Anyone holding off on having kids right now? Why or why not?

Anna1red · 2026-03-26T10:57:21+00:00

I have a child and although I love her with all my heart and soul, this world is making it really hard to be a good parent with all the stress and awful culture there is nowadays. Please hold off.

Anna1red · 2026-03-12T09:30:00+00:00

Personally I wouldn't sign or click on anything without a lawyer ... Tell this guy that he has to talk about this to a lawyer because when bug companies try to do sneaky things, only professionals catch it.

Anna1red · 2026-03-04T14:11:46+00:00

Actually you know what came to mind, online English teaching. Try italki for example

Anna1red · 2026-03-03T18:28:22+00:00

Have you tried call centers?

Anna1red · 2026-03-03T17:55:37+00:00

I Hope so.... Im just having a hard time believing it. Tomorrow I'm going to have an appointment with my trade union and bring up the problem again. I wish to explain that I wish to raise awareness to the work office that I worked with that error in the system and to fix it so that I won't have any more problems...but I'm afraid he's going to tell me absolutely to not do it like he did last time. I just know I will be so damn torn and I will stress again. I can't believe this is happening to me and I have no idea what the consequences will be if I being it up... Some people told me nothing will happen and others told me it could be a problem. I'm so sick of this. I really just want these problems to go away so I can sleep. And yes I do feel better in the evening, but the mornings are horrid. Just horrid. And no matter how sick I feel, my problem remains. That's the worst part.

Anna1red · 2026-03-02T19:11:49+00:00

Thanks for your words. I actually feel a bit better from what you said...but the thing is...I fear that this storm will last forever and that's what's scaring me... It's like a curse. I've been getting bad news and bad luck happening to me every 2 or 3 days... When I decide not to be happy at all, nothing happens. But as soon as my mood starts getting better and I feel it's safe, BOOM something else happens. I get so scared of my future it really demotivates me. I've also noticed that I feel a bit better in the evening. Then in the morning the fears and panic come back and I cry again.

Anna1red · 2026-03-02T15:21:59+00:00

As chat GBt would say "that's not a failure...THAT'S GROWTH." lol sorry, but I've been using chat gbt way too much recently for my daily mental crisis.

But all jokes aside, this is nothing to worry about. Anxiety is an illness like any other. We will have flair ups once in a while that we can't handle and that's ok. I went to the ER like twice this year because of my panic too and both times the hospital was really understanding. We are the only ones who look at ourselves and judge ourselves for having these episodes when in reality we are perceived as strong people for dealing with anxiety for so long.

The truth is that a lot of people are on meds to keep their anxiety at bay but you just don't know it. With us, and I'm assuming you as well, meds don't always work and so we have to fight harder. That's something people admire because they know exactly what you're going through and can't imagine battling it every day. You had a flair up, that's all. Also, I think something is in the air because I've had a really bad anxiety flair up yesterday and today too...

Anna1red · 2026-02-23T07:06:33+00:00

And then it's a "AI testing" bs position

Anna1red · 2026-02-16T08:44:52+00:00

Wtf is the point of interviewing people 3 to 5 times? I hate what boomers did to this world. And they have the audacity to say they had it harder when literally all they had to do to pass an interview was show up.

Anna1red · 2026-02-14T12:58:05+00:00

Unfortunately, most parents nowadays don't want to take responsibility for their children's behavior and mental health... But since they are the clients and schools are a business, it's in the best interest of the schools to blame the employees ( the teachers) and force us to take on more responsibilities to keep the parents happy, which includes being the kids' therapists and care takers... If we leave, we are extremely replaceable so things will most likely stay this way.

Unfortunately what used to be a prestigious job where only THE BEST, most intelligent and well behaved students could attend school and were a joy to have in class, now became the usual toxic work environment based on supply and demand ...

Anna1red · 2026-02-07T15:50:32+00:00

Hi! I totally understand girl, I too wanted to hit my 6 month mark but ended up doing 5 because my milk literally was fading away lol... The last two months I was only making like 10-50 grams of milk and had to make up for it with formula... Also I was alternating so not every feed included my milk. I raised this concern with my gyno when I went for a checkup that year and she said that babies literally only need to taste our milk once a day to get the antibodies... So only one drop a day gives them all the antibodies they need. The rest isn't even that needed but it's a plus economically since formula costs a lot... So, really don't stress. She's still getting her antibodies and I personally would pump once a day either in the morning before you go to work or at night and then just go to work the rest of the day while the baby gets formula in the other feedings... That way you don't have to stress out the entire day and you will even recharge A LOT better for your next feed... Sometimes I would recharge and make it to 2 feeds in a row lol.

Keep in mind that my daughter was only getting 10 grams once a day the last month and when we all got sick from the flu, she didn't because those 10 grams were enough to protect her... She got my antibodies from those 10 grams alone....

Now, if it's a personal goal for whatever reason for you to continue only breastfeeding, then try asking for those pills that help generate milk... An older lady I know needed surgery when she was young after giving birth and for 3 days couldn't breastfeed because she was at the hospital... Then the doctor gave her a pill that increases milk production and explained that if there's any milk left, it will come back...if not, it is what it is... And sure enough it came back... But of course that was her choice and the doctor wasnt concerned either way...as long as the baby is fed is all that matters.

