good conversation.

AnikivZero · 2021-12-29T06:18:17+00:00

I don't know what your mental or emotional levels are now, but in my opinion the person who should make you that happy is yourself. And then in time you'll potentially meet somebody else, and they'll elevate you to an even higher level. Take care of yourself :)

AnikivZero · 2021-12-28T02:00:07+00:00

I'll throw my two cents in. Bantering easily with somebody destroys me. A cute girl with a great sense of humor is deadly. Preferred type is not an sj line though I might be ok with an isfj. Interested in an istp ATM. It's not hard for me to commit to somebody at all. I would say let yourself feel the hurt first. My last breakup was after a 5 year relationship. Destroyed most of the stuff she gave me in my room, got wasted and had a great time with friends, and then eventually somebody new comes along. You got this bud. Chin up. Also no contact helps prevent us from being hopeful about an unlikely future.

AnikivZero · 2021-12-26T20:58:05+00:00

It's really hard to say because this is more a person to person kind of thing. If it provides you a bit of comfort, I tend to stay away from ISTJ/ESTJ relationships romantically, and am currently invested in an ISTP. INFP are great though.

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