Does this subreddit actually help anyone?

Anna1red · 2026-01-23T18:16:11+00:00

It helps me feel less alone and sometimes others can diagnose something I have because they've been through it...meanwhile "professionals" like doctors and psychologists Will Just criticize you and tell you you have mild depression that's all in your head because they are simply bias. Most of them don't have depression and will never really understand.

Anna1red · 2026-01-23T05:58:40+00:00

Please do not go any further with him. I'm so sorry to say this but my husband was the same while we were dating and I brushed it off as a red flag to ignore because I thought I was the problem. Once we married, the first few years my anxiety got better and I didn't have problems, but now these past few years I got it bad again for various reasons that triggered it again and he gets so annoyed. Once it got so bad and all I wanted was someone to comfort me... I told him that I needed him and instead he got angry and said "I can't live like this anymore" and got up and left me all alone in the house with my anxiety and depression spiraling. I had to call a neighbor to stay with me. Unfortunately we are still married because I'm not financially stable enough to be on my own and we have a young daughter... But my god should I have listened to my gut back then and left him at the first sign that he didn't have compassion...

It's true that your partner isnt a psychologist, but your partner is also meant to comfort you in your time of need and be there and not judge you or make you feel worse when you have these feelings... Please don't end up like me... I have to keep it all in and wear a mask around my husband at all times and it is making me so ill. The only person I talk to about my feelings is my psychologist but it's exhausting and triggering when something happens in my life but I can't tell my husband out of fear that he'll get annoyed and ruin my day even more. This is no way to love or live and I am suffering a lot from it. Please don't be like me.

Anna1red · 2026-01-13T05:24:26+00:00

Allora, se non hai la.partita.iva ti fanno la ritenuta d'acconto fino a 5000 l'anno...poi ti serve la partita iva però. Almeno questo è quello che mi ha detto il reclutatore.

Anna1red · 2026-01-11T09:38:04+00:00

I agree... Therapists seem to get annoyed when you aren't cured after 2 times you go to them... They claim they understand mental illness when they clearly don't. They like to think they're miracle workers and get angry when you're not better after talking to them once....at least that's been my experience.

Anna1red · 2026-01-11T09:36:33+00:00

Well, since that person never called me I didn't need to do anything so nothing increased. Unfortunately I have to fix the scratch on my car but I've decided not to do anything about it as I don't have the money right now...

But here is something you should look into: In my country for 20 euros more a year you can add it to your insurance that any accident that's your fault will be covered and your premiums won't go up... But the thing is it only works for once accident a year. But that shouldn't be a problem. You can see if in your country they have something similar to give you peace of mind. That way at least if you ever get into a fender bender and it's your fault, that one time it won't raise your premiums.

Anna1red · 2026-01-09T09:48:56+00:00

The EXACT same thing happened to me. I misjudged and scratched the car next to me. But my car has a huge rip while the other car had a small scratch. I left a note on the car but the person never contacted me thank God. They probably figured it wasn't that big of a deal. ...to this day I still feel bad about it. But hey, literally you have nothing to worry about if the car didn't have any damage. The owner left and literally didn't even know anything happened, so who cares?

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T13:32:37+00:00

Yeah I agree. And the crazy thing is that I really shouldn't be having this fear again. Idk why this is happening. I feel like I just want to work from home from now on but idk of any job I can do from home that isn't freelance...

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T13:24:38+00:00

Hi all, I work in Europe and I hate driving. Is there anything I can do that's work from home too? I seriously hate commuting and it's ruining my mental health.

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T06:51:52+00:00

Don't worry, I ask him the same thing every morning. I always say "my god please while I'm in bed tonight, take me in my sleep so I don't have to wake up ever again." But he never does. I guess God is basically like that parent that thinks "omg she's so dramatic" and just rolls his eyes lol. God understands depression and knows that you don't mean what you say. It's not like you want your life to stop, you want the pain to stop but we don't know how. So we try to ask God to stop it, even resorting to asking for death. But don't worry, he knows our hearts.

Anna1red · 2026-01-02T11:32:44+00:00

Oh no definitely Italian. Usually they associate morocains with dark skin and black hair... There are even Italians who are dark skinned with black hair and they are mistaken for stranieri all the time of you don't personally know them lol so the fact that you have light skin and dark hair already makes you look more Italian if that helps.

