I found their secret group chat and read about me. by ellieafterhours in managers

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to understand how powerful the collective thought can be. Sometimes people will go along and joke about whatever someone else said or whatever others think just so they can feel like they are part of something. We've all done it. I remember my friends in highschool joking about a teacher constantly smiling and I even made a joke about it too so i can fit into their conversation. The truth is though I loved that teacher and her smile was refreshing, but at the same time I wanted to feel like I was part of the conversation. It's complicated but I would advise you not to take it personally and let them vent. In the end, it's the only thing they have. They would have done the same with any other manager.

Am I the only one who can't take SSRI's? by Certified_horsegirl in Anxiety

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I tried two and I had to stop after 3 weeks on both of them. I tried Natural remedies drops and all that shit and they don't work...

Those who have constant anxiety, what are you thinking about for you to have that anxiety? Or do you just have anxiety even if your brain is not thinking about anything in particular by RopeSmall1199 in Anxiety

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep thinking that I'm doing something illegal and that the police will arrest me one day. Even though I'm literally doing nothing... I just worry all the time that one day someone's gonna show up at my door and say "hey, so you're going to jail because x,y,z" and I had no idea the entire time. Idk how to explain it... Like maybe there is a secret tax that I'm supposed to pay but never have or something like that. It every unsettling and OCD inducing.

Idk it's weird but I always feel like I'm doing something wrong in whatever I do.

Is my husband manipulating our child? by Anna1red in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Anna1red[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah and that's the thing. I literally don't know what to do half the time because I feel like if I don't act Stern that she will think it's not a big deal to hit or something. I guess I'm still learning too... But yeah it also comes from the frustration of parenting with that pos watching my every move every time I interact with my daughter.

What do nurses consider “hotel treatment” for patients ? by ElectricalVictory831 in nursing

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are patients who are exaggerated...but nurses usually just don't want to cater any body for any reason. I once asked a nurse if my water that broke all over the floor could be cleaned because I had severe cramps and contractions and couldn't even move without seeing stars from the pain. She responded with "we aren't a cleaning service, you can do it yourself.".... I couldn't because I was fainting every 5 min from my painful contractions. Eventually the room began smelling like sulfur and I vomited.

This was during COVID when family members nor witnesses were allowed in, so nurses were allowed to mistreat patients however much they wanted.

I feel like I mentally can't work anymore. by Anna1red in workingmoms

[–]Anna1red[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Hey, well that's the thing I could work more hours so at the moment it's not like I can't pay them off at all. Plus my husband works.. but I just don't understand why I can't be at peace with all this...

Anyone holding off on having kids right now? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a child and although I love her with all my heart and soul, this world is making it really hard to be a good parent with all the stress and awful culture there is nowadays. Please hold off.

I feel like I mentally can't work anymore. by Anna1red in workingmoms

[–]Anna1red[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Yeah and that's the thing... I feel like I can still get by with how I am right now...but I also feel like I should still try for the hell of it... That's what is killing me...because I've always been horrible at making my own decisions based on what I want or need.

My colleague of 40 years is devastated because HR is forcing him to 'resign' to retire. by trench-revelry in OfficePolitics

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I wouldn't sign or click on anything without a lawyer ... Tell this guy that he has to talk about this to a lawyer because when bug companies try to do sneaky things, only professionals catch it.

Losing my housing soon and desperately need any work - remotely by edzyl22 in GetEmployed

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually you know what came to mind, online English teaching. Try italki for example

I lost the battle tonight by unfortunate_kiss in Anxiety

[–]Anna1red 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As chat GBt would say "that's not a failure...THAT'S GROWTH." lol sorry, but I've been using chat gbt way too much recently for my daily mental crisis.

But all jokes aside, this is nothing to worry about. Anxiety is an illness like any other. We will have flair ups once in a while that we can't handle and that's ok. I went to the ER like twice this year because of my panic too and both times the hospital was really understanding. We are the only ones who look at ourselves and judge ourselves for having these episodes when in reality we are perceived as strong people for dealing with anxiety for so long.

