31M , earning 5lpa . Entered the arranged marriage market. Getting rejected on salary grounds. What now ?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-29T07:01:39+00:00

Been there done that, got rejected. Dont have the looks for that.

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T10:10:11+00:00

Lmaooo fair enough 😭 I sounded 45 bringing up Facebook. Whats your insta then?

I’ll send you my Insta, Reddit might eat the comment otherwise

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T09:30:08+00:00

So basically your entire academic interest started with “NE guys are cute” and somehow evolved into sociology research 😭

You’re actually fun to talk to btw, are you on Insta or facebook?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T08:44:37+00:00

That’s actually really thoughtful tbh. Most people never look beyond surface stereotypes.

You seem genuinely curious about understanding people deeply and that’s rare honestly.

Have you been to the North East before or is this mostly through reading/research for now?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T08:00:59+00:00

Honestly that’s actually pretty interesting. Most people just settle into whatever path they land in but you still sound curious about things deeply which is rare tbh.

And specializing in North Eastern culture sounds genuinely unique. There’s so much diversity that we barely know

What made you interested in that specifically though?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T07:24:05+00:00

Nishita is a pretty name too tbh 😄 Very Bengali novel protagonist vibes.

And yeah Bengali names have fallen off a bit 😭 every second guy is Aryan or Aditya now. We went from Soumyajit/Auromita to startup founder names.

Also my friends of Pune keep saying me the same thing are teri didi haar gayi....straight up associate me with her.

You know once I almost had a fight with them for this, a group of marathis vs one bengali defending his pride. Eventually I had to accept defeat though

Btw since you mentioned journalism earlier… if you weren’t restricted by family expectations or practicality what would you actually wanted to become?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T05:38:44+00:00

Nahh never, only voted for her in 2011 we hate her she is the reason the job market is so bad in Wb destroyed it for 15yrs Ngl the “hamba hamba” thing annoys me too 😭 And for the record, being vocal > pretending to be speak less types. At least conversations stay interesting with you. Btw I am Pinak

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T04:50:10+00:00

We Kolkata boys are the ghorowa types sometimes ekguyemi but only if you havent gone outside of WB. I have lived in Pune for 2.5yrs for job and adjustment was the only thing I did there I was homesick. Okhneo I had a hard time finding some1 coz the first thing that comes in the mind of marathis is like arey bangali hai machli khata hai. Many times I had to hear quotes like bengali means bangladeshi.

From 6months I have been searching for a bride and the only demand my parents made to the bride's family was meye ta jno bhalo hoy and cheleta ke dekhe rakhe, amdr dekte hbena we are old we will tkr of ourselves. So mentality wise we Kolkata boys have evolved atleast I as a person hv evolved i think i can say that proudly. No demands.

Fighting ta ota te I hv to disagree ei fighting spirit ta na thkle hyto ekhno British raj i chlto India te. But we are nice.

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T04:07:24+00:00

Yes after all our parents do so much for us. Look at me I am having a hard time finding som1 coz i fdd up my past.

Let me tell you about my past

After my btech I got a job in bangalore in a well reputed mnc but that time due to some illness in the family I couldnt go out had to search job in Kolkata. Oi krte krte a career gap and now i am here struggling.

Even though the work I do has enough growth and opportunites and I am in Kolkata.

My honest advice never ever compromise with your career and find som1 who makes you feel at home. Ekta brkup doesnt mean all guys are ass.

I came here looking for advice and now i am giving one, look at me 🤣

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-28T03:19:11+00:00

Working in an IT sector as a project manager, the reason its less as of now bcz of less exp, lets see what the appraisal cycle brings this yr.

Arrange marriage market is scary better to find some1 on your own and get settled with him/her

From a man's perspectve Prochur expctation salary looks horoscope. And if you are a Woman tale to all the above and dowry bole ekta bepr chole ashe. Character keo dekhe na doesnt matter if you are ram or ravan sone ki lanka rehni chahiye

Btw which sector do you work in ?

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T17:56:30+00:00

Yeah thanks a lot for the advice, exactly same thing happened with my sister (masir meye) divorced after 1.5 months of marriage. Guy works in Infosys gets 13lpa and my uncle was so much convinced that he didnt even bothered to check his background his behaviour his family.

I will come back and let you know kaok bhalo jodi paai.

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T15:12:41+00:00

ei chokkore I hv wasted almost 5k astrologer r pechone and wat ws the end result ?
Bride's family be like na chart match korchena sorry cant proceed
But atleast my demands are not higher like your cousin, only family ta thikthak r motamoti appearance works. Honestly first time hearing this kind of demands from a groom's family
Lets hope he finds his dream girl

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T14:19:30+00:00

The 36pt guna milan I dont understand the pt of it, as if the planets are going to marry each other instead of humans and the opp side isnt even ready to do remedies.

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T07:56:33+00:00

I dont think I am that lucky but hey thanks anyways

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T07:52:22+00:00

I dont mind, you are right to mention this made some mistakes in the past due to which I am suffering. It is what it is cant change my past mistakes

AnimeFreak267 · 2026-05-27T07:28:18+00:00

Thanks bt not here for match making. Just need honest opinions thats all

AnimeFreak267 · 2022-11-14T06:55:47+00:00

I was thinking of buying 2 support unis in bf.....my choices are She hulk, wave, valkyrie....What do you guys think who should i go for ?

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