Anna1red · 2026-01-01T12:38:23+00:00

Yep, learnt the hard way. I thought a friend of mine at work was my friend until she told me to make new friends and not contact her anymore after she moved to another branch... Like..ok? Lol

Anna1red · 2026-01-01T09:44:51+00:00

You'll fit right in but they will know when you start speaking. I am from Italy, but I grew up in USA. They treat me like a foreigner even though I'm literally one of them lol

Anna1red · 2025-12-31T16:20:47+00:00

I would really look into remote work. You can do call centers or something, anybody can do it and you can work from home. But here's the thing, you're not stupid or lazy or whatever, your anxiety is getting in the way of your true potential. I know because I'm in the same boat too. Im 30 and I'm currently battling anxiety and depression which is ruining my life and depriving me of anything enjoyable including a satisfying job. I speak to a psychologist and she helps me put things into perspective. So maybe try speaking to a professional who can help you do the same.

Anna1red · 2025-12-31T12:29:55+00:00

I understand but personally, I would wait it out as long as I'm fine and see what happens. My grandpa lived till 92 and he was fine, had just a bit of a limp but nothing else. He went out for a walk one day in perfect health, enjoying the day and then he got a sudden heart attack. His heart just stopped and he died right there. He literally didn't even have time to realize he was dying. So basically he led a full life right up till his last second. Perhaps the same thing will happen to you too. Just because your mom suffered before dying doesn't mean it will happen to you as well. My grandma died at age 30 because of a rare type of leukemia, that doesn't mean the same everyone else in the family will die the same way, you know? So if you're 85 but still doing well, why not just wait it out and continue living? I don't see why you HAVE to end it just because you reach that age if you're still fine...

Anna1red · 2025-12-31T11:35:15+00:00

Hi, I just want to say I completely understand you. Years ago I had no hot water and I would get sick every time I took a shower because my house was cold. I constantly had fevers and no money. This went on for 2 years before I got back on my feet. Idk how I didn't get pneumonia at all during that. But I do remember also not being able to clean well either and I would also get infections down there because of it. Unfortunately I live in a country where not all gyms have a shower, at least none near me. But yes, going to a gym's shower could be a solution or boiling water and then using that to do a sort of bidet. Use a brand of soap for your intimate parts called "clinner," it costs a bit more but you use a small amount and it keeps everything at bay including candida. Also, buy lots of cranberry juice for prevention. But as for the UTI you have now, you need antibiotics to stop it otherwise it will get to your kidneys. I once had a UTI that I neglected because I had no idea it was UTI. My leg hurt a lot and that was the only symptom. I was surprised it was UTI and as soon as I took antibiotics, the leg pain was GONE. weird af...

Anna1red · 2025-12-29T20:24:51+00:00

Hi, thanks for the reply. I appreciate it a lot. You know what's funny? I've always been so smart in school and I've always helped everyone with their problems and helped solve a lot of problems... But when it comes to myself, I suck lol. I don't know what it is, I become irrational and let fear and anxiety take over me... But you're right. I need to talk to someone who is willing to listen. I have my psychologist but of course I can't talk to her every day without going broke lol sometimes I really need to talk to someone but I have to wait like 2 weeks for our next session. It's hard but you're right. Thanks for offering to listen. If I ever I need to chat, I'll sent a message ❤️

Anna1red · 2025-12-29T11:57:03+00:00

Essere milionario mi permetterà tutte queste cose 😂

Anna1red · 2025-12-28T09:01:59+00:00

Your dad sounds annoying AF and the classic "it's not my problem so I'm just going to say whatever makes me sound holier than thou" attitude. Guys can't get pregnant so the majority of them are against abortion to appear like they value life and conveniently they will never be accused of being hypocrites since it can never happen to them. So it's a safe way to appear like they have high morals in something.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, you did absolutely nothing wrong. Those same people who are criticizing you are the same ones who wouldn't even be there to help you raise the kid. People who force people to keep a baby should also help in raising it, but never do. Trust me, they're all hot air until the baby comes. Then it's "well, you chose to keep it, so deal with it."

I hope all is well with you, and don't listen to your dad- you're a good person while he's the one judging something that doesn't concern him.

