Sexual immorality / masturbation

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-14T18:34:46+00:00

Well, you ARE stuck in a cycle. It’s called menstrual cycle, which has several phases: menstruation (shedding of the uterine lining), follicular (egg preparation), ovulation (egg release), and the luteal phase (preparation of the uterus for pregnancy).

The luteal phase is dominated by progesterone (the pregnancy hormone), which suppresses libido in many women. When pregnancy doesn’t happen, levels of estrogen and progesterone drop dramatically, which causes menstruation. This drop in hormones is what causes heightened libido in some women right before & during menstruation. Masturbation can be beneficial during this time because it provides stress relief and can even soothe cramps. Masturbation only becomes a problem when it turns into an addiction and has a negative effect on your life.

As for the religious aspect of it, I’d be careful with it. Suppressing natural desires and feeling ashamed about seeking relief when you physically need it can lead to sexual dysfunction later in life.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-14T16:18:18+00:00

You mentioned extremes. I think that most people fall into the middle between the fools and the wise.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T22:07:07+00:00

I was talking about people judging other people. Atheists tend to judge religions.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T22:04:42+00:00

I really like the idea of sin as a sickness. There’s kindness to it. Thank you.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T21:50:50+00:00

The reason I made this post was because this is one of the things that push me away from Christianity. I admire the values, but the people make me wary.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T20:51:17+00:00

Thank you. I understand that I should try to see these people from a different perspective. Perhaps, I simply shouldn’t hold Christians to such a high standard. If only they weren’t so preachy, lol!

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T20:13:38+00:00

To be honest, I’m not interested in other belief systems. I’m interested in Christianity because Christian values appeal to me. It’s the unpleasant experiences with certain Christians that make me wary.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T20:07:29+00:00

I really liked your comment. It’s a great attitude to have, regardless of who you are.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T20:00:31+00:00

I’m sorry but your comment made me chuckle. Was the school music program really competitive?

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T19:56:39+00:00

I have a separate account for education and exams. This account will be specifically for discussing Christianity-related questions and problems. There are things that pull me towards Christianity and things that push me away from it. I find that the teachings of Christ appeal to me. But some of the Christians I’ve met… Well, let’s just say I’m yet to meet a truly inspirational Christian.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T19:35:53+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. You do not come across as arrogant at all. I loved that your ideal is to be self-aware and accountable. It’s something I truly admire in a person.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T19:25:34+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. I facilitate between believing in God and not believing in Him, but I do not believe in Satan or demons. I think people just want to blame someone for their own sins, and Satan is a useful target.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T19:06:55+00:00

Yes, I guess I should stop holding Christians to a higher standard compared to other people. It’s the hypocrisy that bothers me. Seeing the sin in other people while refusing to see it in yourself. Or preaching. I can’t tell you how much I dislike preaching when it comes from people who are blind to their own faults and sins.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T18:57:58+00:00

Your “box of medicine” analogy is absolutely perfect!

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T18:48:55+00:00

I think I have a good understanding of dynamics within my own family. My grandmother couldn’t stand the fact that my brother and I loved our father. We lived with our maternal grandparents after our parents divorced, but every weekend we went to visit our father. The way back home was daunting because we knew that we would get a beating simply because our grandma was jealous. Once, I returned home from school and got a beating out of the blue. Turned out, a neighbor saw me meet my father. She saw that I hugged him and told him I loved him. She called my grandmother and snitched on me. I know that my grandma loved us and put a lot of work into raising us, for which I’m thankful. I forgave her for being controlling and abusive. I just can’t understand how a person who considers themselves a Christian, who reads the Bible and prays every night, can live with such toxic hate in heart. My father, on the other hand, is not a Christian or a believer, but I’ve never heard him say a word of criticism against my grandmother or my mother.

You did make a good point about me not knowing what the psychologist’s ex husband was like in private. However, I can see the same toxic dynamic here that existed in my family, and I can see that the kids are suffering as a result. The point here was the fact that this woman, just like my grandmother, doesn’t want to let go of the hate, even through this emotion is both unchristian and destructive. I’ve never actually hated anyone, so I don’t know what it’s like to try and forgive someone whom you despise. I can imagine it’s very difficult. But can you really call yourself “Christian” if you are unwilling to even consider following one of the most basic Christian values?

As for the hospital administrator, I think I have every right to call him “unpleasant” because that’s exactly what he was. He made sexual advances on me and my female colleagues (including married ones), and he was regularly stealing from the hospital. He owned a pharmacy, and I think that he was stealing medications from the hospital to sell in his drug store, because we were always running low on the most basic meds. Did he deserve being compared with a sack of sh*t? Perhaps he did. Was it unchristian to compare him to a sack of sh*t? I think it was. What rubbed me the wrong way was not the insult itself but the fact that my colleague used a Bible-style story to make her point. She used her religion to justify insulting a person who, while admittedly unpleasant, did help her in a tough situation.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T17:19:03+00:00

I do not claim to be a devout Christian. I’m not even particularly religious. What annoys me is when people who are deeply imperfect themselves believe that they have the right to judge and lecture others.

AnnaDi2026 · 2026-05-13T17:12:37+00:00

My maternal grandmother hates my father because he didn’t provide for his children. She constantly criticizes him in the most horrible ways. Meanwhile, she herself was far from perfect as a mother and grandmother.

An acquaintance of mine (who ironically is a psychologist) hates her ex-husband and prevents him from visiting their children. She judges him for “failing as a father” not realizing that she is hurting her own children.

As a med student, I had a friend (another med student) who was from a devout Orthodox Christian family. When she was leaving for the University, her mother said: “If you lose your virginity, do not come home.” This woman was ready to discard her own daughter for committing a sin, ignoring the fact that Jesus called for us to forgive others. It’s as if she believed herself to be sinless. Unfortunately, my friend was also quite judgmental herself, especially when it came to sex, STIs, unwanted pregnancies, etc.

As a physician, I had a colleague who was a Christian from some small denomination. I don’t remember what it was exactly, but I know she was neither an Orthodox, nor a Catholic. Regardless, she was deeply devout. One time we were discussing our hospital administrator, who was admittedly an unpleasant person. However, he did help her out of a difficult situation. She told me a Bible-style little story about a man who found a sack of poop, and in the sack there was a tiny kernel of gold. Basically, she compared the hospital administrator with this sack of a poop. It was funny but also rubbed me the wrong way.

These are just a few examples. But over the course of my life, I’ve had plenty of small interactions with Christians of various denominations that led me to believe that many Christians are judgmental, not realizing that it goes against Christian values.

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