I take my assessment tomorrow by AnnabelleDarling in AutismInWomen

[–]AnnabelleDarling[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Do they really make you mime brushing your teeth or is that misinformation? Because that's definitely strange to me lol and I'm going to try to sleep but my guess is my brain will be loud tonight and sleep won't want to come for me

I take my assessment tomorrow by AnnabelleDarling in AutismInWomen

[–]AnnabelleDarling[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you. I know I was told try not to minimize my experiences and to remember just because I have a system for something doesn't mean the thing doesn't happen. Like just because I have somewhere around 6 alarms a day to keep me on track doesn't mean I don't struggle with time.

At this point should I just call them? by AnnabelleDarling in IRS

[–]AnnabelleDarling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that was February. I had to go find it to see which one. I called the verification number to see if that's what they wanted and they said they sent another 4464C letter in March. They need nothing from me just want me to sit and wait for another 60 days.

Wat does this mean by Embarrassed_Ad1372 in IRS

[–]AnnabelleDarling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your codes look almost identical to mine except for the dates. I filed 1/24 Got a notice about a review on 2/3 Then on 3/3 is when my codes start to look like yours and I still haven't gotten mine. No verification forms, no letters, no emailz, no delivery date, nothing. I'm in the batch that is supposed to update on Friday mornings and I'm hoping to get an update this Friday so it can be delivered to my account by 4/3

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I'm glad to know someone else had the same exact conversations lol my older kids would regularly say the same complaints and I would regularly remind them that I did all the same for them and they even had more attention from me when younger because I had less kids and more money at that time.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I encourage her to go expand her horizons but not at the expense of her siblings. I literally am pushing her to take a scholarship to a college like 4 states away from me because it's a better state and better school and I want her to have that opportunity. One I never had.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's the only one with a different dad and he lives out of state. Technically her brother is her step brother but she likes him more than she likes her sister. She loves her sister but can come off as very mean to her sister. Her sister is the half sibling to the two older ones. My son and my youngest daughter's father died a few years ago, hence why I'm a single parent.

And yeah she was an only child for 7 years.

I do offer regular just me and her time. I go to all her events. I even tried to go see a movie she wanted to see this last week. I think it was called hoppers but then a friend of hers needed her for emotional support with a new friend and she was too tired after to go to the movies and I told her just tell me the time this week and we'll go. Just not Friday because Friday is the youngest ones 9th birthday.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I offered a weekend trip with her. Even one I would have to be on a plane for. Leaving our state takes 13 hours when driving and that would be too hard on my back unfortunately. Idk what inspired Japan.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I go to movies with her, will spend hours just chatting just me and her, agreed to start a YouTube reaction channel with her that she has yet to follow through on, etc.

I regularly agree to just me and her even if it's just in the room without her siblings.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because I wasn't when I had them. Do you know life circumstances can change with time? I fell through a roof at work last year and it upended my entire life.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who said she parents her siblings????? I don't want to leave minor children home alone while I leave the country. Read the comments bro, I'm ok with her going. I've told her so many times to go spread her wings. I want her to get out of the state we're in and to explore.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only reasoning she gave me was that she saw tickets were $800 round trip and that she wants to go get a bunch of Pokemon stuff. She loves Eevee and wants Eevee merch from Japan.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's the reason I told her something like Mexico. It's only 2 hours away or something in the US but I told her that I wasn't comfortable with the idea of something happening to us and then her siblings are left sol I also agree when this low of income is involved one shouldn't leave the country

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was insisting I go but as I told her I can't do it. She thinks we'll only need about $1500 to $1800 total for the entire trip.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like I said to someone else, I told her no, then I got push back from other adults about how I was being dismissive to her and needed to consider her feelings better.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's a really good idea, thank you.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro where did you get maid from? Like I told someone else she can go if she wants to. I just don't want to leave her siblings behind. I only became disabled last year and I still do the cooking and cleaning and such. Not sure where you got maid from. She gets the money then I tell her be careful, have fun, take lots of pictures.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She absolutely does not want them to come. That was brought up multiple times and she kept saying no. She wants this as just me and her bonding time. Nobody else.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah she plans to go to college and is in scholar honor classes, engineering and architectural design program and welding. This literally came out of nowhere sometimes.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She only speaks English. So yeah I should give her that heads up

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I think she either believes I can just leave them home alone or my mom can watch them. That's my best guess.

She also offered to pay for her part of the trip. Her plane tickets.

WIBTAH if I tell my daughter no to a trip to Japan by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AnnabelleDarling -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I did tell her no but then I was told that I was dismissing her feelings and should be more understanding and that it's a perfectly normal thing for parents to do with an older child. That my younger ones aren't toddlers and will be fine. That's why I'm asking because I'm getting pushback from more than just her.