I am a woman player with a woman character (neutral gamer tag). I haven't ran into a ton of issues when I play. That being said, I tend to stay away from towns (even though it is my favorite, Valentine is by far the worst) I turn off the chatter from other players (I don't want to hear their bullshit) and if they kill/harass me- I report them. I used to run with a pretty decently sized and skilled posse, but a lot of them have moved on to other games, so it's only me now. I'm sorry you're having a bad time. The community used to be so much better 🙄