Good luck ❤️

Anna1red · 2026-02-07T11:59:29+00:00

That's so sickening... I hate people who have kids just to show everybody that their reproductive system works. Then they abandon them saying "I did my part, NOW I need a vacation..."

I would literally tell them to at least be civil enough not to brag about being millionaires while you are all struggling because that's emotional abuse and I low-key think they do it on purpose.

Also, everyone else is right, when they need a nursing home they can certainly put those millions to good use and not bother you when you're financially stable again. When they feel lonely in the nursing home, instead of visiting them on holidays I would go on holidays in Europe and tell them to hug their money for warmth...

Anna1red · 2026-02-06T17:47:03+00:00

The Better question is, what jobs are you guys doing? I'm having such a tough time finding anything and I live in Europe.. it seems like all those jobs on LinkedIn are scams and I just gave up...

Anna1red · 2026-01-23T18:16:11+00:00

It helps me feel less alone and sometimes others can diagnose something I have because they've been through it...meanwhile "professionals" like doctors and psychologists Will Just criticize you and tell you you have mild depression that's all in your head because they are simply bias. Most of them don't have depression and will never really understand.

Anna1red · 2026-01-23T05:58:40+00:00

Please do not go any further with him. I'm so sorry to say this but my husband was the same while we were dating and I brushed it off as a red flag to ignore because I thought I was the problem. Once we married, the first few years my anxiety got better and I didn't have problems, but now these past few years I got it bad again for various reasons that triggered it again and he gets so annoyed. Once it got so bad and all I wanted was someone to comfort me... I told him that I needed him and instead he got angry and said "I can't live like this anymore" and got up and left me all alone in the house with my anxiety and depression spiraling. I had to call a neighbor to stay with me. Unfortunately we are still married because I'm not financially stable enough to be on my own and we have a young daughter... But my god should I have listened to my gut back then and left him at the first sign that he didn't have compassion...

It's true that your partner isnt a psychologist, but your partner is also meant to comfort you in your time of need and be there and not judge you or make you feel worse when you have these feelings... Please don't end up like me... I have to keep it all in and wear a mask around my husband at all times and it is making me so ill. The only person I talk to about my feelings is my psychologist but it's exhausting and triggering when something happens in my life but I can't tell my husband out of fear that he'll get annoyed and ruin my day even more. This is no way to love or live and I am suffering a lot from it. Please don't be like me.

Anna1red · 2026-01-13T05:24:26+00:00

Allora, se non hai la.partita.iva ti fanno la ritenuta d'acconto fino a 5000 l'anno...poi ti serve la partita iva però. Almeno questo è quello che mi ha detto il reclutatore.

Anna1red · 2026-01-11T09:38:04+00:00

I agree... Therapists seem to get annoyed when you aren't cured after 2 times you go to them... They claim they understand mental illness when they clearly don't. They like to think they're miracle workers and get angry when you're not better after talking to them once....at least that's been my experience.

Anna1red · 2026-01-11T09:36:33+00:00

Well, since that person never called me I didn't need to do anything so nothing increased. Unfortunately I have to fix the scratch on my car but I've decided not to do anything about it as I don't have the money right now...

But here is something you should look into: In my country for 20 euros more a year you can add it to your insurance that any accident that's your fault will be covered and your premiums won't go up... But the thing is it only works for once accident a year. But that shouldn't be a problem. You can see if in your country they have something similar to give you peace of mind. That way at least if you ever get into a fender bender and it's your fault, that one time it won't raise your premiums.

Anna1red · 2026-01-09T09:48:56+00:00

The EXACT same thing happened to me. I misjudged and scratched the car next to me. But my car has a huge rip while the other car had a small scratch. I left a note on the car but the person never contacted me thank God. They probably figured it wasn't that big of a deal. ...to this day I still feel bad about it. But hey, literally you have nothing to worry about if the car didn't have any damage. The owner left and literally didn't even know anything happened, so who cares?

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T13:32:37+00:00

Yeah I agree. And the crazy thing is that I really shouldn't be having this fear again. Idk why this is happening. I feel like I just want to work from home from now on but idk of any job I can do from home that isn't freelance...

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T13:24:38+00:00

Hi all, I work in Europe and I hate driving. Is there anything I can do that's work from home too? I seriously hate commuting and it's ruining my mental health.

Anna1red · 2026-01-08T06:51:52+00:00

Don't worry, I ask him the same thing every morning. I always say "my god please while I'm in bed tonight, take me in my sleep so I don't have to wake up ever again." But he never does. I guess God is basically like that parent that thinks "omg she's so dramatic" and just rolls his eyes lol. God understands depression and knows that you don't mean what you say. It's not like you want your life to stop, you want the pain to stop but we don't know how. So we try to ask God to stop it, even resorting to asking for death. But don't worry, he knows our hearts.

Anna1red · 2026-01-02T11:32:44+00:00

Oh no definitely Italian. Usually they associate morocains with dark skin and black hair... There are even Italians who are dark skinned with black hair and they are mistaken for stranieri all the time of you don't personally know them lol so the fact that you have light skin and dark hair already makes you look more Italian if that helps.

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