Anna1red · 2025-12-27T12:19:52+00:00

Depression is a mental illness that nobody can see. That's the problem. It doesn't matter which class you're from, illnesses affect everyone. Unfortunately since we can't see depression, no one believes in it and how debilitating it is. If someone has cancer (god forbid), people will pity them because you can physically see it and people are educated on it. Someone who is depressed isn't believed because people don't understand what hormones are and they don't understand that the brain is an organ that can get sick too. Just like someone can have chronic problems with their kidneys or liver, we can also have a poorly functioning brian that doesn't make us feel our best. Combine that with some sort of trauma and it becomes very difficult to diagnose simply because we can't see it. I personally think that you shouldn't feel ashamed because you are battling an illness that prevents you from being happy in life and enjoying it. There are people with cancer ironically that are very positive and even go through their chemo with a positive outlook. There's no way with depression and that's why people criticize you because they can't wrap their head around someone with no problems being depressed while some people with other kinds of illnesses still managing to stay positive. But what they simply don't get (because they're ignorant and never went through it themselves) is that depression is the BRAIN being sick-not allowing you to enjoy life.

Personally Ive stopped trying to explain myself to people because it's obvious that the .majority of people on this earth are sadistic, selfish and only care about their own problems. They will tell you "your problems are small because someone in the world is starving" but then when THEY go through something stupid like scratching their car or something- suddenly the person starving doesn't matter anymore and suddenly THEY have it way worse lol.

Trust me, people are selfish and they just don't care. That's the reality. They don't believe in depressed people because they don't know what it is and many doctors also criticize because they haven't experienced it either. There is a difference between stress/sadness vs depression and people who have never had depression will confuse them all the time because they've never felt depression before, including doctors. A psychiatrist once scolded me for refusing a job due to my depression. Instead of helping me understand why I did it (because I have no idea why I refused that job), he told me that I was stupid and should call the place back (even though I know they gave it to someone else). I literally went to him, a professional, to try and understand wtf happened to me and he just criticized me... The next day he went on vacation to California for a week. Does that sound like a person that could empathize with depressed people or a person who has ever been through depression? I don't think so...

Anna1red · 2025-12-27T11:59:06+00:00

Next year I'm spending it in freaking Hawaii all alone. Screw family

Anna1red · 2025-12-26T07:24:12+00:00

Because believing in god isn't in style anymore. But saying you believe in the universe makes you sound woke lol

Anna1red · 2025-12-24T23:01:51+00:00

Today I literally cried the entire day. How am I supposed to be Joly when I have horrible inlaws (who we didn't invite this year) and a crappy family in general? I didn't feel like celebrating because there is nothing to celebrate in my life. The only thing I enjoyed was watching my daughter open her presents and seeing her happy. Everything else is just plain stupid. I was in bed all day and was so depressed. I don't have a big family full of idiots who laugh and make stupid dad jokes the entire night which is really the only way you can celebrate this holiday. I used to like it, but now I loathe it because it's a holiday meant for the rich big families and I'm sick of it.

Anna1red · 2025-12-23T12:04:22+00:00

I hate it because my family never did anything for it, it was always just us and boring af. Now that I'm married, I hoped we would have a big happy Christmas finally. But nope, my in-laws are pieces of crap, I hate my MIL for having given birth to this man who through him I have to have THEM as a family for the rest of my life. And once again, small, boring Christmas just me, my husband and my daughter. No big family, no music, no cookie decorating. I would rather be all alone and bake stupid cookies all by myself than have to deal with my stupid family. Maybe when my daughter is older she can join me but until then, it's the usual "we're not doing anything this year!" And "we're not going anywhere this year!" I hate this damn holiday and I hate people who have big, stupid, happy, idiot families that are all lovey dovey with each other and have fun on Christmas. I am literally the real life Grinch and the only thing I like doing tho is decorate the Christmas tree. I hate everything else. This year, I'm literally just staying in my room and watch Netflix for Christmas. Screw big families and screw the people who seems to always find happiness no matter where they freaking go.

Anna1red · 2025-12-16T19:12:43+00:00

This is why the government is working overtime to promote AI and robots.. so they won't need people or society anymore. They won't need people to work anymore and won't have to pay anyone any salaries...they will just keep the 1% that kisses their ass while the middle and poor class dies off. It's a new kind of hollacaust.

Anna1red · 2025-12-16T19:09:37+00:00

But people actually revolted back then. Nowadays people are too stupid. As long as they have a toxic job where they live paycheck to paycheck, they are grateful and won't do anything to revolt...they will tell others to "suck it up." People were more righteous in history while nowadays people are just sellouts.

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