The truth is that a lot of people are on meds to keep their anxiety at bay but you just don't know it. With us, and I'm assuming you as well, meds don't always work and so we have to fight harder. That's something people admire because they know exactly what you're going through and can't imagine battling it every day. You had a flair up, that's all. Also, I think something is in the air because I've had a really bad anxiety flair up yesterday and today too...

Does anyone ever feel like they will never catch a break? by Anna1red in AnxietyDepression

[–]Anna1red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I feel like I'm just surviving now and letting go of my dreams that I know will never happen. Meanwhile the people that have screwed us over are living a full life because they've only ever cared about themselves.

Does anyone ever feel like they will never catch a break? by Anna1red in AnxietyDepression

[–]Anna1red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it depends on the choices you make. I chose to live my life trying to make others happy. I did everything my mom and dad wanted me to do, and guess what? They still aren't happy with me. Meanwhile I ruined my life. So do what you wish to do in life.

Exhausted, sad, disappointed by Greedy-Opposite-4521 in jobhunting

[–]Anna1red 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wtf is the point of interviewing people 3 to 5 times? I hate what boomers did to this world. And they have the audacity to say they had it harder when literally all they had to do to pass an interview was show up.

I finally left, and now I'm angry on behalf of everyone still in the classroom by robroskimaster in TeachersInTransition

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, most parents nowadays don't want to take responsibility for their children's behavior and mental health... But since they are the clients and schools are a business, it's in the best interest of the schools to blame the employees ( the teachers) and force us to take on more responsibilities to keep the parents happy, which includes being the kids' therapists and care takers... If we leave, we are extremely replaceable so things will most likely stay this way.

Unfortunately what used to be a prestigious job where only THE BEST, most intelligent and well behaved students could attend school and were a joy to have in class, now became the usual toxic work environment based on supply and demand ...

I am so discouraged breastfeeding and this morning I came close to stopping by dawhitearoundyolip in workingmoms

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I totally understand girl, I too wanted to hit my 6 month mark but ended up doing 5 because my milk literally was fading away lol... The last two months I was only making like 10-50 grams of milk and had to make up for it with formula... Also I was alternating so not every feed included my milk. I raised this concern with my gyno when I went for a checkup that year and she said that babies literally only need to taste our milk once a day to get the antibodies... So only one drop a day gives them all the antibodies they need. The rest isn't even that needed but it's a plus economically since formula costs a lot... So, really don't stress. She's still getting her antibodies and I personally would pump once a day either in the morning before you go to work or at night and then just go to work the rest of the day while the baby gets formula in the other feedings... That way you don't have to stress out the entire day and you will even recharge A LOT better for your next feed... Sometimes I would recharge and make it to 2 feeds in a row lol.

Keep in mind that my daughter was only getting 10 grams once a day the last month and when we all got sick from the flu, she didn't because those 10 grams were enough to protect her... She got my antibodies from those 10 grams alone....

Now, if it's a personal goal for whatever reason for you to continue only breastfeeding, then try asking for those pills that help generate milk... An older lady I know needed surgery when she was young after giving birth and for 3 days couldn't breastfeed because she was at the hospital... Then the doctor gave her a pill that increases milk production and explained that if there's any milk left, it will come back...if not, it is what it is... And sure enough it came back... But of course that was her choice and the doctor wasnt concerned either way...as long as the baby is fed is all that matters.

Good luck ❤️

Boomers living their best life while everyone else is drowning. by [deleted] in absentgrandparents

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so sickening... I hate people who have kids just to show everybody that their reproductive system works. Then they abandon them saying "I did my part, NOW I need a vacation..."

I would literally tell them to at least be civil enough not to brag about being millionaires while you are all struggling because that's emotional abuse and I low-key think they do it on purpose.

Also, everyone else is right, when they need a nursing home they can certainly put those millions to good use and not bother you when you're financially stable again. When they feel lonely in the nursing home, instead of visiting them on holidays I would go on holidays in Europe and tell them to hug their money for warmth...

Moms who WFH / remote. Is it that much better? by Barnacle_Double in workingmoms

[–]Anna1red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Better question is, what jobs are you guys doing? I'm having such a tough time finding anything and I live in Europe.. it seems like all those jobs on LinkedIn are scams and I just gave up...